Date with an escort

[Maldives]

2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Well that is kind of sour grapes,no?

Social media is the new marketing tool in a sort of sell without hard sell kind of way.

For example "influencers" people paid to seem like regular social media users that are actually subtly selling.

You weren't duped, you just wanted a GF experience and rode with that. All you can do is use social media wisely and realize if there's a link to an escort page, well then it is what it is.

True but a good sales person or marketeer will always qualify their leads not waste time on Leeds as you would say that are going nowhere. There was always the chance that when money was mentioned I would have said no to which I did. A waste of time in my eyes If that was her motive but as another poster said earlier just a way of her soliciting business. 

 

Edited October 1, 2022 by Goodguy05

[Alpacalia]

Just be thankful she wasn't undercover law enforcement.

[Maldives]

11 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

Just be thankful she wasn't undercover law enforcement.

Why do you say that? 

Edited October 1, 2022 by Goodguy05

[Maldives]

She's not breaking the law btw escorting is legal where I am and remember if you read my thread and understood it I felt lead on and said no anyway regardless. Your comment is nonsensical 

[Alpacalia]

On 9/29/2022 at 12:55 AM, Goodguy05 said:

Anyway, my point is she was visiting my town this week and she landed etc and I reached out to a asking if she wanted to catch up to which she replied yes and to book her in as in a fee for service arrangement which I was completely a taken aback and surprised to which I responded and said no

Well, you never know. Sting operations are not uncommon.

Unless, of course, your plan was to just meet for coffee.

I'm not sure what you're upset about exactly.

You knew that she was an escort when you first reached out to her.

What made you think that she would just give you her services for free?

Edited October 1, 2022 by Alpacalia

[Maldives]

9 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

Well, you never know. Sting operations are not uncommon.

Unless, of course, your plan was to just meet for coffee.

I'm not sure what you're upset about exactly.

You knew that she was an escort when you first reached out to her.

What made you think that she would just give you her services for free?

You really didn't read my post. I didn't reach out to her. She reached out to me. I just followed her on Instagram. Go reread my post and then comment. Yes, I know she was a escort. There's no ifs or butts about that. I thought she was being genuine with me. Money was mentioned only at the very end after a couple of months. This might come as a surprise to you but escorts also look for love and relationships regardless of the job. I've read it on here on this forum about people doing that being an escort and falling for someone and I've seen it on and read it stories on dating forums as well. 

Edited October 1, 2022 by Goodguy05

[Alpacalia]

Just now, Goodguy05 said:

You really didn't read my post. I didn't reach out to her. She reached out to me. I just followed her on Instagram. Go reread my post and then comment. Yes, I know she was a escort. There's no ifs or butts about that. I thought she was being genuine with me. Money was mentioned only at the very end after a couple of months. This might come as a surprise to you but escorts and also look for love and relationship regardless of the job. I've read it on here on this forum and I've seen it on dating forums as well

Yes I did.

You chose to follow her fully knowing that she is an escort.

Like you said initially:

On 9/29/2022 at 12:55 AM, Goodguy05 said:

So I got to know an escort through Instagram. Well she reached out to me after I followed her. Don't ask how I followed her. I just sometimes for funs sake look at personal ads and saw hers.

I'm sorry that you felt led on by her but escorts are in the business to make money. Not to befriend strangers for fun.

[Maldives]

Yes and I followed other escorts on Instagram and non-behave like that. I wasn't intending to start communicating with her. She kept reaching out to me and it escalated and got a little bit more personal. That's why I felt led on get my drift

Edited October 1, 2022 by Goodguy05

[Alpacalia]

2 minutes ago, Goodguy05 said:

Yes and I followed other escorts on Instagram and non-behave like that. I wasn't intending to start communicating with her. She kept reaching out to me and it escalated and got a little bit more personal. That's why I felt led on get my drift

That's fine.

The initial statement you made about wanting attention probably played a role.

For escorts, that's a huge draw.

[Maldives]

On 10/1/2022 at 5:10 AM, Despin said:

 

Oh yes it does, karma does catch up with you. At some point what you put out you get back maybe not straight away. For instance and ex that cheated with a friend of mine and he cheated our friendship and me  The same thing she did to me happened to her her 12 years down the track with him. Your behaviour eventually catches up with you.

Edited October 2, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Wiseman2]

5 minutes ago, Goodguy05 said:

karma does catch up with you. At some point what you put out you get back maybe not straight away. 

But this escort did nothing wrong. She was selling her trade. You fell for it. But it's what you wanted to do. You didn't give her money so you weren't ripped off. You're disappointed that this escort was not a random social media girl who was interested. You can be upset, but this is what she does for a living. 

