No Contact Support Thread. Post here instead of contacting your ex.

[goth-gal]

I know it was only an * almost-relationship *, but I still can't believe you stood me up for the last date you booked and then... probably also ghosted me. It's the first time someone ghosted on me, and it's incredibly hurtful. I didn't expect my first ghost to be... you.

 

You kept saying how we are so compatible given our backgrounds, and although I was hesitant in the beginning, I did end up seeing what you meant and started to like you so much. It felt comfy with you. I never looked for someone with this similar background, but I guess I didn't know what I was missing.

 

I'm so disappointed. People here are so frigging cold and I miss your affection. I miss having you around. I miss your kisses. I miss being able to speak that language with you. I miss seeing your introverted side opening up to me. I know you're a bit of a weirdo, but that's probably what attracts me to you. I wish you came back. No man I'm going on dates with is making me remotely interested as you did.

 

I should have known, any date can be the last date. Live in the present, enjoy the person, enjoy the moment, don't expect any almost-relationship to keep going just because it feels right. I hope my oversharing didn't scare you off for good. I'll learn to live without you around, we haven't dated for long, but I know myself too, it will take a long time to cross paths with someone I want to rip their clothes off and spend hours talking with

[Rayce]

Today I accepted an offer on my father's house. Finally I will be able to close that chapter of my life forever! I am so happy! I have to laugh... escrow is scheduled to close on your birthday! We talked about this before... funny how some numbers just keep popping up over and over in our lives. lol...

Edited January 18, 2019 by Rayce

[mantis214]

Hey you. You got married yesterday, but it wasn’t to me. Against my better judgment, I took a quick peak at your Instagram account, hopefully for the very last time, because I really need to move on and heal, and even being in your passive online presence isn’t helping me do that. You had changed your profile picture to one of the photos you took during your wedding shoot. I never thought you’d be the one to settle down this quickly, but you looked stunning and not one bit out of place in your wedding dress. One of our mutual friends went to your ceremony yesterday and told me you looked really, really happy. You have no idea what a relief it is for me to hear that, because for a moment, I thought you were being forced into a marriage you didn’t want because of a surprise baby. Never lose that smile babe. Now, my worries are gone and I can finally be at peace. I hope you have a long, happy life.

[Twizzlestick]

Thought splurge...

 

Day 7 of NC after dealing with all the return of furniture. Ended with a phone call and her saying “speak soon”.

 

I vowed not to call her. Fine first few days. Constant dreams. Today is horrific. Feel so alone. Well I am alone. In Ireland with no friends. Have to sort out my apartment. Doesn’t help annoying as hell letting agent are on the phone constantly arranging viewings and I have to have annoying couples walk through my place. Especially with this going on.

 

Today is horrific. Really horrific. It’s dark, raining and it’s dawning on me she won’t call. The loss is knocking at the door. I’m filled with despair that she’s doing this. Also a dawning reality that I’m really unhappy in my job. I have a high flying career but working for a firm she wanted me to work for. She’s away doing a job (a job whilst not high flying I always fancied myself although it’s a fraction of the pay).

 

I feel alone, despaired, unwell, unfulfilled in work, lost, old and abandoned. Just being honest. She’s away, younger high flying with a new career to look forward to, moving to my home country (England) that I wasn’t allowed to move to for 11 years with her, in a part of the country we always like that I introduced to her.

 

I actually feel betrayed. I can’t help these emotions.

 

Intolerably alone, unwell, betrayed, hopeflessness and full of loss.

[edgygirl]

I don't care about anyone else. And there are tons of others right now.

 

 

Yet I only think about you. I'm such a fool. So are you.

[Twizzlestick]

Day 8 of NC. Day 40 of final break.

 

I feel angry today. Loss and anger. Anger at the final words. “I don’t know, I think there’s a lack of respect there. I don’t respect you. I mean you’re off work now having lost your medical, you’ve been off loads..”

 

It is true I lost my medical. But what is true is I’ve just had the most stressful year imaginable. And through counselling I know for a fact you made it worse. It’s not my fault. I have a technical job where I can’t operate without that medical certificate. You chose to end our relationship just as I was going in for some of the most stressful tests of my profession.

 

Lack of respect?? I stood by you through thick and fxxxxxn thin. Even when I was the other side of the world. I’d rush home to you. I didn’t act when you threw temper tantrums and ghosted me when I was alone in the mountains of Saudi Arabia.

 

Health? How many tens of hypochondriac things have I supported you through over ten years. Listened to? Never once acted in anything other than empathy. Your families emotional abuse. I never tired of listening, supporting and caring. By your own words..I was the only one who understood.

 

And you don’t respect me. You know what. Go fxxxx yourself. I’ve never bad mouthed you, but I wish I could..

 

Today I’m angry. I feel betrayed. You’ve ended it with me, taking a job I helped you get (whilst you kept me spinning in your hook) and now moving to my home country that you banned us from moving to during our 11 years together.

 

 

Today I’m angry. And betrayed. But I miss you so much.

