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Baileylovesloki

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4 solid months of no contact...

Felt like a rock star all day...

No contact did not bring my ex back but it helps heal the dumped person, helps rebuild self respect and self esteem.

Self Esteem your narrcasitic attention seeking ex takes from you and from me.

It reduces the thought s of your ex which helps reduce the obsession that is ignited after you have been rejected.

 

if you practice n/c you not only make your brain healthy and rebuild yourself. Your ex can never say, he/she was weak, or needy or stalked or bothered ... they were strong they just moved on... that will be there last memory you create for them. And it will be a positive one. There next victim may make a fool of themself and your ex will say. Hey. He/she never acted like this, maybe I was wrong leaving them.

Some one sent me a text about my ex this evening and it made me feel ill.

Felt like vomiting. Felt like messaging "it" to tell "It" off. But I won't, I'll keep my self respect bye not giving into my urges and playing games.

 

Regardless I still feel sick. Still feel curious, still hanging on to hope.

I will continue with n/c and tell myself it's

Her or "it's" loss and I will meet some one better.

 

If anyone reads this I have done both after being dumped. Begged and contacted, tried to work things out, it only creates more suffering and prolongs healing.

N/C is a much better road to travel.

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RyanO1991

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NC for twenty something days now. Today was the first day that I lost count. Good sign, I think.

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Osmium13

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When you're close it's like someone's hooked me up to an IV love drip. Then you're gone and it's ripped out of my arm, leaving me with the worst come-down. Every bloody time.

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Baileylovesloki

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I realize that any contact cause stress. Even third party info from a moron makes me wonder what's up, what's the real meaning behind what she said.

I have not written on here in a while so I didn't have the urge to contact until some one brought her "it" up. Four months and I'm still not fully healed.

 

Your mind puts them on a pedastle your mind manifests how perfect they are your mind is creating this fantasy of them the same way a drug addicts brain messes with a addict

 

It's a addiction a addiction to a human being it's a attachment.

Any kind of contact is a fuel that ignites the addiction.

The cure to this addiction is time ... longer than four months for me. and finding yourself, loving yourself and not needing someone to fill the void.

 

Wonder if our perfect exes

 

Are Suffering the same way we are.?

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Baileylovesloki

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If anyone is out there and suffering hardcore! Your not alone!

It does get better !

I know that the only people that understand what you are going through are people going through it themselves.!

It can be intense at times I remember my body shaking trying to ignore

Msgs from that beast that bit me!

It has got to be one of the most bizarre intense experiences of my life!

If your struggling your not alone. Don't be ashamed to ask for help.!

I seriously feel for anyone going through this!

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Kelley

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Happy Birthday, I know you are not spending it with me and I do go through phases of really hating you, but today I miss you, and yes I still love you. I wish it could have been me that you kept in your heart but it wasn't meant to be. I won't be sending you a message today as I'm moving on too, and it will just set me back. So happy birthday you, love (for now) me.

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Bialy

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I no longer cry over the end of us. Too many issues and complications. Recently, I've been reading our email exchanges from 2010 and 2011. We wrote ourselves some seriously emotional and love-driven emails.

 

I just wonder sometimes. I don't cry over us, but I just wonder. Time flies. Life is weird.

 

The only thing that really bugs me is that you are so much more older than me. Even though we are over, - a part of me is still bothered by the severity of losing contact completely. I worry that you will pass on and I will never know it. So many of the men in your family passed in their 60's and early 70's. You are not too far away from their ages. I honestly think it will hurt me more to find out 10 or 20 years from now that you've passed than this actual breakup.

 

I'm rambling. I'll cut this short.

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RyanO1991

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Was I really a bad boyfriend? Is that really why you went with another guy? If it is, why did you say I was an amazing guy?

 

I did my best to help you through your depression - I tried to make you smile, I never let go of your hand so you knew I was there, I gave up my job... Why did you tell your friends but not me?

 

If you'd told me what you needed, I would have done it. Every promise I made I kept and you know that. Whenever you told me what you needed, I gave it to you.

 

Sometimes I think that maybe I was a bad boyfriend, but other times I think you're blaming me to make yourself feel better about seeing another guy behind my back.

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DrReplyInRhymes

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Was I really a bad boyfriend? Is that really why you went with another guy? If it is, why did you say I was an amazing guy?

 

I did my best to help you through your depression - I tried to make you smile, I never let go of your hand so you knew I was there, I gave up my job... Why did you tell your friends but not me?

