Should I get my supervisor a card in this case?

[ironpony]

Should I get my supervisor a card in this case?My gf really wants me to visit her parents and I forgot to book it off at work since things have been so busy but I still had over a month.  But when I told her I forgot to book it off, she got really anxious and said we need to book the flight now cause we have been putting it off so I was thinking okay for sure, since I wanted her to be relieved.  So we booked the flight, and I then attempted to book the days off which was a mistake obviously, because I booked the flight first.

I don't know what I was thinking, I guess I just wanted her to be relieved, and she kept insisting we have to do it now.

But now work of course will not let me have the time off, and the flight is booked and it's non-refundable.  But now my work really does not want me to take the time off but they said they will give it to me, but I can tell my boss is frustrated.

My gf feels terrible about pressuring me into getting the tickets that night she said, she was just really anxious and nervous about me meeting her parents.  But she also used to work in the same place, but has a new job now, said that even if I asked the boss first, she never gives me any vacation days and if I asked it just would have been no again.  She said I am entitled to vacation days after working there for this long (two years now), and it's illegal that they will not even give me just four at the end of year.

So the thing is is that my supervisor was okay with me giving the time off, but my boss tried to override her on it, but I really had to make a case against the boss that the train is moving and nothing can stop it now, but I feel like my supervisor may have gotten chewed out by my boss because of this which was not my intention.  So I wonder if I should give my supervisor a card, apologizing and that it was not my intention or will that make things worse likely?  What do you think?

[glows]

Don’t put anything in writing. When it’s quiet or if you catch her in her office let her know you’re sorry about this verbally and any inconvenience it has caused. Nothing more needed. It’s not even necessary to do this if you don’t want to.

What’s disturbing is that your gf doesn’t seem to like your employer and felt she was entitled to tell you what to do in regards to work and booking time off.

Why won’t they let you take time off without such a fuss? Why is your gf so anxious for you to meet her parents? What is the rush?

[basil67]

I'm going to bet that your supervisor gave you a reason that you can't have that time off.   And I'm going to make a guess at what it was:  It's Christmas time and a number of staff have already booked their time off.  If you also take leave, we will be short staffed and a) there is nobody to do your job or b) people will have to work extra hours to cover your position.   Am I right?

Now, I don't know your workplace laws, but I'm right about the above, commonsense tells me that your girlfriend is wrong.  People are certainly entitled to their accrued leave, but it must be taken at a time of mutual convenience to both the employer and employee.   In future, when you want time off, book it before others get in.  Or, if it's an unexpected holiday, be aware that it may not be approved if there isn't sufficient staff to cover you.   

Anyway, if you have apologised for the inconvenience and have thanked them for helping you out, you don't need to do anything else. 

 

[ironpony]

1 hour ago, glows said:

Don’t put anything in writing. When it’s quiet or if you catch her in her office let her know you’re sorry about this verbally and any inconvenience it has caused. Nothing more needed. It’s not even necessary to do this if you don’t want to.

What’s disturbing is that your gf doesn’t seem to like your employer and felt she was entitled to tell you what to do in regards to work and booking time off.

Why won’t they let you take time off without such a fuss? Why is your gf so anxious for you to meet her parents? What is the rush?

Oh me and my gf have been dating for almost two years so I didn't think it was a rush but is it?  I am not sure about the fuss.  The boss has been under stress lately for some reason but I am not sure what is going on and afraid to ask at this point.  My gf doesn't like the employer because she treated her bad the whole time she worked there, yes, or at least according to her.

[ironpony]

32 minutes ago, basil67 said:

I'm going to bet that your supervisor gave you a reason that you can't have that time off.   And I'm going to make a guess at what it was:  It's Christmas time and a number of staff have already booked their time off.  If you also take leave, we will be short staffed and a) there is nobody to do your job or b) people will have to work extra hours to cover your position.   Am I right?

Now, I don't know your workplace laws, but I'm right about the above, commonsense tells me that your girlfriend is wrong.  People are certainly entitled to their accrued leave, but it must be taken at a time of mutual convenience to both the employer and employee.   In future, when you want time off, book it before others get in.  Or, if it's an unexpected holiday, be aware that it may not be approved if there isn't sufficient staff to cover you.   

