Girl will not kiss me even after 3 years

[basil67]

2 hours ago, dancehead said:

The only money I spent in relation to her was about €150 for a flight over there and back and the hotel bill for myself. We saw each other every night and in the daytime when she wasn't at work.

Sorry, that wasn't meant to be taken literally.  I was referring to you continuing to stay because if your investment in her

[Gebidozo]

8 hours ago, dancehead said:

OK. Perhaps this comes from having a 14 year friends with benefits thing, that turned into a very on-off relationship. I have expected no commitment, and I suppose, bad treatment. The last serious 4 year gf relationship I have had ended in 2007 and to be honest the reason it didn't work was because I compared her to the last one

Please don’t ever compare your current partner to an ex (unless the comparison is clearly in favor of your current partner), not even in your mind. It’s a common relationship killer.

It appears that you’ve grown somewhat disillusioned and detached over the course of the years. I don’t think a 14-year FWB relationship is healthy, this kind of thing might be good occasionally, for a short time, as consolation or confidence booster, but it can never, ever replace true romantic love.

It’s like you’ve been eating only protein bars and vitamin pills instead of real food all those years.

You should really meet more people and aim for a real romantic relationship, not those surrogates.

[dancehead]

On 5/20/2024 at 4:50 AM, Gebidozo said:

Please don’t ever compare your current partner to an ex (unless the comparison is clearly in favor of your current partner), not even in your mind. It’s a common relationship killer.

It appears that you’ve grown somewhat disillusioned and detached over the course of the years. I don’t think a 14-year FWB relationship is healthy, this kind of thing might be good occasionally, for a short time, as consolation or confidence booster, but it can never, ever replace true romantic love.

It’s like you’ve been eating only protein bars and vitamin pills instead of real food all those years.

You should really meet more people and aim for a real romantic relationship, not those surrogates.

I think you are right. I do need a real girlfriend and relationship for the first time since I think about 2007. Thanks for all the replies