No Contact Support Thread. Post here instead of contacting your ex.

[TexasGuy12]

I miss you so much

[countryfeedback]

I wasn't sure if it was you, and it felt creepy to approach you on a dark trail. I walked back but you were gone. I didn't see your message till this evening. You scared me yesterday and I didn't get the gist of what was going on till I overheard you today. I feel guilty, I'm worried sick and I can't get hold of you.

[NIGHT1985]

I thought about you while shopping today, and all the memories of us shopping together, laughing, holding hands, and everything just hit me. I started picturing you doing all of these things with "him" now and tears started rolling down my face. You know I'm not much of cryer, but knowing I won't ever have you again, truly kills me inside.

 

I don't deserve you, I didn't deserve you before, but I miss you so much, it hurts, when will my torment and suffering be over? Why do I have to constantly be reminded of what I lost?

 

 

I still love you so damn much....

[Nox]

Who are you? After all we've been through, all the good stuff, how could you stab me in the back like that? I'm appalled enough that you stopped loving me and fell for someone else, but cheating on me with her for months? Or better yet - letting me believe for months that we were still together while in fact we weren't... Who are you? Who are you and how could you?

This could have been a fresh break up five or six months ago... I would already feel much better by now... You stole everything from me, my time, my energy, my emotions, my money, my trust, my life, everything!!!

And it feels so bad to know that I loved such a person for 3 years. I'm actually deeply disturbed if I could let you off the hook for every "minor" **** you created. Every. damn. time. All that mattered was that you still wanted to be with me, nothing else. Who cares if you would constantly break up over petty stuff, that you lied, manipulated, didn't care to work on our problems - all that mattered was that you loved me... And look where it brought me.

 

 

The longest time we ever had without any contact was 2 days straight. Today is the second day, again. Tomorrow - a new era begins. For my sake, I know I shouldn't care whether you call me or not, wether you think of me or not, and that will definitely not be my focus... But while I'm still a shattered, heartbroken and betrayed ex girlfriend, I'll allow myself this one last wish - I wish that, in days to come, you realize that there's only silence where I once was. And I wish for that silence to start bugging you. I wish that you gradually start remembering my love for you, and your love for me... And I wish that you start missing me. I wish for your love for me to awaken. I wish that all other feelings, namely your feelings for her, fade at the thought of me. And then I want you to suffer because you lost me.

 

There. I know it's pointless, and maybe unhealthy, and I should focus on postive and mature stuff and bla bla. But I really want this to happen. And for now just putting it out there is a relief.

 

 

I thought about you while shopping today, and all the memories of us shopping together, laughing, holding hands, and everything just hit me.

I fear this as well.

Edited August 29, 2016 by Nox

[smellysocksuni]

We didn't speak to each other, today - I decided to block your number, so I don't even know if you attempted to contact me or not. I have thought about you a lot today and it has been really, really difficult. I wish this wasn't happening but it is so I have to deal with it. I really do miss you.

 

I don't understand how you can act like I mean nothing to you but I suppose that's part of the whole detachment process, isn't it? I really have to keep reminding myself of all the things that were bad in our relationship, because I am in serious danger of romanticising you... the truth is that this 'you' I miss only really existed for ten minutes. You and I were not a good match.

 

I don't know how I will feel tomorrow but it's one day at a time....

[NIGHT1985]

Why do you still get to me? It's been over a year since we broke up... Why am is so broken, I know it's my fault, but why can't you be here to comfort me, instead of being with him... I know how selfish that sounds.... My bed is so empty, even with the dog that I gave you for your birthday(that you gave back to me once you got a new job) snuggled up with me. I'm gonna remain strong, I'm not gonna contact you, I'm not gonna push myself into your life anymore, I know you don't want me there. I'm a mess, but I'll be the confident, attractive, and funny guy that you fell in love with. I'll be all these things for another woman, because I know you want me to.

[smellysocksuni]

All I want to do is message you, tell you how much I miss you... but I know what your response will be. And even if you say it back, what would be the point of that? Nothing will happen, you won't come back to me.

 

I feel like you are happier without me - you've said that's not true, but from where I'm sitting, it is. Everything we had together means nothing to you. I can't believe this is happening. I just want you here.

[anduina]

It's likely over. You can't seem to understand why your actions were so hurtful. Not sure I can recover from this since a lack of understanding will translate to future hurts for the same underlying reason, a reason you can't understand.

 

I love you so much that I can barely breathe from the pain.

Edited September 3, 2016 by anduina

[Beautywithin]

I miss you its been 9 long weeks since you spoke to me, yet i have to see you every day, i thought i was doing ok, until i noticed you took me off fb, i torture myself by reading back on some of the emails you sent me, but its slowly making me realize what i fool i was for trusting you and what a liar you turned out to be.

