Anonymousname21 Posted September 22, 2022 Share Posted September 22, 2022 My girlfriends best friend is always joking with my girlfriend saying things such as she has a bigger dick or my girlfriend will always prefer sex with her. The part that irritates me is that my girlfriend plays along and its constant everytime the 3 of us are together. I am fully aware of how these are just jokes and I shouldn't take it to heart, but regardless of how much I try, the jokes always hurt me. Am I just being jealous or am I right to ask her to stop joking in this way? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 22, 2022 Share Posted September 22, 2022 2 hours ago, Anonymousname21 said: my girlfriend will always prefer sex with her. How long have you two been dating? How old is she? Are they in a same sex relationship? Your GF and her friend seem rather immature and crude. Just walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 22, 2022 Share Posted September 22, 2022 I would not be very happy if my partner’s friend spoke to me in such a disrespectful way. I don’t know why the two of them think this is funny or appropriate, we don’t know know anything about their relationship. It’s up to your girlfriend to set the boundaries here and she is doing a very poor job… Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted September 22, 2022 Share Posted September 22, 2022 Ask them to stop. It's only funny the first few times... Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted September 22, 2022 Share Posted September 22, 2022 Talking trashy is her thing. It may be time to find a new girlfriend for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted September 22, 2022 Share Posted September 22, 2022 I would never date someone who thinks it's okay or funny to constantly insult me. I'd be out the door. Don't just take it in silence without standing up for yourself. Tell her you don't like it and she needs to stop. If it continues, then you should see this for what it is.... rude and immature behavior, and end this relationship. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 23, 2022 Share Posted September 23, 2022 (edited) Completely unacceptable. Have you said something to your girlfriend? Simple solution: stop going out with them. Tell your gf you don't like the person she becomes when her friend is present. If she dismisses how you feel tell her you need a break to reconsider this relationship. Edited September 23, 2022 by Gaeta Link to post Share on other sites
bene Posted September 23, 2022 Share Posted September 23, 2022 (edited) Come on, these things are never just jokes. A joke is a joke when everyone laughs along, not downright insults and hostility. This “friend” has no boundaries and for some reason your girlfriend is ok with it. Why does she allow to treat you like this and sides with the “friend” and not you? Why do you allow to be treated like this? Edited September 23, 2022 by bene Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted September 23, 2022 Share Posted September 23, 2022 Is your girlfriend's friend more than just a friend to her? Those are sexual "jokes" and would make me wonder why she continues making them. And I agree with others. It's crude and not funny even if it only happened once. But that she keeps saying it is unacceptable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted September 23, 2022 Share Posted September 23, 2022 OP, reading your original post, I got a very bad negative feeling about it. That they sense your weakness in not standing up for yourself and feeling "hurt". They may even be laughing about it (sorry). Versus your feeling disgusted and pissed off at their utter lack of respect and disdain for you. In short, they are making fun of you, intentionally humiliating you. It's a form of bullying. My advice is don't bother calling them out or telling your 'girlfriend' to knock it off. Just leave! End the relationship. Wish them both well and be on your merry way. Then consider getting some counseling in an effort to understand why this 'hurt" you versus feeling angered and disgusted by it. Lord, I'm feeling angered and disgusted just reading about it, it's appalling! And the fact you said nothing and allowed it is also quite appalling imo. Get out of this 'relationship' and seek help in understanding your powerlessness otherwise you risk people trashing on you and bullying you for the rest of your days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted September 23, 2022 Share Posted September 23, 2022 On 9/21/2022 at 8:25 PM, Anonymousname21 said: My girlfriends best friend is always joking with my girlfriend saying things such as she has a bigger dick or my girlfriend will always prefer sex with her. The part that irritates me is that my girlfriend plays along and its constant everytime the 3 of us are together. I am fully aware of how these are just jokes and I shouldn't take it to heart, but regardless of how much I try, the jokes always hurt me. Am I just being jealous or am I right to ask her to stop joking in this way? How does this make you feel about your girlfriend and her choice of friends? She chooses to have friends like this so this is in part very much about the person you’re dating. There are a few ways to go about this: joke back and dish one out yourself, speak with your girlfriend or tell her friend to stop. My guess is someone with that humour or upbringing doesn’t stop or respect anyone much. You may be rethinking the person you’re dating if you can’t stand their friends. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 23, 2022 Share Posted September 23, 2022 poor character...send her to the curb. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Hopeful30 Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 This is very disrespectful and clearly she's okay with that. Don't let yourself be treated this way and dump her a$$. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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