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Kayley

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I hadn't want to talk to you for a few days, maybe a week or so. I thought those urges were finally going away for good. Today I miss you some crazy amount again. I just want to talk to you one more time.

 

I'm not sure that I can ever move on properly without my answers because I just keep coming back to the things left unsaid.

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TheSwanGirl

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Today would be our 6th year anniversary. I know you didn't even remember, probably. I tried to occupy my mind by going to the movies, and treating myself.

 

I miss you. Sometimes I really do.

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TimmyC

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1-4-17

 

Remember how I used to write these little letters about how much I love you? Well today I've decided to write another letter...but a different kind of letter.

 

I miss you so much right now, it's been over two weeks and although I'm starting to heal I have my moments like today. I miss you so much I miss your voice your big beautiful eyes your lips, your cute texts I miss it all.

 

It's incredibly difficult for me b cause I know you went back to your ex the man you promised you'd never go back to...the man you found in bed with another woman. I feel as if I wasn't good enough, i know i didn't have a lot of money but I had my heart and I gave it to you because I truly love you. You said I never loved you when you broke up with me and that was so far from the truth.

 

I loved you more than any woman I have ever been with, we almost had a child together and I was there for you with your cancer I'll never forget the day you told me about it my heart was so broken...not just for me but for you because I could only imagine what you had to deal with... Now I'm stuck worried about if your ok I'll never know if something happens and that kills me.

 

I'm so flooded with emotions but in retrospect I theoretically cannot be mad that you went back to him because you always belonged to him... I have so many questions that still linger...why did you hide me from your family and your friends. Was all of this a lie, did you never love me? Whatever the case I miss you and think about you every single day. The memories of us together play in my mind over and over and over of the good times.

 

Just know that I will never stop loving you even if you never loved me to begin with...

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MeadowFlower

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Do you not even miss me or my friendship??? ?

Can you come back.

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VeveCakes

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I was pulling out of the parking lot at Walmart and saw a truck in front of me. It had a sticker that said "Forever Fearless - Zach Jackson 93-15". The same sticker that is an emblem you have tattooed on your shoulder for your good friend Zach that you lost last year.

 

Holy eff...was that one hard to see. It was an old man driving and since this isn't the area you and your friends live, it took me by surprise. It made me think about you and how much pain you went through when you lost your friend. Like the pain I am going through now that I have decided to be done chasing you and I will probably never see you again.

 

Old me would have reached out and let you know what I saw. 2017 me is not reaching out to you ever again no matter how bad I want to. I still miss you like crazy. I hope you are thinking of Zach and taking care of yourself. I still love you B.

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StrangerThanFiction

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You really are physically incapable of being honest, aren't you? You tell me straight to my face that you never messed around or cheated on me with another woman while we were together. Absolute bullsh*t! You're a dog who's never happy with what you have. You're always on the prowl for something more. I know you cheated on me with one of our coworkers, regardless of your protestations to the contrary, and I now know that you were messaging that chick you dated years ago the whole time we were together and that you were planning on hooking up with her as soon as you went home. Why the actual **** didn't you just end things with me before you left if that was your plan?? Better question, why did you pursue me so hard to get into a relationship in the first place?? What, you just wanted me as a place saver for this chick?

 

You are a selfish and have no morality except when you pretend to have it to make yourself look better to other people. Everything you do is for your own gain and screw the people you hurt in the process. You go on and on about how good of a guy you are and how your always a better friend to people than they are to you. Well maybe that's because the people that you value so highly are people just like you: users, manipulators, and liars. You strive so hard for their approval and care when they just don't give a rat's behind about you. Do you need their validation that badly? But then when you have people in your life that genuinely care about you you crush them under your heel and sh*t on them. You use them for everything they have and then throw them away like trash.

 

How dare you call me and complain about how your "best friend" treats you. Actually, how dare you call me at all! You want to be friends, huh? Why is that? Maybe that chick you left me for isn't treating you very well? Oh big shock there, buck! She's unstable and full of drama! But you crave her love oh so much because of it. Now you come crawling back to me for "friendship". No, you're looking for an ego boost. My friends are telling me that you're just trying to keep me as a backup plan. I believe it and I will NOT allow you to hurt me again.

 

I did that huge favour for you the other day because I was trying to be a good friend. Then I find out all this crap! Now I feel like a fool. You must've laughed so hard thinking that you still have me wrapped around your finger. Well, no more. You never deserved me. You don't deserve love. You deserve all the negativity that you've brought upon yourself. You are one of the worst men I've ever met.

