How to be respectful and stay on your stand without being pushed around by your supervisor

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Recently I had a conversation with my manager few months ago saying that I do not think I was fairly treated because there are lots of rumours in our company and HR has come to our department for meetings to tell what is assultant by managers and encourage us to talk and my manager keep bully me since I did not respond to any with HR and the suggestion from HR was to stop when the even happpens such as just directly talk to the people to stop.

Therefore I took the advice and I directly told my manager that I feel I was not treated fairly and I hope to understand if there is something I did wrong to cause the issue. She said I was too sensitive.

Since then, my manager stop the bully actions but keep ask me do survey, provide feedback or have discussion regarding her to help her to improve her leadership. I refused few times since she has bully me for few years, I do not know how to give feedback after 1 month that I told her to stop her bully behaviours.

Recently I was put on a project that I was excluded from any related meetings. I have no understanding of this project at all and she is the only communicator for the project . She told me to do the exact opposite things from their request on the phone.  I feel so uncomfortble regarding this and has tried to put all her request in writing to confirm with her as much as I can. And she begin to say that we need to build trust.

She organize a one on one meeting with me to know better of each other’s- still ask me to provide feedback to her leadership. My question is how should I stay to my stand with the respect I should give her. Because when you provide feedback, it could become very personal. I was voiding this kind of conversation because I do not want to be rude however I also do not want to lie that “ you are a good manager”. I believe she knows what she is doing, she just try to keep her record clean and continue to do whatever she wants to do.