No Contact Support Thread. Post here instead of contacting your ex.

[countryfeedback]

I'm not sure if that was you that walked up to us, I had a few to drink. I miss you but I'll never give you the opportunity to hurt me again. What you did was disgusting, I guess I knew better by how you treated your ex husband. If I was a different person I would of smashed my bottle in your face, instead I'll just watch you ruin your own life.

[Little-Wolf]

I loved you. I looked after you so much when you were hurting and depressed. I cared for you every day, I spent so much money on little gifts just to make you smile. I feel like I'm drowning. You come on Whatsapp every now and then, though I'm forcing myself to stop checking. I don't know what you're looking for... I know you don't speak to anyone but me on there. Do you ever get the urge to message but think "No, because she deserves better?" Well I'm starting to think that.

 

My dog has her surgery next tuesday. You KNEW I was in bits about it. You knew she was unwell. You still know how much this is upsetting me and you haven't reached out. I miss you, but I have to remind myself that if you cared, you'd have gotten into contact by now.

 

Day 10 and still going strong on the NC.

 

I even cried over you this morning. I don't know why. It lasted a minute and the next I was getting on with my day.

 

I hate that you've done this to me. I hate that you couldn't fight for me, after everything I did for you. I hate that I still love you, even though every fiber of my being is telling me that you're an asbolute ****.

 

[Tone Loc]

Why aren't you talking to me? You must have lied when you said you cared about me. Thank you for not talking to me, I know you're doing me a favour. It's a good thing even though it makes me sad. I just don't understand how you're content to go all this time without contacting me. I wish I was strong like you. I hate the feeling of constantly wanting you, all the time. It never stops. I wish we could have had more time together, it was never enough. No matter how many years we spend together, it would have never been enough for me. I don't know how I'll get on without you.

[Jsos91]

The last month has just been me processing and processing and processing what happened between us and where we went wrong. I guess thats what happens when you're been blindsided and you thought you were happy.

 

Looking back now I really feel like you confused infatuation with love. Everything between us happened so quickly and was so intense. You were so romantic and said I love you so quickly its hard to look back and think it was all just based on a spur of the moment, there were so many red flags that I didn't know better to pick up on. I think we just burned out, our relationship ran its course in your eyes. I just wish you would've figured this out sooner than two months before the wedding. There were plenty of bad aspects of our relationship and the more I fall out of love with you the more apparent they become. I think I was just so blinded and so committed that I refused to see that maybe we just weren't right for each other. I can be a pretty stubborn person and I think I would've held on forever rather than just give up.

 

I'm doing well, Im looking forward to moving into my new place in a month. I have school starting in September and Ive joined a couple of hockey leagues in the fall. I know Im going to be okay and Im going to get through this. I don't hate you, not in the slightest. You came into my life and served a purpose and taught me a lot about myself and about relationships so for that, I thank you. You will always have a special place in my heart and in my memory and I think thats beautiful regardless of our outcome. I truly hope you find what you're looking for and you live the best life you can.

[bunnygirl95]

Did I mean anything to you? do you miss me? I can't stop missing you. Please just tell me you miss me. Just give me one more night with you, one more night to be in your arms. I can't believe this is my reality yet. I still wake up and think it's a bad dream. I still think you will show up randomly and want me back. Please just tell me you miss me a little bit. Give me a little bit of hope. I don't understand why we can't try again in a few months. I love you, and you love me. At least that's what you said. You said you still loved me. I love you

[bunnygirl95]

Why aren't you talking to me? You must have lied when you said you cared about me. Thank you for not talking to me, I know you're doing me a favour. It's a good thing even though it makes me sad. I just don't understand how you're content to go all this time without contacting me. I wish I was strong like you. I hate the feeling of constantly wanting you, all the time. It never stops. I wish we could have had more time together, it was never enough. No matter how many years we spend together, it would have never been enough for me. I don't know how I'll get on without you.

 

You put yourself out there. You gave someone your heart. You are strong. That was very brave of you. That's all I wanted to say. Hang in there.

[Tone Loc]

You put yourself out there. You gave someone your heart. You are strong. That was very brave of you. That's all I wanted to say. Hang in there.