 

If you'd told me what you needed, I would have done it. Every promise I made I kept and you know that. Whenever you told me what you needed, I gave it to you.

 

Sometimes I think that maybe I was a bad boyfriend, but other times I think you're blaming me to make yourself feel better about seeing another guy behind my back.

 

Hey, another guy is finally getting it!

 

Move on fearless friend!

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Blastoplast

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I'm still confused over all this... Literally the night before you broke me the news that you wanted to break up you were putting your arms around me, telling me how much you love me -- you seemed so happy. I don't know what happened, or what changed. I want to know, but maybe I don't.

 

I feel like there's some personal failure you're having, but you're putting the blame on me. I did my best to be as supportive as I can, always showing my love for you. This just feels like you gave up or ran away. You can't always run from your problems

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I'm sorry I had to block you again for the what seems like 50th time.

 

I just can't let you keep creeping back into my life. You abandoned me...then want to come back every 3 days for an ego boost even though I have told you numerous times to leave me alone so I can move on.

 

Then you said you were going to come see me for my Birthday...you spent two days messaging me non stop pretending you cared about me and my life...only to show me you were just playing games yet again. You couldn't pick a date or time...it was all just BS to keep me from moving on. So now you are blocked again...and I just look at my phone hoping to hear from you even though I know I won't.

 

I wish I didn't love you anymore. There is nothing I want more right now than to be free from this pain.

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RyanO1991

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I feel like there's some personal failure you're having, but you're putting the blame on me.

 

I reckon you've hit the nail on the head there, mate.

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I can't wait til I'm able to wish you all the very best. Til I feel kinda sad thinking that you might be still hung up on what we had.

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I can't wait for the day in which none of this will matter.

 

I assume you'll marry her soon. How I wish to be able to fully move on by then. :(

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Literally the night before you broke me the news that you wanted to break up you were putting your arms around me, telling me how much you love me -- you seemed so happy.

 

I feel like there's some personal failure you're having, but you're putting the blame on me.

 

It seems you've got it figured out. I know where you're coming from and it sounds familiar.

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Kelley

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I found a lovely part of the Dorset Coast today, somewhere we haven't been before. You would have loved it, a really nice walk, and the sea was choppy, some lovely waves. I sat out looking at the sea, like we used to, but this time just me and Cooper, I wrapped my arms around him. He is getting bigger going on 6 months now, and he actually swam in the sea with me today. It was amazing seeing him swim for the first time, I'm looking forward to him being even bigger so we can go on more adventures together.

 

I thought about you a lot today and cried, and even though you betrayed me, my heart still misses you. I think it's more the companionship, the affection and my best friend rather than you as a person. I could never forgive you now, you made your choice and I hope you are happy with it. I'm moving onto better things.

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Kelley

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I really want to get in touch today, not sure what I would say to be honest. I think it's just because I'm tired and feeling really sad today. They say losing a relationship is like going through drug withdrawal. I guess my fix would be messaging you, but to what end? I guess I just have to get on today, I won't message you, I just need to carry on Day 7 NC!

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RyanO1991

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Before we broke up, you told me you had nightmares about me leaving you.

 

Last night I had a nightmare where we met and you were considering getting back together with me. You were still playing your game, explaining that you were still deciding between him and I. When I told you I didn't want to be with you, you did your usual routine of storming to the bedroom, laying on the bed and crying.

 

Who would have thought that even in my dreams you still stuck your head in the sand when things get hard?

 

I won't lie - I woke up upset. But then I realised what a lucky escape I had.

 

I've been clearing out for the house move and found lots of stuff they you gave me - gifts and Valentine's cards. Trying to decide whether to throw them away or just leave them outside your place so you can decide what to do with them.

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Nikki Sahagin

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It's been 8 years. I really loved you. I miss your friendship. You were so funny and you captured my mind in a way no-one else ever has. I miss you. I hope you are having a really great life.

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Kelley

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I'm taking Coop to his first dog training class tonight. You always used to moan about him pulling on his lead. He is going to do really well and do me proud regardless. I'm so glad I got him and he is mine, you never had the patience for him, and he knew it! My new best friend, some quality time who needs you!

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RyanO1991

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I went out with Chris and his girlfriend today. I was really glad to see them together. They make such a good couple and it's heartening to know that there really is love in the world.

 

Right now, I hate your guts. I have a sack full of stuff I've cleared out - Valentine's cards with messages of love, gifts and other stuff which was all based on lies. I want to drive over to yours and throw them on your doorstep. I wonder if you could look me in the eye and actually tell me the truth.

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