No Contact Support Thread. Post here instead of contacting your ex.

[newheart]

I understand I have no function or use in your life anymore, but why can't you just say goodbye?

 

This, times one hundred.

 

 

 

XBF: I will never understand how we went from planning trips with our families on our last night together, to just never hearing your voice again after an absolutely ridiculous argument - our first. And after I acknowledged that you didn't want to talk, didn't know what to say ... you can't say goodbye? You are a coward. You twisted every word, my every good intention, to make yourself feel better for what a POS you've been for three weeks. My first 12 year old boyfriend and I had a more respectful break up.

[newheart]

Also, XBF, give me my stuff back! You've shattered and defied every expectation and belief I had about your character, but to not even respond about me picking up my personal belongings? A whole new low.

[Bialy]

Now you're just somebody that I used to know.

[Logo]

I miss your scent and your laugh and your smile. I won't dwell, though. The way things went downhill, what you did behind my back, how infatuated we were, it hurts. I'll try to remember us the way we used to be. It was a dream while it lasted.

[Blastoplast]

You have so many flaws I looked past, and I'm starting to be glad we're not together anymore. I don't think you'll find anybody better than me, so I can rest well at night knowing I did everything I could and you didn't do enough.

[Logo]

You have so many flaws I looked past, and I'm starting to be glad we're not together anymore. I don't think you'll find anybody better than me, so I can rest well at night knowing I did everything I could and you didn't do enough.

 

I feel the same way about my ex.

[Kelley]

Ex partners play an important role in our destiny. They make us see what we definitely don't want, so what we do becomes clearer. Thanks for the lesson!

[Logo]

I wish you had been more open and honest with me. I don't know if it was all just a game for you or if you truly had good intentions until life got in the way for you.

 

I don't hate you. I just want you to know that what you did and how you went about doing things toward the end was a s*** way of dealing with whatever it is that was bothering you.

 

I deserved better. Maybe one day you'll realize it and see how you could have done things differently if you only had the intentions or whatever it is you lacked.

[guest569]

I don't really have much desire to contact you these days. It seems to have gotten easier knowing how cold you are towards me now. You're not the same person that I met in 2014, that polite and handsome gentleman. You're not the same man that I started dating, that warm, loving, attentive, grown man. I can't believe what you put me through, considering you loved me and were so eager at the beginning. What we broke up over was your nasty friend and you will never admit that. You will carry on treating her like the most important thing in your life for eternity. No woman can ever get between you two.

[Kelley]

I received your letter today, it's rare people put pen to paper these days. I'm sorry you don't feel the same connection for your girlfriend and that you miss me. I believe you, when you say you love me and you made a mistake. I'm sorry though, I can't go back, even though I still love you, you have betrayed me, and it's just not the same. How can I look at you knowing you slept with her, held her like you held me, I guess you are betraying her like you did me too! I'm looking forward to the day I'm fully healed and I can trust another man again. I hope you have learned a valuable lesson like me, sometimes the best way is the hard way!

[Osmium13]

Well, this was unexpected. I think I'm over it.

 

The strange thing is, the effort it's taken has made me completely devoid of any romantic feeling towards anyone. I have no desires, no lust, no visions of who I want to be with. Emotions are still there, but not those ones. Weird.

 

You appear to have vacuumed-out my ability to love - and the want to be loved. I hope it's a temporary thing

[DarrenB]

You can flirt with all the boys you want, but none of them combined will give you the love and affection I had. You're going back to your old ways, why? to get back at me? because you're doing everything possible to move on? we both know how that affected you before I met you. You know exactly what repercussions that took place on you because of doing this.

 

If you would honestly throw everything a way, a secure love life, income, protection, future and care, which you could have had with me? just so you can continue being another one of the generation to flirt with everyone under the sun until you find someone like myself and treat them so poorly? then fine. But you will be the one who will regret it in due time, and I won't be there for you anymore. I will be gone, and you will be left to perish in the sins you have committed.

[RyanO1991]

I realise now how self-indulgent you are. I blamed myself for you feeling miserable, but what did you have to feel miserable about? You've got loyal family and friends and you had a man who loved you and wanted to spend the rest of his life with you.

 

I know depression isn't something that can be fixed and has nothing to do with what goes on in your life - it can't be fixed or controlled from the outside. But what did you expect me to do? I asked how you felt. I asked how counselling went. I gave up my job to spend more time with you and support you. I took you to places I know you loved and felt comfortable with to bring you as much joy as I could. If you had problems at work or college, it was always me suggesting ways of solving them.

 

Yesterday, I met three people who were Really going through it. I spent the night talking and listening to them, supporting them as best I can. They have so much going on in their lives but they've got so much strength and dignity. It made me realise how trivial our problems really are. They were inspiring.

 

Whenever I feel down or angry, I think of those amazing people I met yesterday and realise how lucky I am to have what I have. I hope that one day you wake up and stop taking things for granted.

Edited October 28, 2016 by RyanO1991

[Kelley]

I don't miss you, I miss the companionship, my best friend, holding hands going for long walks and cuddling. I miss what we had, but I can find that again with someone new when I'm ready. You almost broke me but not quite, and I hope you learned a valuable lesson that the grass is not always greener on the other side!