 

Thank you very much it's really nice to read that, that's very kind of you. You hang in there too

[Tone Loc]

I'm missing you really badly at the moment. I don't know how I'm supposed to live the rest of my life without you. I don't want to live like that, knowing that you're out there somewhere, away from me. Every day is difficult and I'm always wishing you were with me. But you're not. We didn't have enough time together. I wish I knew what's on your mind and what you're thinking about. Hmmm.

[SarahRose]

I don't know how I feel about you. I love you and I hate you. I know you're not good for me. I tried my best and you betrayed me and broke my heart. It's hard not to contact you as we've been together every day for more than a decade and to just stop feels so strange. I know I deserve much better.

[the_lost_1]

I have no exes

 

sorry guys.....

[Little-Wolf]

I nearly messaged you today. I had to beg a friend to talk me out of it, who told me that if you ignored me or rejected the message, I'd feel 20x worse, which is true. Things are falling apart and I so needed you tonight. I miss my best friend.

 

You were the one I ran to.

You were my happy place, and I'm lost without you.

[Frostedflake]

Your aunt messaged me asking if we could talk. I guess I didn't think it was a big deal. Maybe, it is.

 

We've been talking for 40mins and I'm trying to be vague because I don't want anything to get back to you. I'm good, I'm terrible. Whichever you prefer. But I am not that guy anymore.

 

While she typed to me I glanced at your profile. It was the first time I had since your bf liked an old status with us together. I can only assume why he did and see that you've replaced him with another guy.

There's a new picture and you look.. well, I'm gonna be honest- You look terrible. :/ Your pupils were pins that didn't focus on the camera. The raging vein in your left nostril said you were still using. His hand on your skin and bone knee. The lines under your eyes banked twice as much. Like you haven't had water in weeks! And when I started to feel like I was watching an MTV documentary I clicked off.

 

I hope she doesn't ask me to reach out to you. I won't.

So go on, keep killing the girl I loved. I've already buried her.

[Phoenician]

I no longer look at you as a selfish lady ;

 

you need therapy ;

 

my therapist say that I am in the phase of missing my wife that seems never really existed ;rather than missing you as a person .

 

soon I will fly , and won't even care if you regret it or not .

[Little-Wolf]

14 days since I last saw your face.

 

Not a peep from you. I didn't expect anything else, although knowing that you know how poorly my dog is and not reaching out hurts like holy hell.

 

I have a "date" Thursday. Am I ready? Absolutely not.

 

He's aware of my situation. And he's also incredibly kind and we have a lot in common, and god knows I need kindness by the bucket load and someone to talk to right now.

 

Will it go somewhere? I have no idea.

 

I like him, but he's not you, my angel.

 

I miss you, and just thinking about you makes me tear up. I wonder if you miss me too. I wonder if you lie awake at night and think of all the times I was so wonderful to you. All the days we spent together laughing and falling in love. I wonder if you regret everything and won't reach out because you KNOW I deserve better than you.

 

I so wish things were different. I wish I'd met you down the line when you're older and more mature. I hate this. I still believe you're my soul mate.

[Frostedflake]

This week is already surreal.

I have to write this down because if I don't then I'm going to assume it was a dream. A really terrible dream.

 

She looks JUST. LIKE. YOU. I'm not even exaggerating.

Take the young college you but give her a few years and less terrible decisions and it's you. It's completely you and I'm going to lose my mind. I literally did a triple take when she approached and I'm 99% sure I dropped the f-word in this poor girls face thinking it was you. Like somehow you just evaporated in front of me and this is the Netflix version of Timetraveler's Wife called Timetravelers Pissing Ex because I got so scared. I am still so scared.

 

Maybe you mastered cloning. I don't know. But this is absolutely insane.

When they say history repeats and lessons too I really didn't expect it came with the same look. Even her history is eerily close to yours. Yeah, we're already talking about her family. Why? Because my stupid comfortable ass is still assuming it's you somehow. I have truly lost my mind.

Is this just the universe messing with me? Send me the younger you who has all the potential to be who I thought you could and see what I do? That's not even fair. All these expectations I have for you dumped onto some poor girl because she's your absolute doppelgänger.

I had a close call last week from some dumb driver. Maybe I didn't make it out. This isn't real.. there's no way.

