coco24 Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 About a month ago, I started seeing a friend who I liked 10 years ago and the feeling was reciprocal for him. Since then, he had three children and I had three children. He seemed so sure about our plans which were to move in together, and be boyfriend and girlfriend. Recently, his feelings for me changed and did a complete 360 (after he confined to his mom) about our relationship. He told me the other night that his mom suggested that I move into my own apartment and he move into his own and that there should be no more late nights with him. His mom is all the way in another state. Also, he seemed supporteve of me having my own business at first. Now all ofa sudden he is requesting that I get a fulltime job when I have told him all I need is a parttime to be financially comfortable b/c I need the other time to devote to my business needs. I already have interviews scheduled. I have made steps to get my own apartment. I feel I am reaching him halfway and he should be happy. I do not want to eventually and will not sacrifice my goals to make (his mom) happy. I feel that it has been 10 years long enough and we are finally together. I really am unhappy about getting a 1-year lease when we can help eachother by living together. There are a lot of roommates of opposite sex that live together and bf & gf's. What do you think? I am ready to just end it. Is his mom trying to keep us apart and make my life miserable considering she is also a women. Shouldnt she know my feelings. I know that he is close to his mom. Should I stop answering his calls. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 It would be a huge mistake to move in together after such a short time, particularly if you have designs on him. In this his mom is correct. Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 He told me the other night that his mom suggested that I move into my own apartment and he move into his own and that there should be no more late nights with him. If she's actually suggesting some of this, what is she, his wet-nurse? She's right about you two living together so soon, but you're both adults here. If she act this way now, imagine how she'll advise you both if you were married to this guy. It's a bad idea to move in with anyone when you don't see eye to eye on finances. I'd have more of an issue with him telling you how to deal with your business and career. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 If he confides in his mom about everything and she interferes in his life it may mean that: 1. He is prone to making big mistakes easily; and/or 2. He is a momma's boy. Your post was not clear enough (to me) in order to get an image of what's going on. But from personal experience, I would advise you to concentrate on what's going on between you two. If he truly loves you, he will be fully yours sooner or later. However if he is pathologically connected with his mother, he will always give priority to her needs and opinions. Link to post Share on other sites
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