Chinook Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 I hate you. You are scum to me. Freeloader. Psychopathic manipulative abuser. Wife beater. I’m glad you’re gone because I don’t have to look after you when you’re old. I’m glad you’re gone because I’m a nice person and I deserve better even if it’s just to wake up alone in the morning and NOT feel fear. I’m glad you’re gone because you’re a cold heartless unfeeling twat. I cannot say these things to you because I refuse to make contact. But I don’t want my anger eating at my insides. Link to post Share on other sites
SunsetWay Posted July 25, 2020 Share Posted July 25, 2020 I've been talking to a God I don't much believe in tonight. I don't understand this hold you have over me. . I don't understand my inability to move on and just let you go. You loved. Me. Yes, I believe that you did. But, you didn't know me as well as you think you did. I am so much more than you thought I was. So much more and every bit worth the fight. I love you and always will. I miss you and the good in us endlessly. Link to post Share on other sites
HurtingGirl1979 Posted July 25, 2020 Share Posted July 25, 2020 To my ex: I miss you so much and I need you to call me and tell me how sorry you are and why you behaved like you did. I need you to tell me that it wasn’t me, it was you. I want you to tell me how you’ve realised that I was the best thing that had ever happened to you, but you threw it all away because of your issues, not because of me. I want you to tell me that you want to give it another go but you’ll just be friends for now, and could we talk and slowly work things out. I want you to tell me that you’re going to change and that if we got back together, you’d do things totally differently. You’d get a job and make friends in my local area. You wouldn’t solely rely on me for your happiness, because I can’t provide that for you. You realise that you need to find that for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted July 25, 2020 Share Posted July 25, 2020 11 minutes ago, HurtingGirl1979 said: To my ex: I miss you so much and I need you to call me and tell me how sorry you are and why you behaved like you did. I need you to tell me that it wasn’t me, it was you. I want you to tell me how you’ve realised that I was the best thing that had ever happened to you, but you threw it all away because of your issues, not because of me. I want you to tell me that you want to give it another go but you’ll just be friends for now, and could we talk and slowly work things out. I want you to tell me that you’re going to change and that if we got back together, you’d do things totally differently. You’d get a job and make friends in my local area. You wouldn’t solely rely on me for your happiness, because I can’t provide that for you. You realise that you need to find that for yourself. Awe, you'll be fine!! There will be others and you'll look back at be glad he left you. He gave you the opportunity to be with every other men and so have fun finding his replacement. Dating is a lot of fun 😊 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HurtingGirl1979 Posted July 26, 2020 Share Posted July 26, 2020 What I’d like to say to him today on Day 26 of NC: Have you gone back to be with the Spanish girl who you claimed you had no feelings for but that she was obsessed with you? Was it more than just friendship and you’ve realised that you actually wanted to be with her? If you have, know that you won’t see the relationship through. You’re 53 and you’ve never been capable of having a long term relationship. You’ll leave another mess behind, and hurt and damage yet another decent person who fell for you. Link to post Share on other sites
HurtingGirl1979 Posted July 26, 2020 Share Posted July 26, 2020 Still on Day 26 NC: I’m so glad this thread is here because what is going on in my head right now feels like pure insanity and addiction, but I want to text him. I won’t, I’ll post it here instead: I’m going to lay my cards on the table; I want to give it another go. I want to be with you and try again. Would you be up for giving it another go? Link to post Share on other sites
Realitysux Posted July 26, 2020 Share Posted July 26, 2020 (edited) 6 hours ago, HurtingGirl1979 said: What I’d like to say to him today on Day 26 of NC: Have you gone back to be with the Spanish girl who you claimed you had no feelings for but that she was obsessed with you? Was it more than just friendship and you’ve realised that you actually wanted to be with her? If you have, know that you won’t see the relationship through. You’re 53 and you’ve never been capable of having a long term relationship. You’ll leave another mess behind, and hurt and damage yet another decent person who fell for you. Is it okay to leave people who aren't decent in a mess? Only certain humans deserve to be left with respect? Am I missing something? Edited July 26, 2020 by Realitysux Link to post Share on other sites
ShadyBooties Posted August 12, 2020 Share Posted August 12, 2020 Yesterday made two weeks of NC, sometimes I miss you but there's a feeling in me that I'm getting over this. I want to reach out but I'm conflicted. I still hate that you blocked me on social media and text but I know you still think about me and you are hurting. I know YOU. I'm sure the initial process of ending things was done out of anger, impulse, and your own insecurities, but as you think about it we both know it was a terrible decision. I know you see me active on other apps, but you haven't blocked me there. I know you see we're still friends on other apps and you haven't removed me. I know these are signs that you're hoping that I reach out or to keep a little bit of me with you. I saw that you changed your profile picture from the one I took. I know it hurts you to be reminded of me. But if you want me, you're going to have to come get me before it's too late. Link to post Share on other sites
Reels Posted September 10, 2020 Share Posted September 10, 2020 On 1/19/2020 at 1:16 PM, Reels said: Even today, I was thinking of talking to her but again I have dropped the plan to talk to her. I have realized a lot of things but I still can't deny that finding true love will be very hard. I see many faults in her but I am missing her at this moment. Link to post Share on other sites
Starry24 Posted October 21, 2020 Share Posted October 21, 2020 (edited) It’s been 5 days of no contact. I miss you and I hate that I look at my phone or check instant messaging hoping you’ll reach out to me. You won’t. Deep down I know breaking up is the best thing but I miss you terribly. I want to be through this difficult time and all the emotions. I want to be over you now Edited October 21, 2020 by Starry24 Typo 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MeadowFlower Posted December 5, 2020 Share Posted December 5, 2020 (edited) Argh! I like you. You probably wouldn't approve. (not ex) Edited December 5, 2020 by MeadowFlower Link to post Share on other sites