[BevGB]

I miss you so much. The pain is absolutely crippling metaphorically and literally. As much as I want you back I know we both need time and space right now. I just wish I knew how you were doing.

[DarrenB]

Happy Birthday Skye. Have a lovely day.

[RyanO1991]

Was back at the shopping centre we used to go to today. But not once did I actually think about you while I was there. I went shopping with a big smile on my face and I don't even know why. I just hope the happiness is real and not just my subconscious trying to keep me safe.

 

I was driving home through the countryside like we used to and suddenly felt my stomach drop. But I realised it wasn't because I missed you - it's just that this route is so associated with going home with you that for a second I was worried about going back to your place. I realise now that's the last thing I want.

 

I think I'm over you now. A while ago, there was nothing I wanted more than to go to your place and hold you. But today, I was completely repelled by that idea and was grateful that I was going back home.

[Kelley]

I dreamt about you last night, and we had a huge fight. I got to let everything out, why you could cheat on me and then choose her when you said you still loved me. I just don't get it? We had such a good life together, we were best friends and we could tell each other anything, yet you couldn't tell me you were that unhappy. I'm hurting after that dream this morning. It's just me trying to figure out what went wrong. I try to blame myself but I didn't cheat, I didn't string me a long for 3 months using me until you jumped ship with her. It's not my fault, you are responsible for your own actions. You really ripped my heart out but you know what, the heart is a muscle, it will grow back stronger! I hope she was worth losing me for, you will never find another me!

[Sunnymae]

I'm coping by trying to be okay with it. (breakup 6 months) I've stopped being angry, upset and hurt that you changed your mind about us, that you sort of kinda used me to get through your divorce, then so matter of factly announced that prior to your divorce women were not interested, but now that you're divorced women are interested.

 

It's your right to change your mind. I'm just mad at myself for getting caught up in the idea of having a future together. I feel stupid for being fooled, I really thought better of you. I guess you've taught me a valuable lesson, to look at the red flags, not get caught-up in the moment. I know I'll never love the same again, It'll it take a long time to ever trust anyone again. I did not realize what a narcissist you are.

Yeah, I was upset, very hurt at first that you changed the way you felt about me, or actually it was just you acting, I don't know if you're capable of love. But, whatever it's your prerogative to be rude, uncaring, egotistical, liar. I know you'll say "oh I just said I loved you as a friend" or "But don't you see I can't settle down now I have all these women after me, and we have nothing in common" these phrases are forever etched in my brain.

 

I hope all your dreams and aspirations of dating come to a screeching halt and that you hit the wall and when that happens don't think I'll be here waiting. I've seen the light, and there's no turning back.

I believe we basically enjoyed our time together, but I guess you felt there was something more meaningful for you out there. Good luck, you'll need.

[Logo]

She was a manipulative, selfish, c*** who did whatever was good for her. If it wasn't good for her, if it didn't serve her interests, she didn't do it. In the last few months of the relationship she turned into something different. Then in the last few weeks she turned into a cruel b***. I feel like contacting her and telling her everything I didn't say when I broke up with her, but she's not worth my effort, my breath or a single f****keystroke.

 

I'll cherish the memories, not the person. I have good memories from early in the relationship, but as a person, she deserves nothing but spite for what she did and how she went about doing it. F**** off!

 

Love means compromising and sacrificing and respecting. You have no idea what love is. You think f****ing someone is the same as loving them. You're an adult with a teenager's brain.

Edited November 5, 2016 by Logo

[Kelley]

I received your last letter but I didn't read it. Nothing you can do and say will ever change what you did and how much you hurt me. You will just have to live without me, like I have to live with the fact the man I loved with everything I had and wanted to spend the rest of my life with, betrayed me.

 

I'm doing much better these days, I will always remember the happy times and I wish you all the best and I hope that you find peace and happiness one day. Take care D.

[cucumber95]

Today I woke up thinking that 2 months ago I would be seeing you in 30 mintues, and I am in so much pain that it did not work out. I miss you so much I hope you are happy, and that you did not forgot about me. I love you.

 

I really don't think I will ever stop loving you, you were and are my true love.

 

I hope one day, you decide to not hate me, and you would contact me.

[Logo]

I received your last letter but I didn't read it. Nothing you can do and say will ever change what you did and how much you hurt me. You will just have to live without me, like I have to live with the fact the man I loved with everything I had and wanted to spend the rest of my life with, betrayed me.

 

I'm doing much better these days, I will always remember the happy times and I wish you all the best and I hope that you find peace and happiness one day. Take care D.

 

She wished me well after she betrayed my trust. It made me feel angry, weird and used all at the same time.

[Logo]

And I still miss her. I feel bad about how angry I get sometimes at the way she betrayed my trust and at how I feel toward her. One minute I'm thinking "f****her", the next I'm thinking, "I miss her and want to be with her".

[Kelley]

I feel exactly the same after my ex betrayed me and cheated. It is really hard to deal with, the love and anger. But I have been better, I forgave him and my anger has subsided. The love will fade in time, I'm done feeling like the victim, moving on!

 

 

And I still miss her. I feel bad about how angry I get sometimes at the way she betrayed my trust and at how I feel toward her. One minute I'm thinking "f****her", the next I'm thinking, "I miss her and want to be with her".