No Contact Support Thread. Post here instead of contacting your ex.

[bayguy4]

I miss you more now than I did before, each day I think I will feel better but instead I wake up more miserable. Sure as the day goes on I start to straighten out, but time and time again I can’t help but look at my phone, in that one last grasping hope that you changed your mind and would reach out. Saying you were just not having a good day, that you think I’m worth the time to try. I want to reach out to you so badly, I miss our chats I miss hearing about you and your day, I really thought things were going so well between us, clearly I was wrong. I thought for once that I found someone who was on the level with me. That liked me for me and someone in you who I truly thought was wonderful. I'm so perplexed, on one hand you said you were so sad when dumping me, but you didn't want to try and make it go further. I want to believe you when you say you didn't want to lead me on, but part of me would have been ok with it. Even thinking those words makes me feel so worthless, but in the short time we knew each other I fell for you. Not head over heels in love or some childish term like that, we didn't know each other long enough, but I thought you were wonderful. I think you are wonderful, that's the problem, I can't move on. I can't find that fault that makes me say 'yeah **** her'. I know you have your things you are dealing with, maybe that's why I hope you will reach out to me just to say it was a bad day, or week. I know in reality that isn't the case but for once I'm just wishing it would be. I could keep rambling over and over now. This would be a terrible message to send you so I'm glad I could at least write it here. You'll never read this, if you did I know you would ask me how messed up I am in the joking tone of yours. I really liked that about you too... damn I miss you. I wish you didn't throw me away so quickly.

Edited March 3, 2017 by bayguy4

[bluefeather]

I'm glad that you seem to be doing ok. I know you split me black. But it hurt pretty bad tonight when I saw for myself. I hadn't checked on you in a very long time, but I had a moment of weakness, because I had a suspicion that you called me from another number. The good thing was that this time that I saw, it didn't hurt as much as it used to. I'd say it was more like a fraction of how it could have felt..

[Kayley]

For what it's worth I'm really sorry for how I acted towards you. I still cringe over it.

[bluefeather]

For what it's worth I'm really sorry for how I acted towards you. I still cringe over it.

 

ugh. me too.

 

live and learn

[Kayley]

ugh. me too.

 

live and learn

 

It's horrible, wanting to apologise and feeling like you can't

[bluefeather]

It's horrible, wanting to apologise and feeling like you can't

 

I'm actually going through a similar experience right now. Wanting to apologize for something I said a long time ago, because I know better now. And it's stupid because it's from an old relationship that I felt I had healed from. But I already told myself that I need to let it go. I think it's my ego that just wants to prove to that person that I'm not a jackass anymore.

 

But it really doesn't matter. What that person thinks about you or me shouldn't matter. However, it will matter to the next person, and that next person deserves to have the best version of myself that I can be - so I will let this negative feeling pass through me and then out of me.

[DarrenB]

7 months later and you still find the need/s to talk to friends of mine?

 

I've had the decency to cut all contact between our mutual friends, especially yours, the ones of which you were skeptical about through our entire relationship.

 

But no, you're allowed to continue to interfere with them and have no repercussion or be reprimanded. Typical, you haven't changed.

 

Seeking attention because you hate being lonely, you have become increasingly desperate. I'm glad I don't have to deal with that burden anymore.

[Jadedbyluv]

Ughh. I miss you. I miss your face and your goofy smile. I saw you on Saturday. I didn't want our time together to end. You were being flirtatious but I could sense you pulled yourself back because you didn't want things to go too far. It may be awhile before we see each other again. It could be awhile before I hear from you. I think about you a million times a day. I reminisce about all our times together and wonder why things changed? This has been so incredibly hard letting go. I wonder if I ever cross your mind. I wonder if you miss me even a little.

[Altair0770]

I have no interest in contacting my ex, but sure I'll bite.

 

 

Do you believe that all your "true friends" would respect you if they really know what you did and said to me? Would your "true friends" say "you're an adult and can do what you want" if they knew what you did to me? True friends aren't enablers. I took all the hatred and blame you had for the people that hurt you, and I still stood by your side making you happy. But you don't care how it makes me feel, as long as you're happy.

[picnicinthepark]

I dreamt of you last night -- I miss everything about you. I haven't heard from you in over 4 months. I hope you're finding happiness in your life -- I'm not quite there but things are better. I wish things were different but I need to move on.

