Badabing1 Posted August 9, 2022 Share Posted August 9, 2022 We are apart for over 5 years, We had a great relationship, she didn’t want to break up and was devastated but it wasn’t a breakup caused by anger or arguments. I broke up with her a for personal reasons. She’s been in 1 relationship since (my neighbour). And I’ve not had urge to start a new relationship since we split. She is also good friends with my sister to this day (she met through our relationship) I’ve wanted to get back together with her for a good while now but assumed she had moved on and I didn’t want to force myself back into her life, after all I ended things. she was on a night out with my sister and found out I was in a bar nearby. Sent me a few texts begging me to come meet them. So I very happily did. We had a great night, talking. mostly catching up, all the time she was stroking / touching my leg hugging etc. we walked back to an after party, talking the whole way, holding hands like a young couple again, we didn’t go past this level of intimacy during the evening but both had a great night togather. we’ve been texting for a few days since, and I asked her if she’d meet me this weekend for a coffee, she quickly said yes to the “date” before going offline, she hasn’t contacted me since. im a bit confused here as to if she would be open to getting back together or not. I’m almost afraid to ask, we had such a lovely night and when the idea of meeting up again is brought up she’s gone dark on me. she is truly the only girl I’ve ever loved, intimately I do wanted her back but I’m afraid to bring it up with her incase it brings up bad memories of our breakup for her. Any advice on what to do? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 9, 2022 Share Posted August 9, 2022 If she was to consider getting back together with you, she'd have to be very confident that you aren't going to dump her again. And she's also likely to be wary. Are the reasons you ended the relationship no longer a problem for you? Are you willing to disclose your journey since leaving her? If she's agreed to meeting you, I wouldn't worry about her not being in contact. She may well just be saving conversation till you meet up 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted August 10, 2022 Share Posted August 10, 2022 You might have to lean in, to be persistent--as she may harbor (almost definite does harbor!) painful feelings from the past. In general, people to make it clear when they want to reconcile--both sides. So far, I'm picking up lukewarm interest from your ex. In my experience, people do make themselves available when they want to reconcile. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
OKtoday Posted August 10, 2022 Share Posted August 10, 2022 I would have been confused by the offer of the coffee date. If I was excited to get together and meet again, after the fun night before, the minimum offer would make me think any feelings I had were just in my head. Why not a nice lunch date to show you care and really want to catch up with her? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JRabbit Posted August 10, 2022 Share Posted August 10, 2022 If you do pursue this, you better be 100% certain you want to be with her going forward. Don't do her dirty twice. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted August 10, 2022 Share Posted August 10, 2022 15 hours ago, Badabing1 said: I asked her if she’d meet me this weekend for a coffee, she quickly said yes to the “date” It sounds promising, so wait until you are alone together in person to feel the situation out . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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