 

i always said i would find this so much harder to deal with than you and i guess i was right, i will never understand why you have treated me this way, you know me, and if you had just told me you wanted to do the right thing, i would of understood! but instead you haven't spoke to me, wont look me in the eye and joke and flirt with everyone else,

 

I'll probably never quiet work out why you came into my life and then just like that.... went..... for haven't i suffered enough hurt,

 

I cry myself to sleep most nights i see your face in my dreams....

 

I hope one day you will be able to look me in the eye or even just say hi...

 

whatever you may have felt for me which couldn't of been a lot i still wish you nothing but peace & Happiness.

Edited September 3, 2016 by Beautywithin

[anduina]

Please

. Don't go. But I can't be with you like this. It's as if there's no good path through this.

[Bialy]

Ray - I feel so sad for you and wish you the best. The way things ended still surprise the hell out of me, but they happened for a reason - we just weren't meant to be together. Thank you for blocking contact. I've been longing for a new start with you that could never be. Wishful thinking on my part - some would say *crazy* thinking on my part. Too much has happened. I'm still surprised you are in the predicament you are in.

 

Why are you so dishonest? WHY? You do it so effortlessly that I think you actually believe the lies yourself.

 

I never want to see you again. It would have to be 20 years from now, when I'll be 54 and you'll be just turning 70. Maybe then we can look back and laugh at the mess we were in all those years ago. The only time you never lied was when it came to our shared hobbies.

 

And even then - would I want to see you? Maybe not.

[lexytheblasian]

We never actually dated but you left such a lasting impression on me.

 

This is only day 4 of NC and it's killing me. It's as if somebody dropped a ton of bricks on my chest.

 

I have a feeling you've already moved on. The thought of you talking to another woman the way you once talked to me... cuddling her, kissing her, having sex with her, texting her, calling her... it's unbearable and I can't take it.

 

I feel so pathetic, so helpless, so alone. All I want is for you to call me, ask me how I'm doing and say you're willing to give it a second try. I promise I won't mess up. I promise not to go psycho on you. If I lived closer to you I'm pretty sure I'd be at your doorstep, begging and pleading for you to at least talk to me. Pathetic and sad, huh?

 

Please, please, please come back.

[Ladiesdispare]

I lie here on your side of the bed so i do not wake up in the morning and look at the empty space where you used to lie.

 

Your office is empty and my heart hurting.

 

I love you dearly and I am sorry for not forgiving you sooner.

 

I have no doubt in my mind that I want to spend the rest of my life with you but it is too late.

 

 

You are gone and I am broken.

 

 

please come back to me.

[Ladiesdispare]

We never actually dated but you left such a lasting impression on me.

 

This is only day 4 of NC and it's killing me. It's as if somebody dropped a ton of bricks on my chest.

 

I have a feeling you've already moved on. The thought of you talking to another woman the way you once talked to me... cuddling her, kissing her, having sex with her, texting her, calling her... it's unbearable and I can't take it.

 

I feel so pathetic, so helpless, so alone. All I want is for you to call me, ask me how I'm doing and say you're willing to give it a second try. I promise I won't mess up. I promise not to go psycho on you. If I lived closer to you I'm pretty sure I'd be at your doorstep, begging and pleading for you to at least talk to me. Pathetic and sad, huh?

 

Please, please, please come back.

 

 

I hear you! You are not alone, I feel the same... it is so hard. Hang in there.

[anduina]

Even though we've fixed it, it's still broken. Trust is so fragile. I await the end with a tiny spark of hope. Don't let the flame die.

[sorano]

I am still surprised to this day on how you changed so fast and dumped me. I still can't believe that you didn't realize how much you hurt me and lied to me. To my family. To everyone I know. You lied. Yet, it's all my fault.

 

All those times you cried about your bad past. The boyfriends that treated you like crap. I believed it. I now know that I was just there to fill a void you had. A man that would treat you like a lady and would do whatever it takes. There are only a few men out there that can do that these days. As rich piana said, it's the 5% club. You never really cared for me. It was obvious. I was then thrown away.

 

I'm not perfect. Even if we argued over dumb things, or made a mistake, I would always be there for you. It wasn't a toxic relationship at all. We were good together.

 

You used to know me. Not anymore. The person who you met is gone. Some good changes and other changes I made may make me sound heartless and mean. Bc of you, I no longer want to date anymore. I'm disgusted with the whole scene. Same thing over and over. Same process on meeting someone. No more. I am done.