[Psylocke]

After 8 years of marriage and after youve taken all of my money, in the blink of an eye you hop into the bed of someone old enough to be your parent! No waiting at all, right on to the next victim. And Im sure youre going to do to that person what you did to me. Take all of their money, constantly lie and ruin their lives. You dont see your children, and you barely pay any money. You do what you want to, go where you want to, do wherever you want to. Life is great for you. Life that doesnt include your own kids. So mature, so stable. But in the end, I took it all. You may have taken my money and 8 years of my life but when the end came, you had to start from scratch and I got a sweet paid! You were the anchor around our necks for too long, now we can float towards success.

[Psylocke]

After 8 years of marriage and after youve taken all of my money, in the blink of an eye you hop into the bed of someone old enough to be your parent! No waiting at all, right onto the next victim. And Im sure youre going to do to that person what you did to me. Take all of their money, constantly lie and ruin their lives. You dont see your children, and you barely pay any money. You do what you want to, go where you want to, do whoever you want to. Life is great for you. Life that doesnt include your own kids. So mature, so stable. But in the end, I took it all. You may have taken my money and 8 years of my life but when the end came, you had to start from scratch and I got sweet paid! You were the anchor around our necks for too long, now we can swim towards success.

Edited March 10, 2017 by Psylocke

[NikonRN]

Of all the people in the world, after all the years we've known each other, after every thing that's been done and shared over the last year...I realized today, some three weeks after you left that all you are and all you ever will be is a manipulative, game playing, narcissistic,

cheating alcoholic. You professs to be clean and sober and you may not have a drink in your hand but you are the same old POS that I let go all those years ago. I effing should've known better. You caught me each time in a vulnerable painful time in my life and both times I believed your song and dance. This time was worse because EVERYTHING was shared. You knew the shape I was in and you took advantage of me. You got away with cheating before..that's why you came back to me. I'm debating making sure you don't get away with it ever again. Your reputation as it stands now would be blown apart...I'm afraid it would take away your sobriety but what have you taken from me??!! My piece of mind. My ability to love and trust again. My heart. I'll never be able to get past this. I don't trust my judgement of people since I seem to attract the idiots and the unavailable. You have given me and my feelings absolutely NO consideration except where it fits you. I want you to rot in hell at the same time, still loving you. I'm broken at your hands AGAIN.

[Kayley]

It's been 4 and a half months since you left me. I used to have huge urges to text you, it's not urges anymore but I still want to. I really, really don't want to be with you anymore. You don't want me and it'd never be the same anyway. I just want to apologise because I know that so much of what I done was unfair.

 

We've been nc since the week after you left me. Neither of us have tried to reach out to the other yet in still here wanting to say something. Wanting to not regret not apologising but feeling like it might make you angry to here from me.

 

I wrote a message this morning, it's just sitting there unsent. I don't know what to do.

[hermitcrab]

I love and miss you and it kills me inside that I can't let you know how I feel.

I don't want anyone but you

[deathbed]

I hate you so much because I can’t believe how much I love you. I love you unconditionally. You said you never got that growing up and I gave that to you! But you didn’t care. You threw it away. I gave my heart to you. I was vulnerable to you. I forgave you for what you did. But you didn’t care! You threw me away like I was nothing!

 

I hate that you still affect me. I can’t function without you and I hate you for that! I am a mess right now and you are with someone else now. I thought you would never leave me. But you did, in the worst way possible. You knew my worst fear was being abandoned. Yet that is what you did to me. So unbelievably cruel.

 

You couldn’t even be honest with me. All the way to the very end you were lying about things. I was always honest with you. Why did you even pretend to try to work on things if you were just going to leave in the end? Why? You put me through all that heartache and hope that we were going to work things out for nothing! Why! How could I mean that little to you? How could you just cut me off? Pretend like I don’t exist?

 

I gave you all of me and I shouldn’t have. I hope, no I know I will get through this. I am in the pits of hell right now, but I will get through this.

[hermitcrab]

I'm ****ing angry at you now and feel like blocking you completely was one of the best decisions I've made. I'm done being a sad miserable bitch and putting you on some pedestal. You didn't care about me at all, just wanted to get your dick wet and would tell me anything you thought I wanted to hear so you could get your sexual satisfaction.

****. You.

Karma is going to get you eventually.

I hope I never see or talk to you again, I can't ****ing deal with your lies and manipulation anymore.

[Vivir]

I've spent the last few hours praying that you would call. But really, there is nothing left for either of us to say. At this point, we are talking in circles. You have your stance, and I have mine. We aren't on the same page. As much as I want you, I cannot have you. You are the epitome of unavailable. You're asking me not to shut you out. You're asking me to do things we both know will hurt me. You would get what you *think* you need. Underneath this lust we feel for each other is the bare fact that we don't have one another's best interest at heart. I am actively fighting my selfishness as you tell me that Life is too short not to just do whatever it is that we want to do. It's bullisht! Actions have consequences! I don't want to be cruel and block you from calling me, but each time you contact me, I can feel the despair rise. It's killing me.