[Madd_hatter]

I miss you today. A lot more than I have in a while. I would give almost anything to be next to you right now. I can’t believe it’s over. I’m waiting for it to feel better but it never does. How can I stop it? It’s impossible. I can’t stop loving you. You’re a part of me. I can’t just forget about you. I’ll never be over you. Do you know that? Is that why you’re staying away from me? I don’t know what to do anymore. I miss you Jason and I love you more than you’ll ever know.

[Rayce]

I am missing you today. I miss sharing stuff with you. Like today... I know this will make you happy. I was at the unemployment office today for another workshop. This one was on career planning. I took some assessments and it indicates that I would be best as a animator/multimedia artists or a graphic designer or maybe a video game designer. lol... how cool is that... the best thing is that I got lots of the skills already and only lacking the 3D modeling stuff. I might be able to get some training for that. I am going to check it out more this week. I am so sick of databases, healthcare and analytics.. I want to do something fun for the rest of my career and it looks like I can.

 

I've been thinking about those music videos and unsure what I should do about them. I really wish we could have a face to face conversation about what happen.

[flume]

Hey you!!

 

How are you doing today. I am a little drunk. Don't worry I am not gonna call you. But I am thinking if you.

Why can't we be together. Why tell me why.

Sometimes I am angry. Sometimes just sad. But I have decided to let you be. I had an off day today. Watched ****ty videos of how to get an ex back. People are making so much money off this.

I am so much missing you. Don't know why I am not jouranlling this.

THe thing is i never thought i will ever come back to this site. But I am back. Life as it is right.

Why can't you come back. We were so good togetehr. Sometimes I think how we were not perfect and how you did not inspire the best in me. BUt still I put everything in thi relatioship. Why can;t you be back. Why.

Told everyone. Don;t you miss talking to me. You dont. Have a happy ligfe with your frnds. Sometimes i think you might be dating someine elxe but i am not goon check. You said we can;t talk anymore ok. We will not.

I will wait as long as I can. But may not be all the time. I am trying to move on now.

Come back before it is too late. Come back. We have been through so much. We are perfcet together. Come back.

[paisleypanther]

I don't know why, but I'm missing you a lot more today. I was eating lunch and I remembered that time I shoved a Savannah Smiles into your mouth. At first you were confused, but then you grinned. "That's my favorite girl scout cookie," you said. I didn't even know. I heard you were at a downtown club with a friend of mine the other day. I saw a video of you and it caught me by surprise. I don't know what to do to stop thinking about you. I wish I could. God I wish I could.

[flume]

Really feel like speaking to you.. On saying how we could have broken up in a much better way.. Asking to wipe the slate clean.. It is so funny.. I really want you back.. I don't know what you're doing or what you're up to but I really feel like speaking to you.. You are constantly on my mind..

Comeback please.. We will forget it like a bad dream.. We will start afresh.. One step at a time..

Please come back

[paisleypanther]

I've been thinking about what you said to me that one time when we were drunk at that party. You kept saying I could do so much better than you. Maybe you were right. But I don't need you, I want you. I feel really pathetic because I'm still crying about you while you're probably out partying or hooking up with people. Part of me hopes you aren't. Part of me hopes you still miss me the same way I miss you. Hopes you still want me the way I want you.

[flume]

There are moments where I feel I am falling out of love from you now

[Rayce]

Hey there... I am still missing you. I hope things are going good for you and your family. I am doing good keeping busy with the job search doing workshops and exploring all my options. Today I was at the local college exploring a worker retaining program and it looks like I might be able to qualify! I am so excited! I will be going from being a database administrator to multimedia artists and animators. lol.. My 1st day of class is also your birthday! lol... speaking of that I wanted to let you know that tomorrow I am headed down to my dads place for a few days. I will be there till sometime next week. I have some escrow stuff to take care of and pick up last few items that I may have over looked last year when I was there. I hope this will be the last trip I ever have to make to that town. Well I'm starting to ramble... time to go. Take care.

[CPpanther]

'Are you sure the feelings wont come back if we just take a break? I can't believe you're throwing all we had away without even putting up a fight. I don't even want to be with someone who doesn't think I am worth fighting for. I would have done anything for you. You don't even have the patience to wait for me while I heal. In fact, you told me I have to do this alone. I agree, but you could have supported me from the sideline. Everytime I needed you, you had other things to do, like drinking with friends or watching tv. You have convinced yourself you lost feelings for me because I needed you. I hate you but I don't want to lose you and I don't want you to leave and find someone else. I want the old us to be back.'

[flume]

Hey babe.. M buzzed right now.. Thinking why we can't be together.. Just realized may be I was clingy but u encouraged it. Anyhow love u like crazy. I think you're moving on faster than me.. I am gonna move on too.. **** you for leaving me ike this..

U encouraged the drift too..

**** you bitch..

[GeorgiaPeach1]

You're a piece of crap. Looking back, you knew you were going to dump me ahead of time, and you gave yourself ample time to get used to the idea and emotionally prepare before lowering the boom on me without warning. Now I'm left holding the bag while you breeze through life without much of a care.

