Al7 Posted October 24, 2022 Share Posted October 24, 2022 So situation is, meet up with this girl for 2nd time after speaking regularly we kiss on the Friday but she has since only message to say ‘I kissed her and never message and that she just don’t get it’ I’ve since tried to make contact but no reply why do you think this as she hasn’t said she isn’t interested but apart from saying I make her cross and she doesn’t get it? I’ve asked what she doesn’t get multiple times and no reply. What’s your take Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 24, 2022 Share Posted October 24, 2022 Could it have something to do with the fact that you have a partner? Perhaps she (sensibly) doesn't want to become entangled Link to post Share on other sites
Author Al7 Posted October 24, 2022 Author Share Posted October 24, 2022 I don’t have partner. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 24, 2022 Share Posted October 24, 2022 Oh OK. You'd mentioned a partner a couple of months ago....and posted this in the Other Woman page, so looked as though you were still together. You might want to get this thread moved to a correct forum to avoid confusion In this case, I'd say the issue is related how she gets cross at you. What does she get mad about? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 24, 2022 Share Posted October 24, 2022 There’s a lot of missing info. How long have you been chatting with her? You’ve only met twice. Have you been chatting for a long time? Did you get cold feet after the Friday date? She mentioned you didn’t message her afterwards. Why? It sounds like she’s annoyed/cross because you didn’t message. Did you at least ask her out again on Friday or ask when you can take her out again? Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted October 24, 2022 Share Posted October 24, 2022 Why didn't you message her? That's an important question. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Al7 Posted October 24, 2022 Author Share Posted October 24, 2022 11 minutes ago, NuevoYorko said: Why didn't you message her? That's an important question. Was busy all day at football Link to post Share on other sites
Author Al7 Posted October 24, 2022 Author Share Posted October 24, 2022 15 minutes ago, glows said: There’s a lot of missing info. How long have you been chatting with her? You’ve only met twice. Have you been chatting for a long time? Did you get cold feet after the Friday date? She mentioned you didn’t message her afterwards. Why? It sounds like she’s annoyed/cross because you didn’t message. Did you at least ask her out again on Friday or ask when you can take her out again? Was busy at football or day and with son defo no cold feet Link to post Share on other sites
Author Al7 Posted October 24, 2022 Author Share Posted October 24, 2022 I’ve since said sorry for not messaging and let’s chat but nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted October 24, 2022 Share Posted October 24, 2022 Well ... maybe that was just too much for her. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 24, 2022 Share Posted October 24, 2022 Seeing as you have a child/ren, aim for someone more put together than this. She doesn’t want to communicate, next. You didn’t answer my question - for how long have you been chatting? Don’t spend long periods texting someone. I’m assuming here you’re dating for the long haul and not casually. Does she know about your son/kids? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Al7 Posted October 24, 2022 Author Share Posted October 24, 2022 38 minutes ago, NuevoYorko said: Well ... maybe that was just too much for her. Sorry. Too much not to message her really. It wasn’t like I didn’t message I said good night of the evening. What else was I meant say and I arranged for rose to be sent which she will receive tomorrow Link to post Share on other sites
Author Al7 Posted October 24, 2022 Author Share Posted October 24, 2022 22 minutes ago, glows said: Seeing as you have a child/ren, aim for someone more put together than this. She doesn’t want to communicate, next. You didn’t answer my question - for how long have you been chatting? Don’t spend long periods texting someone. I’m assuming here you’re dating for the long haul and not casually. Does she know about your son/kids? Chatting 2 months. Not casually at all nothing like that has happened yep she does Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 Leave it for now as the ball is in her court. There’s nothing to do on your end. It does sound like she lost interest. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 6 hours ago, Al7 said: I don’t have partner. Why did you post this in the Other Man / Other Woman board? The assumption is going to be that one of you is not single. Ask mods to move the thread to a more approrpriate board Link to post Share on other sites
Author Al7 Posted October 25, 2022 Author Share Posted October 25, 2022 2 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Why did you post this in the Other Man / Other Woman board? The assumption is going to be that one of you is not single. Ask mods to move the thread to a more approrpriate board How I do that Link to post Share on other sites