MeadowFlower Posted January 24, 2021 Share Posted January 24, 2021 I like you more than maybe you realise. Link to post Share on other sites
Myabee Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 Hi. I started this because I see the other NO Contact support threads are closed to post on. If this is not ok, Mods please advise or remove. I'm new here and trying to stay in NC with a MM I got involved with. I need support badly. I imagine others may too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Myabee Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 What I need to remind myself of today. No. You are not my friend. Your wife is your friend and we have no business in each others lives. Yes I am thinking of you but I refuse to cave and give you what you want. You want the best of both worlds. A woman like me to give you attention, sex and help you sort out your life. That's not on me that's on you and for you and your wife to decide. You have no place in my life. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 Music helps. Just replace "narcissist" with cheater. 😊 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Myabee Posted August 16, 2021 Share Posted August 16, 2021 19 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Music helps. Just replace "narcissist" with cheater. 😊 20 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Music helps. Just replace "narcissist" with cheater. 😊 Lol! That's a good one. My problem those songs that trigger the loving thoughts that need to stop! I do not love you!!! It was all an illusion. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Myabee Posted August 17, 2021 Share Posted August 17, 2021 4 days strong now. My urge to contact you is still there even though your phone number is no longer in my phone, I remember it by heart. Deep down I know that reaching out is a step backwards. You are married. Weather you are truly a happily married man or not happy as you mentioned several times the fact still remains you stay. You have no intention of ever leaving. I refuse to disrespect myself by caving into you. This past 13 months has been a whirlwind of emotion. Seeing you this past spring in person was a day I wont forget. Those long hugs and kisses felt like they were meant to be however they were NOT. None of this is or was meant to be not with your MM status. I was a fool and am still angry at myself for buying into your antics. The anger is toning down with moments of sorrow that pop in. I would lie to say I don't miss you in my life in some form, however it's counter productive to moving on. I will remain strong! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Myabee Posted August 17, 2021 Share Posted August 17, 2021 13 hours ago, Myabee said: 4 days strong now. My urge to contact you is still there even though your phone number is no longer in my phone, I remember it by heart. Deep down I know that reaching out is a step backwards. You are married. Weather you are truly a happily married man or not happy as you mentioned several times the fact still remains you stay. You have no intention of ever leaving. I refuse to disrespect myself by caving into you. This past 13 months has been a whirlwind of emotion. Seeing you this past spring in person was a day I wont forget. Those long hugs and kisses felt like they were meant to be however they were NOT. None of this is or was meant to be not with your MM status. I was a fool and am still angry at myself for buying into your antics. The anger is toning down with moments of sorrow that pop in. I would lie to say I don't miss you in my life in some form, however it's counter productive to moving on. I will remain strong! So i blew my strength and caved today. Taking a break from here to get it back. Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted August 18, 2021 Share Posted August 18, 2021 (edited) This is a great concept, Op. Stay strong, ya’ll here’s mine; I don’t wanna see you or date you, but I really want my $400 and my silk pillow. You told me about that $400 because you know me. You know it would weigh on my mind. You told me that you would contact me when you’re good to meet up and give it to me. I’m ready to let it go, but I have to say it wouldn’t hurt to be $400 richer. Edited August 18, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Myabee Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 Early morning here. I will say I feel a heck of a lot stronger in the no need for contact department. I feel like there is nothing left to say and it's far better to let you fade away. I must continue to remember you can't love something that was never belonged to you. Leaving it at that for now. More clarity will ensue as the days roll by. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 7 minutes ago, Myabee said: Early morning here. I will say I feel a heck of a lot stronger in the no need for contact department. I feel like there is nothing left to say and it's far better to let you fade away. I must continue to remember you can't love something that was never belonged to you. Leaving it at that for now. More clarity will ensue as the days roll by. I’m so glad to hear this mya 🤎🤎🤎you are strong 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 I also wanna add I broke nc with my ex in attempt to get my money back. I am weak Link to post Share on other sites
Myabee Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: I also wanna add I broke nc with my ex in attempt to get my money back. I am weak Cookie... It's ok you are only human. We all have the power to go back to NC when ready. You can do it. I hope you get the money. Take the money and run😂😂😘 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Myabee Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 (edited) Remembering the bs... his lines and excsues that helps I had my phone in my silenced and in my pocket and hadn’t seen the comment. I don’t know that I’ve necessarily fixed anything yet. Or whether it’s even broken. I know there are certainly issues with it and many of them go back years. And some of them may never be fixed. But it’s better than it was a year ago and I feel content so I guess that’s good enough. I spent a long time trying to convince myself to start over and take a chance with you and I couldn’t. I guess only time will tell whether that was the right decision. But it feels like the right decision. I was obviously in a dark place in my head and unfortunately dragged you down there with me. I’m sorry about that too. No I will not accept sorry you SNAKE! Edited August 19, 2021 by Myabee 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted August 19, 2021 Share Posted August 19, 2021 I'm glad this thread is helping OP. Another good way to get over a break up is penning a letter but never sending it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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