Think he might like me, but not sure how to proceed?

[pestocat]

As the title says, recently went on vacation and met someone there who I have fallen for.

I saw them a few times over the two weeks, but never went further than courtesies and small talk as they were working. However, I haven't been able to get them out of my mind. I have never felt this way for someone in so long. I know this can be easily chalked up to lust/infatuation, and maybe so, but I can't help but feel there could be something there, and although it sounds ridiculous, I don't want to never see them again. Am I being irrational? Any advice?

[Weezy1973]

9 minutes ago, pestocat said:

. Am I being irrational? Any advice?

Do you have any way of getting in touch with them? If so, ask them out on a date. Worse thing that happens is they say no, and then you can be done with it and move on.

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, pestocat said:

. I have never felt this way for someone in so long.

It's ok to have a crush. However now that the vacation is over, get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting local available single people.

[stillafool]

6 hours ago, pestocat said:

As the title says, recently went on vacation and met someone there who I have fallen for.

I saw them a few times over the two weeks, but never went further than courtesies and small talk as they were working. However, I haven't been able to get them out of my mind. I have never felt this way for someone in so long. I know this can be easily chalked up to lust/infatuation, and maybe so, but I can't help but feel there could be something there, and although it sounds ridiculous, I don't want to never see them again. Am I being irrational? Any advice?

How much time did you spend with them to make you feel this way.  Did you go on a date or just talk to them?  What is it about them that made you fall so fast with so little interaction?  Did you get her number?

[pestocat]

4 minutes ago, stillafool said:

How much time did you spend with them to make you feel this way.  Did you go on a date or just talk to them?  What is it about them that made you fall so fast with so little interaction?  Did you get her number?

I saw them 10 out of the 14 days I was there. I was with a group of friends, and as I mentioned, he was working so it felt like the conversations could only be short. It's difficult to convey why I feel as strongly as I do but it's not a feeling I get often, and wanted nothing more than to keep talking to him. I didn't have the confidence to ask for his number or ask him out, and knowing I'd be coming back home to get on with life was making it difficult to feel it was the best idea. I live 2 hours away, but it's not quick to travel there regularly.

[stillafool]

I see.  Since you don't have contact info that makes it hard but 2 hours is not impossible.  Did he like you back or seem interested romantically?

[pestocat]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

I see.  Since you don't have contact info that makes it hard but 2 hours is not impossible.  Did he like you back or seem interested romantically?

I feel he could have. He didn't seem chatty or sociable to many people, not even my group, but always was with me, he stood close and when he wasn't near me, he'd always look over.  Typing it out makes it seem minuscule, and as I mentioned previously, it's difficult to explain why there's strong feelings. But they're there and I still can't squash them.

[glows]

17 minutes ago, pestocat said:

I feel he could have. He didn't seem chatty or sociable to many people, not even my group, but always was with me, he stood close and when he wasn't near me, he'd always look over.  Typing it out makes it seem minuscule, and as I mentioned previously, it's difficult to explain why there's strong feelings. But they're there and I still can't squash them.

You don’t have to. That’s the beauty of a crush. Let it be and move on with your life. Nothing really needs to be done about it but enjoy it. There was someone who piqued your interest and that may or may not be rare. You can learn from that and also reflect on what it was that drew you to that person, think about the qualities in a person you admire or like being around.

[ExpatInItaly]

So, is it safe to say that you don't even know if this man is single?

I would chalk this up to a little holiday infatuation, and leave it at that. He's a stranger to you, so whatever strong feelings you're experiencing are based on...nothing concrete. Focus instead on men in your area you can actually interact with. It will be much more rewarding than a nebulous crush. 

[xxcazaxx]

Yes it could be lust, but the thing is that unless you speak to them about how you feel then you will never know. You have nothing to lose.

[introverted1]

What will be your bigger regret: contacting him and having him say he's not available/interested OR not contacting him at all?

[BDDazza]

On 8/29/2022 at 7:37 AM, pestocat said:

As the title says, recently went on vacation and met someone there who I have fallen for.

I saw them a few times over the two weeks, but never went further than courtesies and small talk as they were working. However, I haven't been able to get them out of my mind. I have never felt this way for someone in so long. I know this can be easily chalked up to lust/infatuation, and maybe so, but I can't help but feel there could be something there, and although it sounds ridiculous, I don't want to never see them again. Am I being irrational? Any advice?

 

On 8/29/2022 at 2:21 PM, pestocat said:

I saw them 10 out of the 14 days I was there. I was with a group of friends, and as I mentioned, he was working so it felt like the conversations could only be short. It's difficult to convey why I feel as strongly as I do but it's not a feeling I get often, and wanted nothing more than to keep talking to him. I didn't have the confidence to ask for his number or ask him out, and knowing I'd be coming back home to get on with life was making it difficult to feel it was the best idea. I live 2 hours away, but it's not quick to travel there regularly.

You're definitely infatuated, the fact you put this thread in the long distance relationship section when there is actually no relationship!

As somebody else said you don't even know his status, he could be in relationship, engaged or married for all you know. Your best bet would have been to escalate things further during the time you two was hanging out as a group. Now you've left it until you're leaving that opportunity is gone. You can roll the dice and get his number and keep in contact, get to know one another and if all the dots align maybe meet up again. But the chances are things will fizzle once you leave.

 

 

Edited September 29, 2022 by BDDazza

[Wiseman2]

9 minutes ago, _tiffanyblues said:

when we have the time to talk he's very shy and shuts down. We say hello, but it's very short. 

Where do you see him? At work? Around town? In your local shop/coffeeshop? Do you know anyone who knows him or anything about him? Do Not hand him your number on a paper. It's dangerous and could come across as advertising an escort service.

Edited November 8, 2022 by Wiseman2

[glows]

Work on getting that conversation going. If he seems reluctant to talk to you, he’s not interested.

Try not to confuse lack of interest with shyness. I’ve seen a lot of shy people open up quite a bit around people they like or feel comfortable around. Chatting shouldn’t feel like pulling teeth.