 

The universe has it's ways and whst goes around comes around. I am very disappointed in you and myself for believing in you. The lies were so great. I'm the sucker. I hope you do find whatever it is your looking for. All I know is that you have a lot of issues you need to work out. Your damaged. I cannot fix you. At the same time? I'll say it again. I will not ever, wish you well. Never. You fooled me and I will never forgive you.

 

I don't care what happens to you in the future, next relationship. I do care about the next guy. Please. Do not do to him what you did to me. Do not ruin another perfect man. Let him go and let him be. As for you, I don't care what happens. God knows what needs to be done. Evil will feel the wrath of god.

[Ladiesdispare]

Day two of no contact...

 

Day two after you turned up with a van and removed the majority of your stuff from our home.

 

Day two after you told me you loved me but needed to go.

 

 

Today has been mixed. This morning I had a panic attack in the toilets at work followed my an afternoon of checking facebook to see how long it had been before you were last active, followed by an evening of letting my emotions get the better of me resulting in puffy eyes and the sound of whimpering.

 

I miss you, I miss your whit, your smile, your stunning brown eyes and the way you used to look at me.

 

Id do anything to get you back, Id give my leg to spend another night with you. To cuddle you on the sofa and to tell you home much you mean to me. I realise the error of my ways. I see what I have done wrong and I swear I will never take anyone for granted again.

 

 

If only you gave me a chance to show you, a chance to share your life.

 

I am lonely and I am afraid.

[Beautywithin]

Another day of you not talking to me and flirting with the new girl at work. have you any idea how much that hurts, i've even started looking for a new job as i just cant bare it anymore :(

[Ladiesdispare]

I see what we had, what was there beneath my very nose. We had a relationship.. we had fun and we enjoyed each others company but I was blinded by your mistake, blinded by my own insecurities and after all of that it has been lifted. I forgive you and I will always love you.

[Forever broken]

You treated me terribly, but I still love you terribly. I see you at work and I watched you pass by hoping you will turn around. But you didn't. How could you walk away with your heart intact and take mine with you? Is been a year already and I cannot get over you. They say you never cared or loved me. They say you will never call me, but I hope someday you will, to explain why you treated me cruelly.

[Ladiesdispare]

Today is the day I decided I would not give up, I would try and get you back as it is the only thing I know I want… I cant let you go without trying but I cant message you or call you either. I desperately want you back but I want to give you space but I need to speak to you before it is too late. Before you move on and before you give up completely.

 

I will wait until Thursday, then I will speak to you.. then I will try.

[NotASkunk]

This thread is a great idea. I have had trouble with going no contact because of unresolved issues that I desperately wanted to get cleared up in the relationship that I was in. I realize that those issues will never be cleared up and that I am just prolonging a painful situation by needing that sort of closure. I miss my ex terribly and I will always love him very much. But what's done is done and it is over. I had hoped that we could remain friendly but that is not something that he wishes for and I have to respect that. It feels good to be cresting the hill and getting to the other side.

 

Anyway, appreciate the support of this thread very much.

[Beautywithin]

It's finally time to say goodbye and let you go, i so don't want to let you go... but i saw something happen today and it proved to me everything you said to me was all i lie ( i guess i needed to see it )... i can't keep letting you make me feel like this, my biggest regret is letting you in ( its so hard to let people in but you were meant to be different my heart trusted you) ... i told you some of my deepest secrets. do you even remember ?! probably not.

 

I'm more broken than ever and i know things will get easier for me, but i won't ever forget how you made me feel and even though it meant nothing to you... it meant the world to me.

 

you used to have the knack of making me smile without even trying - now you're just somebody that i used to know.

[Bialy]

Why didn't you just tell me in July that you appreciated meeting me that evening and that you were at a good place in life? That would have been a nice way to wrap things up and give us both a sense of closure.

 

Instead you lied, lied, lied. And for what? Because you thought you could string me along and keep me in your life and pretend you can make changes?

 

You make changes and decisions at work. In your personal life, though, you've always been so cowardly and indecisive.

 

I don't doubt that you love me. We have always had tangible chemistry and a strong connection. But you didn't love me and respect me enough to be honest and forthright. And that's just sad.

 

I've only ever been honest to you. And you know I wear my heart on my sleeve and you still strung things along.

 

I'm over "us" --- but I just wish sometimes that you were a stronger man and would have told me the truth.

[countryfeedback]

You won't get another chance, frankly speaking I'm not putting myself in that position again. Four years of my life wasted trying to repair something that never was, it's time for me to invest my time into myself. If you're uncomfortable seeing me around you should get a new job, I'm not responsible for your feelings. I don't owe you closure.