[Afgl]

You tell me you 'lost feelings'. Fine. You gave your excuses as to why. You told me I was taking you for granted, that there is no one to take care of you, that you don't feel I am GOOD enough for you, and that everything I did in the end just makes me look desperate.

 

I'd like to remind you:

 

- I changed for you. I CHANGED for YOU. For YOUR happiness.

- I was there for all your EX RELATED bull****. All the HEARTACHE and all the EMOTIONS that I have felt because of your indecisiveness, I was there. You told me you were able to GET OVER your EX because of me, and was truly sincere about being with me. BULL****.

- I'm not good enough because of what? Because of doing the things you told me to do? Because you can't or are too lazy to do various things so if I don't do them, I'm incompetent?

- I've stuck by your hypocrisy for so long. There are things you tell me I shouldn't do and can't do or else you'd be furious, but if you do the same then I don't have a right to feel the way I feel or demand the same. I can't be friends with a guy that is just my friend but you can be friends with someone who tried to KISS you? And you don't tell me about this until AFTER the break up? **** you.

- It's MY fault you broke your phone after you have a rage fit. It's MY fault you get violent from anger. It's also MY fault I don't stop talking when you tell me to but yet you keep on blabbing on and on about stuff that YOU started the fight in. And you tell ME to pick my battles? yeah ok.

 

You're a negative, stuck up, narcissistic bitch who don't know how to value someone who loved you unconditionally. What hurts me the most is that I still ****ing care about you yet you don't seem to realize your flaws.

[Baileylovesloki]

Messaging a ex gives them attention, attention empowers them. So I'll post on here.

Dear ex.

What I learned from going no contact and focusing on myself.

 

You have eggs, men want eggs, it doesn't make you special because men hover around and do things for you. They simply have a biological need to get to your eggs and reproduce, This attention makes you feel special. Your not special.

 

Your truth .... you were married.... you failed at it no matter what you want to believe ... you had not one but two children with a man you knew you would leave.... you monkey branched over to me and I was a fool because I thought it was different. It's not different. The best indication for the future is the past .

You monkey branch to me than you move your innocent children in with me... because of your hypergamatic instinct you leave me and hurt your children once again...Hypergamy in you is strong. It is your instinct and you don't know it. it.

 

The truth is you will. NEver be happy because of the poor decisions you make...

Your hitting forty. You have two young children and men lie to you. They want your ass. Not your kids. Your pants are so tight they can see your ovaries and you are one woman in a group of forty men... how many marriages have you wrecked ? But hey. They give you attention right ? Feels good

 

When you said u were leaving me because I don't hold hands enough and I don't act like a beta male, you laughed when I was in a fearful state, you thought it was funny when I put you on a pedastle. It's called oneitis ...

in my mind I manifested you into this perfect thing. THe perfect drug ... your not. It was a illusion and I see it now. I also see you. Pants too tight. Turning forty. Thinking your a god. Your not a god. Your a hypergamatic woman, who doesn't know love. You know money and status, It's all gonna end for

You one day.... it's not your fault. It's your nature

YOU DID ME A FAVOUR!!!!!

My health is amazing.

I feel amazing.

I eat amazing.

My mind is strong.... I owe it all to you and to no contact.

Every day I went no contact and pushed through the urge to contact you it healed my mind....

I wonder how your mind is ? You were single for whAt a week?

Hmmmmm

You did me a favour.

I won't send this to you because the best revenge is what I see when I look in the mirror everyday. I am alone. It I am powerful.

 

The power of no contact!!!!

Edited March 26, 2017 by Baileylovesloki

[StrangerThanFiction]

Why did you call me to tell me you were seeing someone? You said it was because you wanted me to hear it from you before I heard it from someone else first. But why?! I know we're "friends" and all that, but still. WHY?! Was it to rub it in my face? Get a reaction out of me? Well, I hope I disappointed you with how casually I responded. Did you want me to cry or act upset? Like hell I would give you that satisfaction. However, it sure seemed to bother you when I mentioned that I had been seeing someone else after we broke up. Again, why?! As far as I can tell, you're with the chick you left me for so why the hell would it bother you knowing I had been with someone?? YOU left ME, so what did you expect?!

