Juliet2 Posted October 25, 2005 Share Posted October 25, 2005 My Step mom died a few months ago. I was trying to help my dad with his transition but he rather move on super quick than be alone. He already met a woman who plans to move in with him before Christmas! She is also making him divorce my mom asap. My step mom, who was in his life for 20yrs never pushed him to divorce my mom because he did not want to bother with it. This new woman worries me. He will have to learn his own lessons though.The death of his GF happened so fast. She had severe headache one day and started slurring her words. Dad thought she was having a stroke. They went to the hospital and she had a MRI. They identified 2 brain cancer lesions. They operated and removed one. She was not the same afterwards. She needed 24hour care and was sent home like that. Dad cared for her for several weeks and she died before her first radiation appt near the end of August. Everyone was stunned...because it happened so fast. I guess she had a super aggressive form of cancer. I don't think my dad should be moving on so quick given the situation. I feel singles should not rush people who are going through situations such as this. She is pressuring him into a divorce and a common law relationship and she has only known him a few weeks!!! She is 10yrs younger than him too. What should I tell my dad? Nothing.. none of my business? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 26, 2005 Share Posted October 26, 2005 It's hard to know what to do in a situation like that. Your emotions are tied in this and he's your father...You care and don't want to see him being taken advantage of from this new woman. I am wondering though if this woman has been in the picture, maybe on the side???? Not saying there is/isn't something but it does seem very fast. ON the other side of this, he isn't used to being alone (how old is he?) and finding someone new for companionship is probably why this woman is in his life. I DO think she needs to stop pushing him and asking him to divorce your mom... Commonlaw relationship will only be recongnized after they live together for a certain amount of time. I'm not sure how long it is, depending where you... IT IS your business to let him know your concerns but maybe say it in a loving daughterly way. Anything different he will feel attacked and probably get defensive towards you. Sorry for your loss of your stepmom. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Juliet2 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 I will talk to him about how I feel a little more than I have. Thank you for responding. Link to post Share on other sites
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