[SarahRose]

I went and signed the divorce papers today. My hand shook like a leaf, signing as if my hand didn't want to do it. I didn't really want to but knew I had to. I got out to the car and sobbed. You'll get them in the mail soon.

 

You've moved on to the 3rd world scammer. I tried to warn you and I don't know why. I should've been warning her about you. It's not my business anymore. I don't need to rescue you anymore.

 

You were so smug when you left for Sydney and I begged you to stay. It didn't quite work out how you thought and you wanted to come back and dummy me let you. Only to find out you were cheating on me yet again, in my house, telling people you were in an unhappy marriage and separated and single when it was all a lie. Nothing had ever been filed.

 

So now I really did file as it was clear you were never going to divorce me as why would you when you could have your cake and eat it too. Enjoy the benefits of being married to me while living your double life online pretending to be single, using a fake name.

 

You got mad when I told you to leave my house. You said you thought I was going to let you stay there a few months while I paid all the bills. Well yeah I was because I thought we were still trying to work our marriage out but then I find out you are now in a relationship with the scammer. You always managed to have the time to find people to cheat on me with but couldn't seem to figure out how to file for a divorce since you were "so unhappy". eye roll.

 

So I told you to leave the house and you said you thought I was going to be nice and let you stay there. Unbelievably entitled!

 

Less than 24 hours after I found out your were in "a relationship" with the scammer, I filed for divorce. I had enough of your bs. The lies, the cheating, the using.

 

So now you are getting your divorce that you couldn't seem to figure out how to file and now you have to pay your own way and do things for yourself since you won't have me around to use anymore.

 

No contact has been really hard but it gets a little bit better each day.

[Little-Wolf]

Missing you tonight. I miss how carefree we were when we were together. I wish you had fought for me, I really do. I am worth more than just giving up on when things get a little hard.

 

I hate how many times I could have walked away due to your angry and aggressive outbursts. You called me some really horrid names sometimes, and I forgave you each time because I know that's not who you really are. Under those scary anger issues, you're kind and loyal, funny and irresitable... I wish I saw that side of you all the time. I am too forgiving, and I didn't deserve the way you spoke to me when all I did was love you. I forgave you though - I always did. All you had to do was stroke my knuckles and kiss my forhead and tell me how much you didn't deserve me, and everything was forgotton.

 

I'm sleeping better though. 15 days of NC and I'm feeling okay. I found the card you got me for Valentines day and only shed a little tear. You talked about how proud you were to be mine and how much you loved how warm and safe I made you feel, even though you did the same for me.

 

I hate that everyone told me you'd do this to me and I fought your corner every time. I was always your cheerleader. I defended you to everyone and believed in you when you were at your worst, and what hurts the most is that all I ever wanted to do was prove everyone wrong.

 

I hope this keeps you up at night, although you're probably okay.

 

"You're gone and I'm haunted and I bet you are just fine, did I make it that easy for you to walk right in and out of my life?"

[SarahRose]

I really need to stop looking at your social media. It just hurts me.

 

I guess part of me wishes you would contact me and say you're sorry but I know even if you did, it would only be ok until the next time you cheat on me.

 

This is so hard but I know I will be Ok eventually. I've healed from every other broken relationship with time, so I will from this one too.

[divegrl]

Sigh.............

 

The past week has been a struggle. A huge struggle. So many changes swirling around me. From physical to mental. I feel like I'm relearning myself.

 

To be honest, I'm not sure who I'm writing this to? Is it one of my two exes that has come back and promised the world to me again. Is it the new guy I'm dating, but don't want to seem overbearing to?

 

Last night, I had this sinking feeling in my body. I have felt this in months. This feeling of being disconnected. Alone. I immediately wanted to reach out to somebody, anybody. And I did. And it was the wrong choice. Again this morning I woke up with a sinking feeling. Again, I reached out to a guy. And again it was the wrong choice.

 

I hold relationships to tightly. I grab onto them to hard. This nervous anxiety is why I will never grasp what I'm reaching for. I'm so delighted to have certain relationships that I love them to death.

 

Face these change effortlessly and gracefully. Everything is temporary. Free myself from desire to reveal the mystery. Flow like water thru the changes of life. Let nothing inside me be rigid. But fluid, beautiful, joyful.

 

Nothing is lacking. The whole world belongs to me..... Now plz let me accept the abundance of this truth.

