Could she like me more than a friend and how do I subtly find out?

[Clueless2022]

I’ve recently joined a group and there is a women in it who I’ve chatted with and hung out with in the group. I didn’t realise at first that I was into her and just recently began noticing it.

I was wondering if she might like me too. I notice sometimes to get my attention, she touches my arm. A few times she’s got excited and touched my arm and said “we should do this…”. I haven’t noticed her do that with the others. 

The other day I noticed when in a group of people, it’s like she is just talking to me. Although she’s telling a story to everyone, it’s me she’s looking at, or I can see her suddenly excited to tell the story and looks directly into my eyes first, and then after a while I see her look at other people quickly - I know I do the same but I like her and have an ‘oh sh! t’ moment realising that I should be looking at others when telling a story and not just her - I was wondering if maybe she might have the same thing going on, as she’s looking at me for some time then quickly looks at the others and is back to me. 

The group meet I mentioned above happened 3 days ago and she just sent me a PM message with a meme about cooking (I’d been the cook)- she could have tagged me in it as it’s a public meme but I’m liking the fact it was more personal in a PM. It’s made me so happy- she thought of me- this has to be a good sign right? 

I’m just wondered if it might be that she likes me more than a friend? Or some at least some attraction?  or if this something people would do if they like someone as a friend? I don’t know how to move it forward to see if she might like me more but in a way that I don’t totally embarrass myself and have to leave the group? Are these signs good for more than friends potentially or is it just friendly behaviour?? Is there anything I should be looking for?

[alphamale]

Sounds like she likes you, eye contact and touching are two of the signs. By all means ask her out.

[smackie9]

Ask her out on a date. If she says yes, she's interested. That's how it works. 

[Clueless2022]

19 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

Ask her out on a date. If she says yes, she's interested. That's how it works. 

I’m thinking of doing it but don’t want to make it awkward within the group if she doesn’t like me like that. I know we are adults and all that but still bit awkward 

[Rider on the Storm]

1 hour ago, Clueless2022 said:

I’m thinking of doing it but don’t want to make it awkward within the group if she doesn’t like me like that. I know we are adults and all that but still bit awkward 

As someone who went through something similar recently (only to find out after a month that she has a boyfriend), I would just ask her. You don't even necessarily have to start by asking for a "date". You could just ask if she would be interested in grabbing a drink after the group meet. 

I agree that eye contact and touching are good signs. You won't know for sure until you ask her. 

[smackie9]

I think asking her to go for a drink after the group meet would be considered as a date or sorts. Hope she agrees to go. 

[Clueless2022]

2 hours ago, Rider on the Storm said:

As someone who went through something similar recently (only to find out after a month that she has a boyfriend), I would just ask her. You don't even necessarily have to start by asking for a "date". You could just ask if she would be interested in grabbing a drink after the group meet. 

I agree that eye contact and touching are good signs. You won't know for sure until you ask her. 

Ah no sorry to hear she had a bf! Yeah I don’t want to be wondering for ages to find that out; you’re right. Drink sounds like a good plan 

[Rider on the Storm]

1 hour ago, Clueless2022 said:

Ah no sorry to hear she had a bf! Yeah I don’t want to be wondering for ages to find that out; you’re right. Drink sounds like a good plan 

Good luck and keep us posted.

[Rider on the Storm]

Checking in .. Any update in regard to you asking her out for a drink?

[Clueless2022]

2 hours ago, Rider on the Storm said:

Checking in .. Any update in regard to you asking her out for a drink?

I actually saw her tonight at group and she was different this time, I wasn’t getting the same vibe so I left it. I think I’m going to just see how it goes and not get my hopes up for now.