 

I'm so angry at myself for letting you suck me back into your vortex of bullsh*t. I was doing so much better! I felt like I was starting to move on! You must've sensed it with your a**hole powers and contacted me just to reel me back in. You told me that you live by a code of honor and are a genuine person. Was this code written by Satan? And do you even know what genuine means? You're a sociopath with more issues than one can count in a life time.

 

I'm not going to say that I wish bad things on you because I'm better than that and I don't need that negativity in my life, but I won't cry if your life falls apart either. So take your lies, your manipulation, and your bullsh*t and shove it. Do not contact me again. I doubt you will anyway. I already did you that favour and I'm sure that was the only reason you reached out to begin with. I hope one day you'll see yourself for what you are instead of the lovely delusional illusion you've created for yourself in your mind. That's what I hope for you. But you've been this way for so many years that I can't see it happening. So, go to hell and leave me alone. I'm done.

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datingacheater29

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Things are looking up for me as of late. I got through the holidays, which was quite the struggle. But I'm dating some new people now and realizing how much fun it is to meet new people and share new experiences.

 

Every now and then I see the occasional missed photo hanging around on my phone and I want to message you. I find myself angry every now and then as well.

 

I'm going to make it a goal to try to help others on this forum for awhile. What I went through was awful, but with all the support I had I felt uplifted and back on my feet faster than ever. My heart may hurt for awhile yet, but I'm now looking forward to every day.

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Offspring

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Have just degraded myself for the last time. Told her why i would rather find somebody who loves me. I feel so humiliated and realise i have just added to her sociopathic need for control, but i can't do it anymore, settle for second best.

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elhacedor

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I miss you so much.

 

I would like to have you here again, in OUR house, and take care of you.

 

I know you feel exactly the same, and deeply inside I keep waiting for you to call me.

 

I don't want to forget you, because my love for you is so great and amazing and beautiful. And yet you decided to kill it by starving it, and I'm forced to forget.

 

I feel the urge to call you, and tell you once again how much I love you, and how much it hurts not having you here.

 

And I will do it. But not tonight.

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divegrl

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So today it snowed for the first time ever in the city we live in. We talked about about how we would visit the snow. How you would go snowboarding and I would be waiting for you in our cabin. And we would make love when you got back. And how you would wrap me up and hold me tight in your arms forever. You would keep me warm.

 

Was it all just a game for you? My heart hurts so bad. I keep wondering if you're with someone else. Wondering if you're making love to her. Telling her how much you love the snow. Telling her you never want to leave her.

 

Or maybe you're by yourself. Like you said you've always been. Maybe you just needed to be alone. I hope this is true. And I actually believe this more. You said you were never able to let anyone get close to you so maybe our love was too much.

 

I just don't understand. I so badly want an explanation. But whatever your reason is, it won't help me. It won't help me move on. I stil love you.

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Minneloa

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Dear (ex) (non) (boy) friend,

 

Yesterday I had a shift in perspective where I realized that our romantic connection and my feelings about what happened between us are not relevant anymore. It, whatever it was, is over, because you killed it, even if you made me pull the trigger. So it doesn't really matter if I am sad or regret what I didn't say or want you to come back or resent your long, self-justifying letter. Liberating!

 

Then this morning you text me, essentially, Hi, I miss you.

 

I wish I could assume positive intent, i.e., that you sincerely miss me, but a big part of me feels that you just want me to soothe your ego/guilt/loneliness. I wonder if you are shocked that I have the chutzpah to ignore you, instead of joining your little harem of "friends," most of whom seem to be exes or orbiters. Yuck. I truly hope that's not the case.

 

In any event, if you want me to engage with you, if you want anything more than an ego boost or absolution, you're going to have to step up your game. I am not going to respond to this lazy message and risk having you disappear or, heaven help me, deliver the "I don't want a relationship" speech for the 100th time. No way. I probably should have run the first time you gave it, back in September, but I was naive, and lonely, and hopeful. Not anymore.

 

So yes, I miss you, too. But it doesn't matter, unless you have more to say than these measly little morsels of nonsense.

 

M.

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VeveCakes

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I'm never going to get over you but that's alright....

 

LOL...same

 

but I also want to say...f*** you for acting the way you did and also you are an idiot for letting this slip away.

 

That is all...