[SarahRose]

I made it a week of no contact so I am proud of myself for that. I didn't send you a birthday wish like I have done all these years but you hated birthdays anyway.

 

I wish I could stop peeking at your social media. One day at a time I suppose. I'm doing really well to have blocked you and not contacted you so I'll take it for now.

 

Still feeling lost. I stupidly made you my entire world for more than a decade. I am feeling a little better today.

 

I know you weren't good for me. I'm looking forward to moving and making new friends in a new city. Hopefully that will help some.

[Little-Wolf]

I went on a date today. He was kind and sweet and gentlemanly. Held doors for me, bought me a drink, etc. He was so lovely and we got on well.

 

However when he dropped me home, I got through the door and started crying, because I thought about you way more often than I would have wanted. I don't want to feel this way. Your face is haunting me. I've never felt the electricity with anyone that I had with you.

 

I miss you. I hate that everyone tells me I deserve so much better. You're the one that I love and you said goodbye.

 

 

[bgbd376]

I keep checking my email, desperately wanting there to be one from you, and at the same time relieved there isn't. I have no idea how I am going to pick up the pieces yet again and move forward. I won't reach out to you ever again, but I still desperately wish you would reach out to me.

I miss you. I miss who we were before it all fell apart.

[Liesbeth]

I am at my boiling point. I really really want to lash out at him. Thank god, that this site exists and I can vent here instead of IM him. He is sitting some 20 metres away from my desk at the office.

 

 

Dear Ex,

 

 

Apparently it wasn't enough to humiliate me. You had me replaced within one week after our break up. Now you are spreading rumours at work about how I'm such a good liar for keeping our relationship hidden at work (something we agreed to do together - as well as keeping quiet about the breakup). Trying to set colleagues against me.

I'm really just angry, hurt and upset. You dumped me, you replaced me, you have your new love, why do you have to be so bitter towards me? You have everything you want, no? Why can't you be happy with your new relationship? I am not interfering in any way. I don't know the woman you're dating, nor did I drop by your house to check her out. In the beginning I begged you to take me back even though it was so obvious that is not what you want. Why do you want to break me down? When all I'm trying to do is to go out of your way. I really don't recognise the monster that you have become. How can you tell me you loved me? HOw can you tell me that I'm a wonderful person (just a few weeks ago)? Do you really need to see me suffer in order to feel better about yourself or what? I don't understand. I really don't get it, I would like to understand though, but I don't want to break NC. At least not yet. What the hell is wrong with you? Just let me be! I don't spread rumours, I didn't replace you, I'm still mourning about your loss, I still love you. I'm trying to cope in silence. PLEASE, just stop stomping on the tiny shattered pieces of my heart!!!!

[Little-Wolf]

Day 18 of NC and I'm struggling.

 

I feel like NC is getting harder, not easier. I have stopped looking at my phone at half 5, waiting for you to ring me. How did everything change overnight for you?

 

I crave you so much. I want one of our cuddles where you called me your little one and we would fall asleep together watching terrible tv. I was so tiny compared to you. You were tall and masculine and you made me feel safe and protected. You were fearless and I'll never forget the time you protected me with your life. I've never had anyone do that for me.

 

Tears flood my vision as I write this. It's the first time I've ugly cried like this for a while.

 

I miss you.

 

I hope you're doing okay baby. I hope your demons aren't hurting you too much. You said you were gonna' try and lay off the weed and I hope that's what you're doing.

 

I love you so much. So so so very much. So much more than anyone I've ever loved before. I wish nothing but the best for you, even though you handled the breakup completely the wrong way.

 

Please be good. x

[fieldoflavender]

Today is a difficult day for you - and maybe it's not anymore if you've gotten over me. Yesterday was hard for me too. I really want to contact you and fulfill my promise and say that I wish you well today - but I can't bring myself to. You were not there for me either on the days that were hard for me. It's not about equality/revenge or anything, but the simple fact that we can not depend on each other for support anymore. Not yesterday, not today, and none of the tomorrow's.

 

This day, like the future many other's will pass. And we will be stronger because of it. I can try to wish you well today on here. I am doing so in my heart, but posting it here makes it somewhat a bit less of an echo chamber and less lonely. You don't need me in the future to get through the days. And I won't need you either.