Dad's Situation

[fairy_dust]

Hello everyone,

 

I would like to share my father's situation because he is in the midst of a seperation with his wife. Well it all started when my folks got divorced, my father had taken my sibling and I to live with him. After his marriage with my mother, he had brought home 2 other women to live with us. He had a child with his first girlfriend. Make a long story short they were typical self loathing bitches.

 

Anywoo he met his wife 8 years ago right after he told his second girlfriend to leave. They all start the same being nice and sweet in the beginning. But oh boy after they got married, things CHANGED! She literally told my father she did not want to have anything to do with his children in terms of a 'mother figure' just as a 'friend'. I understood that, but she had three daughters from her previous marriage and golly it was hell for him.

 

As her own damn daughters disrespected her bad from what my dad tells me. They would call there mother a bitch and say she is a drunk and a bad mother. Because she drinks and goes out with who knows, she leaves her kids with my dad. She smokes and takes somewhat of medication that she needs for whatever her health problem is. Just seems to me she abuses the damn pills, of what my dad tells me.

 

She would put him down saying things that he was a bad father, he is gonna find another woman. Get this, my younger sister whom she bore from him. She literally was rejecting her own flesh and blood because my sister is brown complected. Quite frankly she didn't look anything like her and to top it off, half her ethnic background is same as ours.

 

As she multiple miscarrges before the birth of my younger sister, she would be doing the bad stuff (smoking, drinking, popoing pills) while she was pregnant. Even when she was pregnant with my sister, she also had a family fight with my family on Christmas day. She kept telling my family members "who wants to adopt my sister?". She kept pushing my sister away from her saying "move away from me because your not my baby, I don't have brown babies".

 

Anywoo my father recently visited me but he came with her to attend her convention for a job she had before. She did not show up to my place she had to go back home, so my dad came by himself to visit me. Anywoo my dad told me she was talking on the phone alot and telling him to leave her alone and to leave them room. Chasing him out of the room basically, he told me she doesn;t want him to touch her or anything as married couples should do. So he has been living with my grandmother lately as they are separted.

 

This is alot of stress need advice to tell my dad the things he should begin or consider to change in his life.

[Zaira]

Sounds to me like he needs to get those children away and into a stable and loving environment. Your father needs to seek legal advice.

[fairy_dust]

Dad doesn't care for her kids, they disrespect him as well they are uncontrollable. If anything there father has to be the one to take them away, as for my younger sister. My father just wants to take her and raise her with my family as the loving and caring enviroment is there. She is just a total nut case and I had advised and told me dad that he should divorce her and move on. I told him the marriage is no longer a union but more of a piss poor end convinence for her, as he is the primary provider for the family. She needs help mentally because she is not becoming of a mother and a wife, my dad needs to live a healther life than dealing with the exhaustion she has been putting him threw physically, emotionally and mentally. But like all situations it's a process that must be unfolded according to time. Thanks for the reply:)

 

Fairy_Dust