Wolfie2x Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 I was in a situationship with a guy for 8 months. We had a lot of ups and downs. He would constantly switch between calling/texting me all the time and complimenting me all the time, to getting irritated easily/calling me names and ignoring me. A few weeks ago he went on a backpacking trip and told me not to expect any communication from him while he was gone. When he got back he texted me that he was home and we started talking again. Then a few days later he texts me out of the blue to tell me that he has a gf. I reacted hurt and he said “Cant u be happy for once” “Im sick and f* tired of not being able to tell you things because I know i’ll get s*** over me”. He also said he doesn’t want this to be a goodbye and that he was only informing me. What?? I cant stop picturing them together. All the time and affection I desperately wanted from him is now being given to someone else. I miss him a lot. The sex was absolutely amazing, our chemistry was off the charts and I feel like i’ll never feel that way ever again. Im feeling extremely jealous and worthless. Why wasn’t I good enough? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 2 minutes ago, Wolfie2x said: He would constantly switch between calling/texting me all the time and complimenting me all the time, to getting irritated easily/calling me names and ignoring me. he said “Cant u be happy for once” “Im sick and f* tired of not being able to tell you things because I know i’ll get s*** over me”. You dodged a bullet. It's amazing you tolerated this disrespect/abuse for 8 mos. Delete and block him. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 34 minutes ago, Wolfie2x said: getting irritated easily/calling me names and ignoring me You should begin by asking yourself why you so badly wanted a relationship with a man that treats you so poorly. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 48 minutes ago, Wolfie2x said: he said “Cant u be happy for once” “Im sick and f* tired of not being able to tell you things because I know i’ll get s*** over me”. It seems that the two of you had quite different expectations in this "situationship." What does the word situationiship mean to you? Based on what you said that he said (quoted), and your description, he was thinking of a no commitment, no expectation, no drama arrangement for sex, while you were hoping for a more traditional relationship and voicing your expectations. In order to form a couple people have to align in many ways, and it has to be mutual on the important items. Women often expect that the man should be all-in, and that the woman gets to decide if he's good enough. That's the traditional paradigm anyway where the man pursues and tries to win her affections. But it's not always that simple, esp. in the modern dating world. Women pursue men now too, and sometimes a guy will consider a woman good enough to have sex with but not girlfriend/wifey material. Men at the top of the hierarchy (many options) are notoriously difficult to lock down, and they tend to like variety. So rejection can happen in either direction, and it's not any easier for men... it's just that we know it's something we have to accept and move on. It's not going to do much good to be stuck in a loop trying to analyze why (although I'm sure we all do it). Just accept that he had options and he chose someone else. As for his suggestion that it not being good-bye... this won't be good for you. Cut it off clean, heal and move on. Find someone who will date you, not just shtup until he finds someone else. You're not detached enough for that. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 1 hour ago, Wolfie2x said: I was in a situationship with a guy for 8 months. We had a lot of ups and downs. He would constantly switch between calling/texting me all the time and complimenting me all the time, to getting irritated easily/calling me names and ignoring me. A few weeks ago he went on a backpacking trip and told me not to expect any communication from him while he was gone. When he got back he texted me that he was home and we started talking again. Then a few days later he texts me out of the blue to tell me that he has a gf. I reacted hurt and he said “Cant u be happy for once” “Im sick and f* tired of not being able to tell you things because I know i’ll get s*** over me”. He also said he doesn’t want this to be a goodbye and that he was only informing me. What?? I cant stop picturing them together. All the time and affection I desperately wanted from him is now being given to someone else. I miss him a lot. The sex was absolutely amazing, our chemistry was off the charts and I feel like i’ll never feel that way ever again. Im feeling extremely jealous and worthless. Why wasn’t I good enough? You’re missing the chaos he brings to your life. I’d question that and why you’ve accepted his attitude and verbal abuse. The moment he showed you that he should have been gone and out of your life. I’m sorry you’re being hit hard by this now. This man is showing you in more ways than one what little he thinks of you and he doesn’t respect you. Don’t keep making yourself available to situations and people like this. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 25, 2022 Share Posted September 25, 2022 1 hour ago, Wolfie2x said: I cant stop picturing them together. All the time and affection I desperately wanted from him is now being given to someone else. I miss him a lot. The sex was absolutely amazing, our chemistry was off the charts and I feel like i’ll never feel that way ever again. Im feeling extremely jealous and worthless. Why wasn’t I good enough? Were you friends with benefits and then he found a gf? Are you a same sex couple? Link to post Share on other sites
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