[Maldives]

On 10/1/2022 at 5:39 AM, Despin said:

 

 

 

 

No not really Just trying to unpack what happened. Karma can also be good. Not necessarily bad. I didn't chase. By the way, If you'd read my post properly, 

 

Edited October 2, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Maldives]

9 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

But this escort did nothing wrong. She was selling her trade. You fell for it. But it's what you wanted to do. You didn't give her money so you weren't ripped off. You're disappointed that this escort was not a random social media girl who was interested. You can be upset, but this is what she does for a living I didn't really

I didn't really want to say anything because it was my own personal business but when I was younger I dated an escort As in we had a relationship so it's not unheard of.

[Wiseman2]

Just now, Goodguy05 said:

when I was younger I dated an escort As in we had a relationship

That is unrelated to this. This was clearly advertising, not a situation where you two are dating and you get for free what others pay for. 

[Maldives]

On 10/1/2022 at 5:55 AM, Despin said:

 

 

I followed her. I didn't initiate contact. I follow other escorts. It was her that reached out to me. I had no intention of messaging her. Look I came on here to get some feedback not misquoted try reading my post and understanding what I'm saying on it. But look I think I'm gonna jump off at this point because I've already gotten the point back on the second page of this thread. One of the guys on their gave me some real good perspective. So appreciate everyone's feedback, but I'm going to jump off now because it's just becoming a bit of a well what did U expect kinda thing and you should have known. Boy if we're all so perfect no one would make mistakes and we'd all have everlasting perfect relationships lol 

Edited October 2, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Maldives]

7 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

That is unrelated to this. This was clearly advertising, not a situation where you two are dating and you get for free what others pay for. 

I didn't ask her for sex. I just want to make that clear. I asked if she wanted to catch up. I didn't ask her for sex anyway thanks Wiseman but I'm going to jump off at this point. I get it. I got my answer way back on the second page

[ExpatInItaly]

Karma has nothing to do with this. 

She is an escort, doing exactly what many escorts do. She didn't mistreat you in any way. You gave yourself false hope by assuming it meant something more, when you have known the entire time that she's a professional sex worker. You are the one confusing her contact for personal interest. She's just gathering clients. 

This one is on you, not her. 

Edited October 1, 2022 by ExpatInItaly

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, Goodguy05 said:

Boy if we're all so perfect no one would make mistakes and we'd all have everlasting perfect relationships

It's not about being perfect. 

It's about being realistic and reasonable in your expectations. Yours were were neither, in this context. 

[NuevoYorko]

5 hours ago, Goodguy05 said:

True but a good sales person or marketeer will always qualify their leads not waste time on Leeds as you would say that are going nowhere. 

 

Not on the Internet.  It's no skin of anyone's back to continue to send pictures, ads, to any entity that showed interest.

 

[ExpatInItaly]

5 hours ago, Goodguy05 said:

True but a good sales person or marketeer will always qualify their leads not waste time on Leeds as you would say that are going nowhere

I think you are vastly over-estimating how much time and effort she put into dropping you some messages here and there. This type of "sales" can be conducted while she's sitting on the toilet or while her last client is washing up before he leaves the hotel room. 

The same goes for a video-call. It's basically no effort when she has a guy who is very eager to talk to her and might net her a profit. It's a very low investment for her. 

[bene]

I’m curious what would have been the positive scenario in your mind? You’d start dating and she continues to provide escort services to other men? You start dating and you will magically turn her whole life around and she’ll give up her escorting job? 

I don’t think you’re thinking clearly here. If you’re so worked up about being led on (and I agree with the others that it’s literally her job to arouse interest of men) how on earth would you date a woman working in this kind of business?

Edited October 1, 2022 by bene

[Maldives]

5 hours ago, bene said:

I’m curious what would have been the positive scenario in your mind? You’d start dating and she continues to provide escort services to other men? You start dating and you will magically turn her whole life around and she’ll give up her escorting job? 

I don’t think you’re thinking clearly here. If you’re so worked up about being led on (and I agree with the others that it’s literally her job to arouse interest of men) how on earth would you date a woman working in this kind of business?

No you're right. It's called having rose coloured glasses on. That's what it's called. I'm glad now It didn't go anywhere. There's no way I'd be able to handle that kind of job 

[NuevoYorko]

On 10/1/2022 at 5:55 AM, Goodguy05 said:

I didn't really want to say anything because it was my own personal business but when I was younger I dated an escort As in we had a relationship so it's not unheard of.

Of course escorts and all kinds of sex workers often have relationships.  Very few, if any, were launched on the escort/ pro's professional social media pages.   Also, probably next to zero came out of professional relationships with clients.  Compartmentalization is key.