Daisy_Co Posted October 8, 2022 Share Posted October 8, 2022 (edited) I meet casually my childhood friend that I haven’t seen for years! It was a beautiful dinner (we had such a great time talking to each other and was like we were seeing each other for the first time) that turned in a romantic one after some glasses of whiskey! He was so sweet and showered me with compliments. We kissed and actually make out! I was drunk (not so much, just like tipsy one) he probably not! After that night things got complicated! We chat after that, but none talked about what happened! I was confused cause I didn’t know if that thing would happen if I was sober. Im in internship out of country and we don’t have contact for that day that we chated.. I realized that I really like him! But I don’t know if he likes me too Edited October 8, 2022 by Daisy_Co Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 8, 2022 Share Posted October 8, 2022 49 minutes ago, Daisy_Co said: After that night things got complicated! We chat after that, but none talked about what happened! I was confused cause I didn’t know if that thing would happen if I was sober. Are either of you married or in other relationships? Why is it "complicated"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy_Co Posted October 8, 2022 Author Share Posted October 8, 2022 No.. i just was confused and replied with dried answer and after that he didn’t wrote me anymore.. so I dont know if he meant it or not Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 When is your internship overseas over or when are your plans to return? Paired with your dry answer and possibility of this not going anywhere in person due to distance he lost interest. I’m curious why you want to talk about it? What do you expect in discussing that evening? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy_Co Posted October 9, 2022 Author Share Posted October 9, 2022 58 minutes ago, glows said: When is your internship overseas over or when are your plans to return? Paired with your dry answer and possibility of this not going anywhere in person due to distance he lost interest. I’m curious why you want to talk about it? What do you expect in discussing that evening? I think that I wasn’t clear! So after that night he just texted me and I just give him some dry answers (he said to me lets hung out but I give him an excuse cause I was confused and scared cause we used to be good friends in the past and everything changed within a night) and we didn’t mention anything regarding that night. Weeks passed without meeting nor texting and now Im far away! And I don’t know if he really meant his action or about his feelings. He didn’t know about my internship! I just mention it to illustrate the fact that we don’t have the chance to meet in person. my internship will last three months! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy_Co Posted October 9, 2022 Author Share Posted October 9, 2022 19 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Are either of you married or in other relationships? Why is it "complicated"? It’s complicated cause everything happened so soon! I was used with the idea that we were two good old friends! Fourthmore I didn’t like the idea that he kissed me while I was drunk! he texted me next day, but i replay with dry answers and our convo ended without saying too much… we didn’t mention the previous night.. and now time has passed.. and I don’t know about his feelings.. if he meant it or he just took the advantage from the situation Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 7 minutes ago, Daisy_Co said: I think that I wasn’t clear! So after that night he just texted me and I just give him some dry answers (he said to me lets hung out but I give him an excuse cause I was confused and scared cause we used to be good friends in the past and everything changed within a night) and we didn’t mention anything regarding that night. Weeks passed without meeting nor texting and now Im far away! And I don’t know if he really meant his action or about his feelings. He didn’t know about my internship! I just mention it to illustrate the fact that we don’t have the chance to meet in person. my internship will last three months! Thanks for clarifying. I think this ship has sailed. To be very frank you weren’t as open and he likely took it for disinterest. Since you’re overseas now why not enjoy the experience? Are you feeling homesick? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy_Co Posted October 9, 2022 Author Share Posted October 9, 2022 17 minutes ago, glows said: Thanks for clarifying. I think this ship has sailed. To be very frank you weren’t as open and he likely took it for disinterest. Since you’re overseas now why not enjoy the experience? Are you feeling homesick? Yeah you are right! He has been on my mind all the time, but I was hoping that maybe on day I would see him by chance! Now I realized that there will not be such a chance. im trying to enjoy! And maybe Im a little homesick as you can imagine 🙂 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 31 minutes ago, Daisy_Co said: Fourthmore I didn’t like the idea that he kissed me while I was drunk! 3 minutes ago, Daisy_Co said: Yeah you are right! He has been on my mind all the time, but I was hoping that maybe on day I would see him by chance! Now I realized that there will not be such a chance. im trying to enjoy! And maybe Im a little homesick as you can imagine 🙂 These two quotes have somewhat conflicted feelings about what happened. Are you sure you’re not just lonely from feeling homesick? It sounds like you weren’t too comfortable with his pass at you and kissing. Would you be open to dating or meeting people overseas? Is he on your social media? Mute his feed or give this a break for awhile if it’s getting in the way of enjoying your time overseas on internship. These moments are fun and full of adventure. Make the most of your stay. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy_Co Posted October 9, 2022 Author Share Posted October 9, 2022 4 minutes ago, glows said: These two quotes have somewhat conflicted feelings about what happened. Are you sure you’re not just lonely from feeling homesick? It sounds like you weren’t too comfortable with his pass at you and kissing. Would you be open to dating or meeting people overseas? Is he on your social media? Mute his feed or give this a break for awhile if it’s getting in the way of enjoying your time overseas on internship. These moments are fun and full of adventure. Make the most of your stay. Yeah, you’re right! Im still confused and this is easily to see! I had a great time, I have always value him. But I didn’t like the idea that he kissed me drunk cause it makes me feel like he took the advantage from the situation! If the situation would develop in a more appropriate way maybe we would be together. and regarding me and him on social media there are other details that would have open another discussion point 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 4 minutes ago, Daisy_Co said: and regarding me and him on social media there are other details that would have open another discussion point Such as? Not sure what this means. