Has anyone just never spoken to an ex again/someone disrespected you so badly you decided that was it?

[ohjess]

Dated my ex for about a year. I decided to end things but we still dated for a bit and then he finally ended things. He told me he was going to stay single for a while, but unbeknownst to me, he told me he was interested in a friend (someone who I was a bit suspicious of) as he would hang out with her at the gym, once as I was going to his place, he was late and was chatting with that girl at the gym. But then claimed it was obvious they weren't compatible. This was only weeks after we broke up. It was unacceptable for me and he agreed that he should have backed off and they were apparently 'friends' for a bit. I was incredibly hurt. He told me on the phone he sort of had feelings for her before we started dating, again he never told me this when I asked who she was. The most hurtful part was that he had nothing in common with her, she was less attractive etc.

Fast forward almost 2 years ago, we've been in on and off contact and he has tried to see me since. He does express occasionally that he gets sad and misses me. We hadn't spoken for about 4 months until he reached out recently, I was happy with us talking about life/what we were getting up to. I just get this vibe that he still likes me, with lots of questions and keeping the conversation going, and says my name to all the time and joked that I'm a goth with a black love heart about some comment. You know when you can just tell someone is kinda needy/interested in you? He reached out saying he wanted to let me know that he's going on a holiday soon overseas and that he moved cities for the time being but kept saying he had a job back home (seems like he's interested still). Anyway, I asked about his house and for some reason, he interpreted that I was talking about that girl. He sent a question mark with the street he lived on and I said yes. He sent some weird message to me saying 'If it's who you're thinking about, I have not spoken to her in forever, obviously'. I quickly said that I was talking about where he used to live. Then I changed the subject. The other night I told him to stop speaking about this person. He sort of apologised and said that he doesn't want to go back to that unacceptable talk and that he misinterpreted me.

I haven't responded. I am livid really. Do I just never speak to this person again? I just feel like I've been subtly disrespected for years by him but he claims it's just because he's clueless.

[ExpatInItaly]

11 minutes ago, ohjess said:

Do I just never speak to this person again?

Exactly. 

Leave him where he belongs and should have stayed - in the past. He had his chance with you and gave you up for someone else. Next. 

[basil67]

If you're talking to an ex as a friend, they should be able to mention whoever and whatever they are interested in.  If hearing the name of another makes you uncomfortable, then you're not ready to be friends. 

[ohjess]

1 hour ago, basil67 said:

If you're talking to an ex as a friend, they should be able to mention whoever and whatever they are interested in.  If hearing the name of another makes you uncomfortable, then you're not ready to be friends. 

But he isn't interested in her as far as I'm aware. They saw each other after we broke up and he claimed he didn't want much to do with her, so it does not make sense. 

[Wiseman2]

Delete and block him. When someone demotes you to FWB, it's time to pull your self respect together and leave for good.

That you chose to stick around and worse are coming back for more is on you.

You've had 2 years to not only get rid of him but to date others. 

If you had a BF/relationship, you wouldn't have a void this guy is filling.

[ohjess]

17 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Delete and block him. When someone demotes you to FWB, it's time to pull your self respect together and leave for good.

That you chose to stick around and worse are coming back for more is on you.

You've had 2 years to not only get rid of him but to date others. 

If you had a BF/relationship, you wouldn't have a void this guy is filling.

There are no friends with benefits here. I have dated others since. 

[Wiseman2]

15 minutes ago, ohjess said:

There are no friends with benefits here. I have dated others since. 

Ok. Then delete and block him. Why go backwards?