My sick girlfriend cheated on me with her ex

[TJ26]

Hi Everyone,
I would like to share my story. Me and my girlfriend got to know each other online and after 2 months of very sincere talking we promised commitment to each other and that we will wait for each other only.
Five months later we met in person and went on a trip. We had a very good time. However something in me was telling that I should make sure if she was honest with me and as much as I'm not proud of it. I looked into her phone.

It turned out according to her WhatsApp messages that she still kept meeting her ex. When we were talking she told me that she can't stand him and that they broke up 2 years ago. According to messages they not only met but also had sex more than once.

When I asked her about this she swore that her WhatsApp messages are wrong with date and mixed up and that the conversations are from a different year and she swore that they had nothing. However in their conversation there was a document exchange with a valid date which proved the date to be correct. She says she loves me and wants to be with me. But she would not admit her betrayal even though I asked her many times so then I can forgive her and move on.
Also it turned out that she was diagnosed last year with uterine cancer (stage 3) and breast lumps as well. I know this for sure because she has a very bad health. 

I don't know what to do. I really love her and I want to trust her but her messages are strong proof. Plus she is going through difficult times because of her health. I can't forgive but I also can't just leave her behind in this state.

Thank you for reading.
Any advice and opinion is highly appreciated.

Kind regards.

[mark clemson]

This is just a GF, so the simple thing to do is leave.

Does "wait for each other" mean you are postponing sex until marriage? If so, it seems that lifestyle might not be for her.

It's possible that you are "the fallback plan" for if she can't patch things back together with her Ex. It's also possible that the Ex is the fallback plan for if things don't work out with you, or I suppose that she simply just "got weak" and went back to him for a bit.

At any rate, it's clear she doesn't know her own mind and/or is clearly not fully committed to you. So again, the simple thing to do is leave.

[mark clemson]

I would note that you don't need to be in a relationship to support her through her illness (if that is something she needs and/or you feel a moral obligation to do that). You can support her as "just a friend." rather than a romantic partner, if supporting her is something you intend to do.

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, TJ26 said:

Five months later we met in person and went on a trip. We had a very good time.

 Is this a distance situation? Have you visited each other?  Been in each others homes? Met any of each other's friends/family? Why was your first meet a trip together? 

[McJr760]

8 hours ago, TJ26 said:

Hi Everyone,
I would like to share my story. Me and my girlfriend got to know each other online and after 2 months of very sincere talking we promised commitment to each other and that we will wait for each other only.
Five months later we met in person and went on a trip. We had a very good time. However something in me was telling that I should make sure if she was honest with me and as much as I'm not proud of it. I looked into her phone.

It turned out according to her WhatsApp messages that she still kept meeting her ex. When we were talking she told me that she can't stand him and that they broke up 2 years ago. According to messages they not only met but also had sex more than once.

When I asked her about this she swore that her WhatsApp messages are wrong with date and mixed up and that the conversations are from a different year and she swore that they had nothing. However in their conversation there was a document exchange with a valid date which proved the date to be correct. She says she loves me and wants to be with me. But she would not admit her betrayal even though I asked her many times so then I can forgive her and move on.
Also it turned out that she was diagnosed last year with uterine cancer (stage 3) and breast lumps as well. I know this for sure because she has a very bad health. 

I don't know what to do. I really love her and I want to trust her but her messages are strong proof. Plus she is going through difficult times because of her health. I can't forgive but I also can't just leave her behind in this state.

Thank you for reading.
Any advice and opinion is highly appreciated.

Kind regards.

I think you might need to get in touch with the ex man to man. I mean chances are he would lie too, but if you made the plan to see him maybe she would fess up. I've never used WhatsApp so I don't know how they keep track of messages. I grew up with the notion 'actions speak louder than words'. She can say whatever she wants, but there needs to be a change that you can see. That would be up to you and her. Give her a chance to fix her mistakes if you really do love each other. This could be the time to make amends incase her health turns for the worst, god forbid.