[flume]

Babe missing you like crazy.. But I have decided today is my last pity party.. No more.. Why can't you come back.. Atleast contact me once.. Say something at least.. You are now hat they call ghosting me..

Don't do that.. We were perfect together.. Come back.. They say go no contact.. It is becoming very tough.. I am not contacting you because I don't want to be needy.. Come back.. I am working on myself.. We can start anew together.. Let us face the world together..

Come on.. Let us start again..

[Rayce]

It's snowing today. I made home before the snow. I had some really nice weather on the drive down but it pour rain the whole time I was there. I was so miserable trying to load up the last of my parents life in the truck by myself in the pouring rain. It rained all the way home too. I had trouble getting the tarp on right so it flapped all the way home. Pulling out of the driveway for the last time was so hard. The grief finally caught up with me and the tears finally came. It took a long time to drive that last 1/4 mile down the their driveway. My parents did the best they could. I forgive them. I love them but I hope I never have to go there again. I cried a good portion of the drive home. It was very therapeutic. I am tried. GN

[Rayce]

Ugh! The sale on my dads house fell through. I want to be done with it!

[GeorgiaPeach1]

I go back and forth between missing you so much and being appalled at how callously you treated me at the end of the relationship. One minute I tell myself I won't respond should you reach out, but the other part of me would be eager to respond to you and have the old times back. I wonder if you're relieved I went NC and stopped trying to reason with you, or if you didn't realize I'd be this strong this fast and are curious as to what's going on.

[edgygirl]

It’s been a few weeks. I had almost forgotten you. You were mostly out of my mind. But then I reinstalled the app where we met a few days ago. I just saw you there. You’ve changed your profile including the kind of things you saw in mine I knew I had changed you in some way, somehow. It shows I just didn’t expect it to be for this.

 

Why did it have to end that weird way? We were just texting that last day to set a time to meet later at the museum. I know it was intense, 3 dates in a week... even for me. I know the discussions on our last date were intense as well... why couldn’t we keep it light and just keep getting to know each other?

 

We would have been so good together. Our shared plans made sense. Haven’t seen anyone that interested me since. This is just so stupid. * boys don’t cry *

Edited February 7, 2019 by edgygirl

[GeorgiaPeach1]

It's been over a week of NC. Last night was brutal. I go to sleep ok, but some nights I wake up with intense emotional pain and a sinking feeling in my chest. It's dawning on me that we're really done. You took the coward's way out, but now that I'm gaining a little perspective I see that you were never all in and you conveniently had a habit of making me the bad guy. With you, every thing is always someone else's fault. I'm feeling a little less in love and more depressed and angry. I guess this is all a part of the grief process. I can't wait to get to the stage where no matter what you say or do, I couldn't care less. One thing is for sure: you don't genuinely have love or respect for me and you never did. That's why is was so easy for you to turn into a jackass. I feel sorry for the next woman who gives you a chance. I guess she'll get to hear how "awful" I was, the same way you told me how awful all your other exes were.

[lolita888]

It still hurts like hell. I still kept crying. I thought it was over it but whenever I think of what you have done and how much of a fool I was I still couldn't believe that I really believed you.

 

Every time I remember how he says that you couldn't wait to be with me, to spend the rest of your life with me and all those promises you gave me. I still feel like crying, I really really want to talk to him and ask him those things until I get a proper explanation: "How can you say those things to me? How can you lie like that to me? why did you have to lie like that? You have no heart, you have no conscience. I never asked you make those promises. "

But in the end I still couldn't. The more time passes by, the more I realized his lies that I used to ignore.

Still what hurts the most was when I remember how he showed me a picture of their family and when I asked "is that your wife" (the woman next to him) he said "EX and no that's not her, that's my sister" then showed me another pic of them together and she's so pretty so I said "your sister is very pretty" and then he said "yes she is. thank you"

It's so painful to think he was playing that time. How? Why? He's so scary. But it really hurts to know that I was looking like a fool the whole time.

 

 

I really wish I can get over you soon. I wish I can get over you after I sleep.

[GeorgiaPeach1]

I confess--I've been looking up how to use NC to get you back. Most of these sites and videos use a dumpee's grief and desperation to make money. Well I came across a post that told it like it is and it set me straight. We are broken up PERIOD! Expecting you to reach out (and entertaining the thought of reaching out myself) is hurting my healing process. Whether I like it or not, YOU get to decide who and what is in your life. The way you went about ending it was selfish, but WHY WOULD YOU put my needs and feelings first when this is YOUR life? I'm starting to get it now that my only healthy, self-respecting option is to learn from my mistakes (because I wasn't perfect in this) and to recognize red flags early on before I get too invested (because you gave signs you weren't relationship material and you weren't as invested as I was.) Valentine's Day is tomorrow. I get to watch other women receive tokens of love and affection while I get nothing, not even a text. But I will get through it and this, too, shall pass.