He ended things suddenly and I'm so shattered

[Sithrenny]

Hello everyone,

This is my first time here.

I was sent to this forum by someone on reddit.

I’m in a terrible situation, I’m 27 and have never been in a relationship.

I met a guy in January who I thought would change that for me.

We both fell for each other and kept going even though most of the time we were long distance.

We met a few times, we’ve had sex and everything has been fine.

We talked about a relationship and started talking about living closer to each other and making it work.

This is a long story but in the shortest form.

Luckily for us or so I thought, I got a job offer and moved cities and this was just close to him , just 2 hours away.

 

We had been so happy I was moving closer and talked about our relationship developing from here and he assured me he was ready for the next level.

 

Only to get here a few days ago, we had a good day when we met, at least that’s what I thought. But he starts acting weird the next days and when I ask he tells me he thought our first meeting after a while will be different.

Mind you we have met before and it was always amazing.

He said it wasn’t like this first time and he thought it would be different and that he needs to be single for now.

I asked why?

He said it wasn’t cause of how the first day went

That he has never been independent/single since he was in his teens and he thinks he needs to be alone for a while and he had been thinking about this a while ago but didn’t want to steal my joy of moving and a new job and tell me.

He said alot about how he just needed this time to be alone and that it had nothing to do with me.

He still wanted me and everything we had wasn’t a lie for him but this is best.

I lost all self respect and started asking him why and trying to make him see reasons why we shouldn’t throw this all away. And he should rethink it. I talked and talked, he talked also and just said it wasn’t my fault and that he was looking forward to this but he needs to be single for now.

Not to mess around but to be on his own for now.

 

I’m so broken and shattered. i can’t believe this is happening after everything we’ve been through to get to this point.

I’m close now and everything was meant to be rosy from here but it’s gone bad.

He promised to be here for me.

I don’t even have friends here or know anyone, I don’t even speak the language.

I can’t stop crying, I’ve tried to distract myself but I can’t stop thinking.

I just don’t understand this, I start work on Monday and I’m sick to my stomach.

I know moving here is good for me and would boost my career but I just wanna leave.

I don’t know how I’d be here and know he is close yet suddenly far away.

I don’t know how to deal with this, I’m distraught and helpless.

Why would he do this?

[stillafool]

3 hours ago, Sithrenny said:

I’m so broken and shattered. i can’t believe this is happening after everything we’ve been through to get to this point.

Welcome to LoveShack and I'm sorry you were hurt.  ^^^What all have you two been through together?  You mentioned you only saw him a few times which included sex.  I think after further thought he felt he didn't know you well enough to be exclusive  plus like he said he wants to be single.  Does he still at least want to go on dates with you or is that off the table to?  If so, being in a new town with a new job might be interesting.  Think of all the new people you will meet.  I think you'll be okay if you give it time.