No Contact Support Thread. Post here instead of contacting your ex.

[picnicinthepark]

I miss everything about you. I'm having a hard time coping but I am trying my best to move on. I didn't think about you today until I realized that I hadn't thought about you. I never want to forget you.

[SixxChick]

I saw you today. It’s been a year and a few months since I left you, leaving MY money in your hands at the club to get us more drinks, only to distance yourself away from someone who was dancing with you.

 

Today, we were both at stop signs at a fateful crossroad. I felt nothing but rage as I turned right and you kept going straight. I wondered to myself if your new toy is sick of supporting your sorry ass, because I know you are still broke.

 

I allowed myself to be just a sugar mommy to you. But, what does that make you? A prostitute.

 

I hate you more than I hate myself for allowing it to happen. When the money stopped flowing, poof ... you were gone.

 

I'd like to think I threw the leech back into the mucky swamp water where it belongs. But, no.

 

My only regret is calling your children brats. But, they are. Because it's YOUR fault. After three years, you still cannot put a roof over their heads. I tried. You told me that they loved me. You lose.

 

I'm done with leeches. And I can't believe, or I am sorry, that I loved one.

 

It hurt me to see you today.

[hermitcrab]

I can't be your friend, please stop pushing it. Why would you expect that from me anyway?

You know how much you have hurt me, and expect me to act like nothing happened and we can get along just fine? Those days are gone. I remember when you told me you love to rub it in your exes faces when you get a new girlfriend. You think I want to be in your life to experience that?

[picnicinthepark]

I'm afraid to sleep because I still dream of you.

[Kayley]

I don't even think I want you back anymore but god I want to talk to you so badly. I just miss our chats, the way you could cheer me up just by sending me a message.

 

Don't you even care anymore? You said you wanted to be friends yet it's been over a month and nothing.

[VeveCakes]

just writing to say....I'm done with you.

 

All that chasing.

All those tears.

All the snaps, texts, pics,...and telling you how much I miss you and love you and you just eating up every moment.

 

Well I'm done now. In a few years when you realize what you had and lost, don't bother coming looking for me. I will have forgotten who you even are.

 

At last...I am free.

[Kayley]

It's 20 to 9...first real urge I've had to contact you all day has finally hit. I really don't want to get back together, I just miss having you in my life. I just want a quick conversation, something.

[RyanO1991]

I just wanted to say thank you. I feel totally free now and I haven't thought about you in months.

 

But the biggest thing I have to thank you for is now my life turned out. I gave up my job for you before the split, but now I've found an even better one. I didn't realise how good I am at my job. If you hadn't done what you did, I would never have had that opportunity, so thank you!

[Kayley]

I just miss you I'm supposed to be going for drinks with a guy tonight & I don't want to go. All I can think about is you. I remember being so excited before our first date and I don't feel that now. It's the worst struggle not to just text you. Just to see what you say...

[Kelley]

I heard a person is removed from your life for a reason. You were removed so I could find the strong and confident me again. I love being single and my life is doing just fine without you. I have applied for a new job with more responsibility and of course money! You always said not to go for it, so we could spend more time together. You always held me back, even from going to the gym most nights and then you would say I was gaining a bit of weight! You were not good for me, yet I loved you with all my heart. The love has faded, I have moved on. I'm loving my life, so thank you to the woman you cheated on me with, for turning your head, she did me a favour taking you from my life. I heard you didn't last long together pity you deserved each other!

[Kelley]

He cares only the scumbags keep in touch to prolong the pain. Take his silence as care, so you can heal and move on.

 

 

I don't even think I want you back anymore but god I want to talk to you so badly. I just miss our chats, the way you could cheer me up just by sending me a message.

 

Don't you even care anymore? You said you wanted to be friends yet it's been over a month and nothing.