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divegrl

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I don't understand why you did this. When I met you I was in the best place in my life. Everything was amazing and I was super confident. Maybe that is what attracted me to you. I told u how crappy my other relationships were and that I was finally in a better place. You promised you would never treat me like they did and you didn't. For 6 months everything was amazing. And you agreed. I met all your friends, I talked with your family, we basically lived together and every day you told me how much you loved me. And then you f****ng threw it all away.

 

You were the one to pursue me. Why did you chase me if you were just going to walk away. I wish you would have just left me alone because now I'm in a sh***y place. I talked with your friend today, and he said you love me and that I've been the only person you have ever really loved. But you're going thru some crap. This at least gave me some validation that our relationship meant something. I know what you do and I'm scared for you. I know you're under a ton of stress and you trust no one in your business.

 

I won't be talking to any of your friends anymore. It just hurts too much and I don't want any updates on you. I just want you to know that you hurt me. That you ignoring me hurt like nothing else. That I cried all night last night. That I lost one of my big clients today so now I'm struggling financially on top of everything else. I can't believe you will just walk away from us because you gotta "focus". I'm so angry at you right now. And you know I have every right to be.

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divegrl

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I now see the bad behaviors I displayed during our relationship. Towards the end I became emotional, attached and needy.

 

I'm sorry.

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not-again

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Why are you now so stubborn. You were always the one who expressed you feelings and emotions when you were down or upset and we would always talk it through and work it out. So why is it now you don't want to try and work things out or at least talk about it and see how we go from there? After 6 years you could at least try and work it out. I know it's been a rough year for me but you were always there for me and that's why I love you with all my heart. You were always there to support me.

 

Why have you changed from expressing your feelings to emotionally withdrawing from me? At no stage did you tell me you weren't happy for whatever reason. I would have dropped everything to ensure you were happy. Your happiness to me is number 1, then mine. I'm only happy when you are.

 

If you loved me for 6 years, at least have the courage and talk to me. At least have some compassion for me to have some sort of closure. At this moment in time I have nothing from you!!!

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I'm missing the old you. I miss our old life, everything back then was perfect. Please tell me what happened. What changed? My family adored you when they met you for the first time. We've been together for 6 years, I wanted to ask your father for you hand in marriage. I thought you were the one I've been waiting for my whole life. You were my everything. I have a million questions for you but I know not a single one will be answered, and that is what is killing me slowly...not knowing. My heart is still breaking for you. I just want it to stop.

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divegrl

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You were brilliant. I mean absolutely f**king brilliant. I've been thinking about my previous relationships a lot. My first was loyal. My second was adventurous. My third was caring. And you were so intelligent it blew my mind. And you had so much self control. You were disciplined and worked so hard and fought for your friends and fought for me. But I know our relationship was short, so I never saw the other side of you. Or maybe I never wanted to see the other side of you.

 

And I've been not doing so well. One of your texts after you left me was , I hope your happy. Well I'm not happy. And I'm not ok. And when I'm alone I feel like the pain will kill me. Yesterday I was out, and everything reminded me of you. And the hurt started bubbling up from my stomach. Up to my chest. I thought I was going to throw up but I didn't. The pain just sat there on my chest and it wouldn't leave. I wanted to just puke it out, but it just sat there.

 

And you always told me I needed to get my mind right. When I was upset you always said go work out and think about something different something you like. And it's so f***king true that's what I need to do now. Maybe that's it. You understood people. The way people ticked and the way you could just own a room. People were just drawn to you. It was so cool to see. But while everyone was talking to you, you were staring at me. With you arm always around me.

 

And you said I was to beautiful for you, and your friends said I was to beautiful for you. But I didn't care about any of that or what anybody thought because I loved you.

 

Ok 15 minutes done thinking about you. The rest of the day I'm going to try my hardest to think about me. Because I'm amazing, and I'm beautiful, and I'm loving, and I'm joyful and I'm faithful. And I deserve someone who will see all that in me.

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movingonmummy

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Dear Ex

 

You are a cheating lying manipulative c-word. I won't even give you the satisfaction of texting today. I'm feeling angry, but I already decided that I was forgiving and letting go so I could move on with my life.

 

Good luck with the new girlfriend, she looks nice - you probably don't deserve her.

 

It's pretty annoying - everyone says that cheaters liars etc get their comeuppance - it's really not true. They just move from one broken heart ready for the next. I'm just glad it's not me now.

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You were brilliant. I mean absolutely f**king brilliant.

 

What happened divegrl, if you don't mind me asking? Is there a thread somewhere on it?

 

Cheers :)

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