Have no idea if I should pursue ex-coworker I've been seeing

[Livid_economics99]

 I used to be in a leadership position with a 40-something people under me, both men and women. I loved working with them and always held a professional distance with female coworkers.

I left my previous position for another one higher up, where I don't have any personnel. At a work party where the whole company attended one of my former female coworkers, which I always got along with great, came up to me. Long story short, we hooked up then and there. After which I texted her I wanted to see her again, to which she responded: ok.

This seemed like a pretty strange and short reply to send to someone you hooked up with and as easy as that, she got into my head. I also decided that I wouldn't reach out too much. She's been known to get a lot of male attention and even though I like her, I don't want to chase her too much. Fast forward, after the weekend she texted me, came over and we had sex again, which was to both me and (educated guess) her after which we hung out for a bit before she left.

We had no contact after that for the rest of the week. At work she was being unusually distant, which I interpret as a way to not let out that we've been seeing each other. Gossip is pretty bad at our company, so I understand that.

Next week she went out of her way to work out with me, before inviting me to go to a party with her and some colleagues. I declined because of priorities. The next day however, we did go to a party (it was a week long festival) after which we hooked up again, this time even better than the last. No contact again after that.

Two days later, I saw her at the gym. She just said "hi" and continued to do her thing. Afterwards she texted me to join her and other guys to the same festival again, where we had a really great time and of course, hooked up again. She slept over that night and completely ignored me the next day again.

I opened up quite a bit to her during our nights together and showed quite some emotion, which is out of character for me but felt really genuine so I just went with it. She however, never really reciprocated, besides saying she would miss me too (I was leaving for 5 weeks).

She lives a 2 hour drive from my home, which is quite a large distance in my country. My nephew lives 10minutes from her, and I was planning to visit him. I texted her that I would be around, to which she reacted enthusiastically, but we just missed each other because of circumstances. A few weeks later I visited my nephew again and had some spare time. I called her (I notified her I would be there in advance), we met up and we had a great time at a cafe. She asked me to come over to her place, which I did. She obviously wanted to have sex again, but I wanted to see how we would be together without it, so I held my distance.

She texted me after I left, we had a short conversation which she ended pretty quickly. Tomorrow she's going to be near my place to attend to a friends military ceremony and I'll see her next week at work (which will be the last week I'm going to work at that place). She said she wanted to up next week as well, but I'm doubting. My feelings will only grow and I don't even know if she has any for me.

When I reach out to her, she reacts enthusiastically or at least compliant, she wants to see me and she wants to have sex with me. What I don't know, is if she does this with other guys, but that's not my business at this point. She shows little to no emotion besides being happy to see me and wanting to cuddle with me afterwards. Texting is at minimum even though we have a good connection when we're together.

After typing this, it seems like she likes me, but not enough to pursue me or as relationship material. I like her really badly though, but I've been keeping that to myself, seeing as my earlier advances got pretty much ignored/deflected. I've been thinking that if she doesn't contact me tomorrow, when she's in the vicinity of my hometown, I get at least part of an answer.

The way ahead though, I'm not sure about that. I'm thinking of telling her I like her and want to see her more often, but I don't want to pressure her or pursue her if she's not into me, which I kind of get the feeling she isn't. That has never ended well for me. I've had only one 10 year long relationship where both parties were open about liking each other from the get go which just ended and I'm just not used to this hot/cold game and withholding or absence of feelings.

Tldr; I hooked up with a girl from work, who very briefly replies to texts, rarely initiates contact, shows no emotion but wanted to hook up multiple times. We met up once where we didn't have sex (intentionally from my side). Thinking of telling her I like her and want to see her more often, but afraid she doesn't feel the same and if she does, she doesn't really show it. I also don't know if she's seeing other guys and she lives far away from my place, so I'm doubting if there even is a future worth pursuing.

[Wiseman2]

Are either of you in other relationships? Is all the tiptoeing around to avoid office gossip or to avoid a relationship?