Why would a woman who doesn't know anything about me, get mad because I don't show her attention.

[Jd36]

Why would a woman who doesn't know anything about me, get mad because I don't show her attention.

I realise that of course you can be attracted to someone you don't know, but I am puzzled why she gets so annoyed with me. I overheard someone ask her the other day have you and him had an argument( this statement was directed at me because they looked at me when they said it).

I find this a really odd statement to make because I am not in a relationship with her and I feel thats the type of remark made towards a couple who have had a tiff .

Should I approach her and ask whats going on or should I leave well alone.

Edited September 22, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Jd36 said:

Why would a woman who doesn't know anything about me, get mad. I am puzzled why she gets so annoyed with me.

How do you know each other? Do you work together? What makes you think she's mad at you?

Who made the remark about what's going on with you two? 

[Jd36]

I have seen her a few times in a bar I frequent, I know shes mad at me because she shown signs of it huffing and puffing, the persons who asked  her whether we had argued with each other were other patrons of the bar who I am aware she knows personally. I just find it an odd statement to make judging we're not in a relationship. 

Edited September 21, 2022 by Jd36

[basil67]

Perhaps you've done something to creep her out? 

Honestly, the only way to find out the answer is to ask her

Edited September 21, 2022 by basil67

[Wiseman2]

2 minutes ago, Jd36 said:

I have seen her a few times in a bar I frequent, I know shes mad at me because she shown signs of it huffing and puffing, the person who asked  her whether we had argued with each other were other patrons of the bar who I am aware she knows personally. I just find it an odd statement to make judging we're not in a relationship. 

So you don't even know her? You have no idea why she is acting any particular way since you have never even spoken to her.

If you like her that much, buy her a drink. If not, buy someone else a drink instead.

Stop staring at her or analysing her every move or expression. It's kind of creepy, maybe that's why she is annoyed?

[Jd36]

as I'm aware I have done nothing to creep her out, I haven't done nothing improper I haven't invaded her personal space. We have exchanged glances but thats about it, she always lingers around me not the other way around. When I don't look at her that's when she gets mad.

  I accept your opinion on asking her whats wrong that is the only way forward perhaps.

Edited September 21, 2022 by Jd36

[basil67]

After your latest update, I will retract my advice to speak with her: if you've never had a conversation, you can't waltz up and ask her if you've done something wrong.

I think she sounds like some kind of drama queen and you'd be best off standing at the other end of room

[Wiseman2]

7 minutes ago, Jd36 said:

. We have exchanged glances but thats about it, 

asking her whats wrong that is the only way forward perhaps.

Don't walk up to her and say "what's your problem?". That's even weirder than staring at each other.

[Jd36]

I wouldn't do that wiseman2, but I get the feeling perhaps I'm wrong, that she wants to talk.

Edited September 21, 2022 by Jd36

[Wiseman2]

6 minutes ago, Jd36 said:

 I get the feeling that she wants to talk.

Either buy her a drink since it's better than staring or go to a different bar. But don't ask bizarre questions about if she's mad at you.

[basil67]

1 hour ago, Jd36 said:

I get the feeling perhaps I'm wrong, that she wants to talk.

If she does want to talk, she's got a funny way of showing it.    I mean, you could be right, but why would you go and talk to a woman who's being rude and huffy towards you?   Again, it's drama queen behaviour and well worth staying away from

[Alpacalia]

She either likes you or thinks you're a schmo.

I initially disliked a past boyfriend in my twenties at first. A popular back-up dancer, he acted like he was the bees knees.

Then we ran into each other a year later and fell in love. 🤪

She might be irritated by something else, which might not have any connection to you. Or she likes you and is frustrated. 

Could be anything.

 

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, Jd36 said:

I have seen her a few times in a bar I frequent, I know shes mad at me because she shown signs of it huffing and puffing, the persons who asked  her whether we had argued with each other were other patrons of the bar who I am aware she knows personally. I just find it an odd statement to make judging we're not in a relationship. 

Why is she appealing to you? If you feel she's a scowling barfly?

Whatever the case, quit the staring contest and either buy her a drink if you're interested or socialize with others there if you are not..

[Jd36]

I found her appealing, because she didn't used to be a scowling barfly as you suggest and she is attractive, but lately she has become so different.