[picnicinthepark]

I remember exactly a year ago when I surprised you for your birthday -- I had convinced you that I wasn't coming. I remember it like it was yesterday. I was waiting at your doorstep that night and it was foggy. You were carrying groceries in both hands and you dropped them when you realized it was me. The look of pure joy in your face is something I will never forget.

 

I wish you the happiest of birthdays but I won't be reaching out because it is too hard for me and I need to move on and live my life. I wish you nothing but the best in your life and I thank you for our time together.

[Kayley]

I wish I had never met you. The good times you gave me and the lessons I learned are not worth this pain.

[DarrenB]

I'm really missing you, I'm making every attempt possible though to not think of you. I know I can do nothing, I guess that's where the hurt lingers on during the day and night.

 

Maybe I should have been more attentive, maybe I should have cared and put more effort even when I feel as if I couldn't.

 

You've taught me so much. You no longer care though, so... why should I?

[mano]

And today again the urge of reaching out to you is very strong but I've promised myself I'm not gonna do it. I miss what we had. I can't help but stalk you on social media and today I've decided firmly I'm gonna let go for real.

What hurts the most and makes it hard is that I can see you do feel for me but you're resisting us and trying your best to kill it and deny your true feelings. I have done enough begging and made a fool out of myself. Can't do no more. Never expected you'd abuse me like that. Just was too painful seeing it coming from you. Been a week of no contact but I'm sure after a month I'll be much more stable. I have to accept things and live with the pain eventually I'll grow out of it. I don't know what happened all of a sudden man. I need to stop thinking about it over and over again. What's meant to be will be. I'm letting go for real. Need to heal.

[idlesadness]

I tried so hard for you. You didn't try at all, even though you said I was the love of your life. You said to remain friends. I tried to be friends but you ignored me like I didn't exist. I swear to God, I'm getting over you. I'm going to commit myself to NC. Have a happy Christmas and New Year's without me. One day, you're going to regret this.

Edited December 11, 2016 by idlesadness

[picnicinthepark]

Happy birthday

[hermitcrab]

I'm bitter at you still. You criticized me so much and put me down constantly. I never once made a comment about your appearance flaws, because I cared about how you felt. Why couldn't I get that same care from you? You also made fun of my depression, now I hope you are suffering it yourself so you can develop some ****ing empathy for people. You are a mean person.

[breakupthrowaway663]

I heard you feel like you made a mistake losing me.

 

I heard you feel like I was the one and you lost me.

 

I heard you got a DUI and went to court.

 

I heard you're in a dark place and need another month or two just to find yourself again.

 

I heard you're seeing a guy I work with on weekends. But he's not half the man I am. You threw away our relationship for him? Selfish cheat.

 

I heard you're miserable.

 

I hope you hear I don't care anymore about your feelings. Wallow in your pity party. I will turn the pain you gave me into growth. You may soon rue the day you decided I wasn't fulfilling enough anymore.

 

I hope you hear if and when you come apologizing I will no longer be listening.

[StrangerThanFiction]

I'm trying to muster up the courage and strength to block you on social media. Yes, I know we're trying to do the friends thing and we had a nice long casual chat on Friday via phone, but I know that if I have access to what's going on in your life right now it'll make letting the relationship we had go so much harder. Thinking about signing into Facebook and seeing your relationship status changed from single, or seeing you flirting with another woman, or seeing that your life is so happy and fulfilling without me in it would devastate me. I still don't get how you think that I could easily go from being the woman you apparently loved to "just a friend" overnight. Maybe you can turn off your feelings like it's nothing, or maybe you never even loved to me begin with, but I can't do that, and I did and do love you. When I love, I love completely and with my whole heart. I don't see the point in doing anything less.

 

Remember when we broke up that first time a couple months ago? I immediately blocked you on FB because I knew that that would be the only way I could move on. You texted me first thing the next morning angry that I did so. I asked you why I would keep the man that dumped me as a friend on FB. You said because we were adults. That still doesn't make sense to me. I felt that what I did was the adult thing to do. I knew that that was what was best for me. I didn't want to leave an opening through which I could be hurt more. So that's why I think I have to do that again.