 

I know you've been seeing her for longer than you let on. In fact I'm positive you were seeing her before we even broke up. So I don't understand why you've kept in contact with me over these past few months. I don't understand why you keep making sexual comments towards me while you've been in a relationship with her. Are you trying to hedge your bets? Well **** you. You gave me up. I hope one day you come to regret that decision. I hope this relationship fails epically just like every one you've had before it. I hope she turns out to be a life sucking psycho and you end up miserable. Have fun raising her 5 kids all from different men. You ever stop to think why none of these other men are with her now? Or why she's popped out so many? Just think about it. Have fun living your white trash dream.

 

She's more on your level than I am anyway. You've always bragged about how redneck you are but there's a fine line between redneck and trash and you have always been firmly in the trash camp. Now you have the perfect woman to complement you, black and missing teeth to boot. I'm sure once you're married you'll have a lovely collection of rusted out junkers on blocks in your front yard where your 14 kids will play. I guess now it's true when I said that when I dated you I was slumming it.

 

Do I sound bitter and angry? Well, I am. In spite of myself I fell in love with you. I let you hold my heart and you tore it out, spit on it, and are now grinding your heel into it. I'm sick of your mind games. I'm sick of the pain you've caused me. I'm sick of missing you and knowing that you've found someone while I'm still alone. I'm sick of knowing that even though I have so much going for me, you still chose a chick like that over me. I know that my only and best course of action to protect myself from you is to just block you completely from my life, but I don't feel strong enough to do it yet. I feel so weak. And I'm sick of that too.

 

Right now, I hate you.

[Confushious]

Once upon a time, two people shared everything and know what's going on. They know the feelings of the other. We can ask and talk. It goes on for a long time. Then suddenly everything goes black with NC. That does a number on your phyche. We are creature of needing answers, knowing, for suvival. Now we are deprived of that.

 

Of course, then there's the emotion and missing what was once something great and cherished. The path of up and down was carried out through a span of time. Now that path stopped. The mind jumbles all the events into this short period of time. I hate him. I love him. I miss him. He's bad for me. He's good for me. You experience everything at once.

 

One crazy mind trip!

 

 

 

I cant agree more! this post really helped me out tonight. I am 3 months gne moved out of my 8 yr relationship and im all over the I miss him, he verbally abused me, why didn't he fight for me? How am I going to get threw this, Im the one that walked out on him so why do I miss him. Holy hell of crazy emotions! it suks. I know he is no good for me but I miss the good parts of him. What hurts the most is him believing and thinking I cheated on him when I DID NOT. I just want to convince him!

[marksaysay]

Hello,

 

It's been more than 2 weeks since our last date and the last time we spoke. Before going on that date, I had a feeling you had been stringing me along for the 4 months we went out and I kinda knew that date would probably be our last. There were so many signs that I should have walked away from you long before I did but I ignored them all because I enjoyed being with you and spending time with you.

 

I suspected you had someone else and that you were simply trying to hold on to me "just in case". In the back of my mind, I keep thinking you'll text me to atleast see how I'm doing but then I remembered how you said you usually just tune people totally out so I'm not so optimistic that you will. I go from being upset at myself for continuing to allow you to put me through the rollercoaster, but yet I still miss you. Anyhow, I've been tempted to text you but I know it won't do anything. We'll see each other pretty soon since we go to the same church. At that point, I'm sure we'll just once again be faces in the crowd.

 

Good bye!

[Baileylovesloki]

The purpose of no contact is to reduce the thoughts of your ex in your head.

You already have enough thoughts going on in there with out seeing them and communicating.

Any contact I have causes me anxiety. Even contact through a third party.

Any info I'm given increases my thoughts and makes me wonder.

We need true no contact ... I need true no contact.... it heals. It increases self love... it takes away there power over us and increases our power.

Don't let your ex cause you pain. Take your power back. Our ex s just want attention

Attention is there power...

Distance yourself. Focus on loving yourself. Inspire yourself.

Make your ex less of a presence.

[LOSINGHOPE113]

As every day goes by I miss you more and more, my love for you only grows stronger as more memories fill my mind, memories that I never knew I had anymore, memories from such a long time ago that just keep cropping up, they remind me what we had, how truly special we were to each other, they make me think that i'll never have that with anyone else again and its heart wrenching to know that if I do that person simply won't be you, I could write a book on why I love you so much, I've never met anyone like you before and I doubt I ever will, I should of held on to you, I shouldn't of let you go, you are so special. My world doesn't spin without you, silence has never sounded so silent, the dark has never seemed so dark.