Author Al7 Posted October 25, 2022 Author Share Posted October 25, 2022 3 hours ago, glows said: Leave it for now as the ball is in her court. There’s nothing to do on your end. It does sound like she lost interest. Just because I never message after kissing seems a bit extreme Link to post Share on other sites
Author Al7 Posted October 25, 2022 Author Share Posted October 25, 2022 The thing is it just makes no sense, she seems pissed off about me not texting after we kissed but that seems extreme as it was going so well, Friday she was belly laughing etc it wasn’t till the night she wasn’t till she had drink with pals she makes that comment ‘ you kissed me then never message’ makes me cross I just don’t get if. Next day she message saying I was drunk last night I’m sorry for being cross, I just don’t get it. - all I want to know for her what she doesn’t get? She asking a question but only to blank me Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 The answer to this is surprisingly simple. The two of you aren't going to work this out by messenger, so you're going to have to have a face to face conversation. I suggest you ask her to meet you. Suggest a day and time. If she doesn't get back to you by the day before that time, just block her. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 13 hours ago, Al7 said: she has since only message to say ‘I kissed her and never message and that she just don’t get it’ . She lost interest because you didn't ask her out again or follow up appropriately. She's moved on, but in the future,if you are interested, ask them out at the end of a date and follow up appropriately. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 6 hours ago, Al7 said: it wasn’t till the night she wasn’t till she had drink with pals she makes that comment ‘ you kissed me then never message’ makes me cross I just don’t get if. Next day she message saying I was drunk last night I’m sorry for being cross, I just don’t get it She was drunk or tipsy apparently when she messaged you. Why place so much importance on what she says if she messages you while drunk and doesn’t seem to make the effort explaining herself clearly? You’ve been chatting for two months and only saw her only twice. If she isn’t meeting with you more regularly in person and it feels like you both have little to no understanding, rethink whether this is worth the hassle. Dating shouldn’t be this hard. Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 No, she was right to dump you. Anytime you don't message someone after kissing means they are low priority or no priority. Messaging should just naturally happen, as in you just do it without effort. So yes she is smart to not reply to you and to move on. And you can probably learn something as well: you are not really interested in her. Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 (edited) 15 hours ago, Al7 said: Too much not to message her really. It wasn’t like I didn’t message I said good night of the evening. What else was I meant say and I arranged for rose to be sent which she will receive tomorrow I think I'm with you on this OP and I'm a woman! It appears you had a nice date, you kissed, all good. You texted her afterwards to say goodnight. The next day you were busy with an outside interest (football) and your son and didn't text her. Totally understandable. And from that she got her panties in a twist, sent a snarky text and is now ignoring you? Good lord. I honestly don't get some women. It was a kiss. NOT sex in which case a call the following day would have been nice. Not to mention SHE could have texted you as well. You have a life (as well you shouid) and other priorities and it was one day! Consider this a bullet dodged. This girl sounds entitled and an attention seeker. I wouldn't put any more effort into this one. Let it go. Date women who are less entitled, who have realistic expectations and you'll be much happier.. Edited October 25, 2022 by poppyfields Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 You know what's funny about this? If you had called the next day after having called the night before wishing her a good night after your great date, it's possible she would have considered you too "needy, " too "eager" and lost interest because of that! I've seen it happen with some of my friends. Can't win sometimes. You did fine OP, simply move on is my advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted October 25, 2022 Share Posted October 25, 2022 (edited) So you two kissed and then she quit on this because you spent a day with your son and didn't message? Like @poppyfields mentioned, there are women out there that would consider you needy if you had done what she wanted..maybe even her. Don't waste your time stressing over this. You did nothing wrong. - Beach Edited October 25, 2022 by Beachead Link to post Share on other sites
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