I don't make a habit of staring at people on a regular basis, but I honestly feel because I have stopped looking at her she has become angry .

[mark clemson]

There are many possibilities here, most of them not-so-positive.

She may have started to feel romantically interested in you, but if nothing is progressing, she feels frustrated and "rejected" and so now seeing you isn't fun for her (as it makes her feel this way). That is one possibility among a great many.

A few other possible examples: she may simply be angry about "the world in general" right now, feel that you even glancing at her is "inappropriate" (for some people everything is about them), be reading triggering stuff on social media and processing it emotionally, be stuck in a difficult life situation of whatever kind, or have some tendencies of a personality disorder.

Generally when I see someone who I have little to nothing to do with being inappropriately angry or otherwise weird, I elect to let them have whatever "conniptions" they might be having, disregard anything that doesn't actually impact me, and get on with my life and let them get on with theirs.

Edited September 21, 2022 by mark clemson

[Rider on the Storm]

It sounds like nonsensical, attention-seeking behavior if you ask me. But for whatever reason, it appears that you have taken an interest in a woman who, other than frequenting the same bar as you, you really don't know, other than the fact she appears to be angry at you. 

Personally, I would set my sights on something a little higher than this scenario. With that said, is it fair to assume that you are hoping that this behavior means that she is trying to get your attention because she likes you?

Edited September 21, 2022 by Rider on the Storm

[Jd36]

It could be because I haven't shown enough interest towards her and shes frustrated or indeed it could just be attention seeking 

I'm not 100% sure to be honest though Rider On The Storm.

[BrinnM]

2 minutes ago, Jd36 said:

It could be because I haven't shown enough interest

Sounds likely. 

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, Jd36 said:

I honestly feel because I have stopped looking at her she has become angry .

That makes no sense. Have you asked her out/bought her a drink? If not, leave her alone, it's really that simple. it's doubtful guys not gawking at her makes her "angry"

[Rider on the Storm]

1 hour ago, Jd36 said:

It could be because I haven't shown enough interest towards her and shes frustrated or indeed it could just be attention seeking 

I'm not 100% sure to be honest though Rider On The Storm.

If you're interested in her, why haven't you shown her interest? If she's interested in you, why would she choose to express that through anger instead of communication?

How old are you two?

[poppyfields]

12 hours ago, mark clemson said:

She may have started to feel romantically interested in you, but if nothing is progressing, she feels frustrated and "rejected" and so now seeing you isn't fun for her (as it makes her feel this way).

I vote for this^.

Look, when people don't care, they don't get mad, they're pleasant or just indifferent.

To me, it's very clear there's something happening, there's some major tension between you which is coming out as anger.

Your mere presence stirs her emotions, and she's helpless to control, which makes her angry at you.

It makes perfect sense to me anyway, I've experienced it myself. 

You two need to get stuck in an elevator or stairwell or something, lol.

You need a safe quiet place to relieve the tension.  And then have a date or hot sex and fall in love.    😍

 

 

Edited September 22, 2022 by poppyfields

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, I have to wonder if you're seeing something that is not even there. 

Meaning, I highly doubt a woman you have never once spoken to is mad at you. It sounds like a reach to me. These two women could have been talking about anyone but looked in your direction because they noticed you watching them. 

Edited September 22, 2022 by ExpatInItaly

[glows]

3 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

OP, I have to wonder if you're seeing something that is not even there. 

Meaning, I highly doubt a woman you have never once spoken to is mad at you. It sounds like a reach to me. These two women could have been talking about anyone but looked in your direction because they noticed you watching them. 

This is my read as well. You don’t seem to know one another. I wouldn’t read into her having issues. It’s not clear at all that she’s reacting to you or something else. 

[stillafool]

It sounds like she's just frustrated because she wants you to show interest in her and when you don't look at her she feels rejected.  I would be turned off if I were you but I'm not a man.  I hate attention seekers.

[Alpacalia]

23 hours ago, Jd36 said:

It could be because I haven't shown enough interest towards her and shes frustrated or indeed it could just be attention seeking 

I'm guessing you aren't interested in going out with her.

In this case, your lack of interest would make sense.

Whether you interpret her behavior as rude or mean to you doesn't matter. Let her be.