HeartSprinkles Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 I joined myspace. There, I said it…I did it, I gave into peer pressure and joined myspace. Myspace is not directly the issue, but it is a link in the chain. I happened to see someone on the cool new people box, and I read his profile. I liked the way he worded and explained himself…he sounded like me. We messaged each other and after a few weeks of messaging and exchanging witty banter, he asked to meet me. I normally see this as creepy internet behavior, but we were on the same page about just having coffee and chatting. The main reason I met him was that we seemed to have the same personality and our sense of humors seemed to be mirror images of each others. I honestly never considered him as dating material, even after the first time I met him. He is not my physical type…I’m really not shallow, but I believe that looks are what attracts you, and personality is what makes you stay. We met again, and I was excited to have some fun with him and his friends. (Sort of ballsy of me to barge in on him and his friends, but he wanted me to). We had a great time, and his friends were really accepting, more than mine would have been. (I am conscious of the fact that my friends are elitist pompous emo prics, but hey we all love each other). As the evening progressed, I caught on that there were more feelings present on his side than on mine. As the night progressed even further, I started to really understand that he is this really great guy and his friends were really great as well. He is chivalrous (gave me his hoodie), kind (paid for me, but I really didn‘t want that to happen), so honest about his feelings (especially at the end of the night), and we are similar in good ways and opposite in other ways (good all around). Basically, what I’m getting at is… do you think that I should go ahead and fall madly in love with this internet guy, or should I step back and say, “hey, self, what are you doing?” I’m hesitant because I wasn’t instantly attracted to him, and also because I have been on a single streak for a little over a year…(self imposed, because I wanted to be happy with myself and do some self discovery…blah blah blah.) I’m the kind of person who doesn’t believe in soul-mates, marriage, and all that other garbage. BUT here I am, 23 years old and thinking about this guy that I met through myspace. Am I a loser? Don’t answer that… Should we just be friends for a little while first…? Should I be totally embarrassed…? Will it just turn out badly…? IS instant attraction totally important..? Help a really confused girl out! Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 I don't think there's really a right answer here. It's not really a matter of if you should feel that instant attraction or not. If you're starting to fall for him now and he's a good guy, I don't really see the problem. It kind of sounds like you're more worried about what your friends will think than anyone else. If you like the guy and they give you s*** for it, then they're not very good friends anyway. Basically, if you want to hang out with him more, you should. And if not, then you shouldn't. Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 I personally don't condone this myspace thing but that is my opinion.. MY h is in a band and he is on their and the band member that created this page excepts some trashy looking women as friends and i don't think married men should indulge in this website and the guy that made is married also!! I would say be careful with meeting people over the internet because you don't really don't know who they are !!!!They could be murders or pedifiles please use your best judgement!!! I'm not saying anything about you being on myspace but this is just my opinion of how i feel about this site .. I literally hate it causes these women on the band pages are only interested in getting in the band members pants not caring if they are married or not !!! I guess they are what you call grouppies!!!Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 Plenty of people who got married and stayed happily married didn't necessarily feel the attraction at first. It's a myth that physical attraction is the best judge of whether you're meant to be. Physical attraction is about the biology - the animal instinct that just wants us to reproduce. It doesn't hit everyone 'at first sight' by any means. Lots and lots of people become attracted as they get to know someone. IS instant attraction totally important..? To sum up: a resounding NO. As to the rest, forget about what your friends think. If they think you're a 'loser' because you met him on myspace, that's their problem. Get to know him and follow your heart, not the opinions of people who don't necessarily have your best interests at heart, particularly if they are elitist pompous emo prics Link to post Share on other sites
Author HeartSprinkles Posted October 25, 2005 Author Share Posted October 25, 2005 Okay, thanks for all the inspirational talk. I just have to say, that I don't give a flying poopie about what my friends think. They are prics, and I realize that...I'm just worried about being hurt and hurting him...but i've realized that I'm just going to have fun...whatever will be will be! Thanks for clearing up my vision folks! I always thought that looks were so important, and then I hit the ripe old age of 23, and I realized that the way someone treats you is so much more important in the long run. I love loveshack! Link to post Share on other sites
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