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Daisy_Co Posted October 9, 2022 Author Share Posted October 9, 2022 1 hour ago, glows said: Such as? Not sure what this means. I closed them to refresh myself! Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 3 hours ago, Daisy_Co said: he said to me lets hung out but I give him an excuse cause I was confused and scared cause we used to be good friends in the past and everything changed within a night. now Im far awa Ok so focus on your local environment now. He asked you out again, you blew him off. Let the dust settle and maybe he will contact you someday. There is nothing else you can do about it now. It's possible he wanted to hook up but you didn't respond. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria_J Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 There so much between me and him going on… I was frustrated and mad at him and at a heat of the moment I insulted him badly and blocked him, he blocked me too. After some days I unblocked him and kinda apologized (not directly , I wished he was well) to an another platform, he unblocked me but didn’t answer… Im like a dumb person in this story who don’t know whats going on. I don’t know if he is hurt or he is just not interested anymore (or he hasn’t been interested since the beginning). *regarding my action: I was in pain and maybe I wanted to cut him off, but I ended in a deeper pain Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 5 minutes ago, Gloria_J said: There so much between me and him going on… I was frustrated and mad at him and at a heat of the moment I insulted him badly and blocked him, he blocked me too. How long have you been dating? How old is he? Have you met in person? Are either of you in other relationships? What was the argument about? In what way did you insult him? Have you broken up before? Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria_J Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 Just now, Wiseman2 said: How long have you been dating? How old is he? Have you met in person? Are either of you in other relationships? What was the argument about? In what way did you insult him? Have you broken up before? Not so long… we were old friends before dating each other, that always appreciate each other… no we are single… the argument was about an arrangement that we had together.. I didnt insult him in something particular, i just said to him random words that were blowing on my mind (bast*rd, d*ck, idiot and things like that).. we had no contact period before Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 2 minutes ago, Gloria_J said: the argument was about an arrangement that we had together.. i just said to him random words that were blowing on my mind (bast*rd, d*ck, idiot and things like that).. we had no contact before Reflect if you want a volatile, abuse on/off relationship with this friend turned lover. It doesn't seem to be working except for destroying each other. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 3 hours ago, Gloria_J said: he unblocked me but didn’t answer… Silence is an answer. That is your answer there. When someone doesn’t want to engage with you, that is a valid answer, loud and clear. 2 hours ago, Gloria_J said: , i just said to him random words that were blowing on my mind Name calling and swearing at someone is verbal/emotional abuse. It’s not a shock someone wouldn’t want to have anything to do with you after being called those things. Are your relationships usually like this? Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria_J Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 3 minutes ago, glows said: Silence is an answer. That is your answer there. When someone doesn’t want to engage with you, that is a valid answer, loud and clear. Name calling and swearing at someone is verbal/emotional abuse. It’s not a shock someone wouldn’t want to have anything to do with you after being called those things. Are your relationships usually like this? Normally Im a patient person and (I know that is hard to believe after that) i have been always very polite to others, especially to him! It was a moment when I just couldn’t bare it more! I just exploded! Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 9, 2022 Share Posted October 9, 2022 That’s a good start. So back track here and ask yourself why you’re spending energy on a man who has that effect on your life? You’re a patient and polite person by nature and someone is so incompatible with you that you’re provoked in such a manner. Do you think it’s healthy to keep on this path? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 10, 2022 Share Posted October 10, 2022 If you didn't like that he kissed you while you were drunk and you made an excuse to avoid seeing him, why are you wondering if he likes you? It doesn't sound as though you like him and you dodged meeting up again. It is therefore not surprising he gave up trying to talk to you. You are sending the message that you are not into him. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 10, 2022 Share Posted October 10, 2022 14 hours ago, Gloria_J said: i just said to him random words that were blowing on my mind (bast*rd, d*ck, idiot and things like that). And if the shoe were on the other foot and it was man calling a woman all kinds of names, you know everyone would righfully tell her to cut him off. It is unacceptable, even the first time. So I am sure you can understand why he's not replying to you anymore. I wouldn't either. But learn from this. It sounds like there have been issues between you two, so it probably needed to end. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 10, 2022 Share Posted October 10, 2022 (edited) 14 hours ago, Gloria_J said: It was a moment when I just couldn’t bare it more! I just exploded! Bare what more? You stated that you have had breaks before so something doesn't seem to be working here. Perhaps it's a good idea if you two delete and block each other permanently before this gets more abusive and out-of-control. Edited October 10, 2022 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
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