 

Keeping you on social media does nothing but keep that tiny flame of hope that you might change your mind and realize that you do want a future with me alive. Seeing your posts just keeps you at the forefront of my thoughts. I guess that little flame of hope makes me not want to do it because I'm afraid that if I'm out of sight I'll be out of mind and my heart doesn't want you to move on. I also don't want to be just friends with you right now. I think that until I'm satisfied with being just friends that we need to go complete NC. I know I need to do this, but god, I just don't feel strong enough. I think a part of me hopes that I'll see you flirting with another woman, or you in another relationship because that would kill that last spark of hope and help me to close the door on the relationship we had because it would then be well and truly over. It would unbelievably hurt, but it would really make it real. I'm just so messed up right now.

[AT15]

You never loved me.

[Trinity_84]

I know we exchanged a couple of friendly messages recently but I really don't want to do that again. Nothing against you, I just can't be arsed. I'm leaving you in the past and I mean that in the best of ways.

 

I realized today it's been 10 months since we broke up. Hard to believe, althogh sometimes it feels like it's been years since I last saw you.

 

A lot of people say 2016 has been a horrible year, but I can honestly say it's been one of my better ones. Who would've thought that breaking up with you was going to make my life so much better? For the first time in my whole life I can honestly say I am actually enjoying being single.

 

So, again, thank you for the memories and for all your words back then when we were together and my life was in shambles. I am doing 100% better now. Maybe all it took for me to start loving myself was to be with someone like you and then lose you. Maybe that's what you were supposed to do in my life, to teach me a different outlook, made me see myself for what I really am. Thinking that made losing you a lot easier, cause I didn't really lose you, you just fulfilled your role in my life and now it's up to me to carry on. And I'm happy about it. Thank you.

[StrangerThanFiction]

So I sent you that message today telling you I was blocking you off Facebook and why. I told you that I needed to do it for myself and so I could move on. That we were still friends but that I needed time and space for myself in order to do so because I still had feelings for you and I couldn't be just friends while I did. I told you this wasn't forever, this was just for awhile while I focus on my life without having to have a daily reminder of you. I then told you not to respond to it, and you haven't. I appreciate it, but some part of me wishes you had. I feel like I meant nothing to you.

 

I'm having a hard time of letting go of hope and accepting that it's well and truly over. I'm thinking that I might go in to see a counsellor in the hopes that they can give me some perspective so I can do so. It's that hope that's killing me. I'm kind've wondering if I should block you on my phone for awhile too just so I'm not constantly checking it. God this is so hard!

 

I miss you so much and I still love you and it's eating me up that you don't. I wonder why I wasn't good enough. I need to let go of that and focus on me. Your feelings, or lack thereof, should not effect me anymore.

 

So, here we are. Day 1 of NC. I hope on Day 60, or hopefully even day 30, I can come back here and say how much better I feel and that I'm truly moving on. Fingers crossed.

[idlesadness]

Oh god, I miss you so much. Even if I broke NC, you probably won't talk to me because:

 

1. You think I should move on from someone not worthy of me at this point in time.

2. You don't want to be reminded of how awesome I am.

3. You don't want to cave in.

 

Why do you think you're so easily replaceable? We didn't even have to break up in the first place—you could have asked me to wait for you to change. You were already going to start therapy anyway. But you didn't want an extra burden in the form of me. I suppose you didn't want to disappoint me any more if you took a long time to sort yourself out. I really, really didn't mind waiting though.

 

This is hurting me so much. How could you expect me to move on instantly? Do you think my love is so cheap and fickle? I am so insulted. Sigh.

[DarrenB]

I loved, cared, protected and adored you... but it just wasn't enough, was it?

 

What more could you have wanted? what more could you possibly expect?