Anyway, if you have apologised for the inconvenience and have thanked them for helping you out, you don't need to do anything else. 

 

No not many people were booking time off, but I think it's because the employer is not allowing people to, so I finally just felt like I had to be more pushy about it, but feel terrible about it at the same time.

But I feel like I will not be missed by a few days and my job can be taken over by a couple of the other co-workers until then, or so it seems.  There hasn't even been that much to do around there lately.

[basil67]

1 hour ago, ironpony said:

No not many people were booking time off, but I think it's because the employer is not allowing people to,

Why wasn't your employer allowing people to take time off?  Surely they gave you a reason for saying No

[Wiseman2]

5 hours ago, ironpony said:

  I feel like my supervisor may have gotten chewed out by my boss because of this which was not my intention. 

Thank the supervisor in person for accommodating you. Do not assume the supervisor will "get chewed out" or anything else. Do not send sympathy cards for troubles you believe you caused. 

[glows]

6 hours ago, ironpony said:

Oh me and my gf have been dating for almost two years so I didn't think it was a rush but is it?  I am not sure about the fuss.  The boss has been under stress lately for some reason but I am not sure what is going on and afraid to ask at this point.  My gf doesn't like the employer because she treated her bad the whole time she worked there, yes, or at least according to her.

It’s better to let this blow over. I don’t see a card changing anything, avoid putting anything in writing. Since it’s approved enjoy the holiday and thank your supervisor. 

Your gf seems very anxious but this is your job so try not to be bowled over by her opinions on your workplace.

Book anything like this a little earlier in future if possible. I’m sorry your employer is reluctant to let you have time off. I’d want to know why also. It’s inevitable vacations and time off will come up more often. 

[ironpony]

5 hours ago, basil67 said:

Why wasn't your employer allowing people to take time off?  Surely they gave you a reason for saying No

they said it was because the place is too busy but there's hardly anything going on there right now and the season seems pretty dead. Unless of course something is going on that week that I don't know about, but if there was so I wish they would keep me in the loop if that's the case, because then I would know just to book time off around that.

[ShyViolet]

Giving a card would be weird.  This is not a greeting card type of situation.  Just verbally tell the supervisor "I just want to thank you again for letting me have that time off, and sorry for any trouble it may have caused." and leave it at that.

It's concerning that after working for as long as you have, you still didn't know that booking a flight when you don't have the time off at work is not the way to go about things.  That's more than just a "mistake."  That's just like, not using common sense.  That problem was easily anticipated.

[ironpony]

16 minutes ago, ShyViolet said:

Giving a card would be weird.  This is not a greeting card type of situation.  Just verbally tell the supervisor "I just want to thank you again for letting me have that time off, and sorry for any trouble it may have caused." and leave it at that.

It's concerning that after working for as long as you have, you still didn't know that booking a flight when you don't have the time off at work is not the way to go about things.  That's more than just a "mistake."  That's just like, not using common sense.  That problem was easily anticipated.

Ok thanks, I will leave it at that then.  Thanks.  I know it's weird.  I don't have good common sense and keep failing on that.

 

[ironpony]

Do you think I should not go on the front and forgo the money I spent?

but my girlfriend also says if I chose to do that and go to work they're not going to let me have any time off if I just keep asking and I have to fight for it if I want any which is what I did she says. Does she have a point?

[basil67]

9 hours ago, ironpony said:

they said it was because the place is too busy but there's hardly anything going on there right now and the season seems pretty dead. Unless of course something is going on that week that I don't know about, but if there was so I wish they would keep me in the loop if that's the case, because then I would know just to book time off around that.

No.  You simply need to talk with your boss BEFORE booking your holiday.   Give them your proposed dates and if that's not suitable, ask them to suggest some alternate times.  

[ironpony]

That makes sense.  What do you think I should do about this current one since I made a huge error in judgment?

[basil67]

Your supervisor made it work, so assuming you've already thanked them, there's nothing more to do. 

[ironpony]

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

Your supervisor made it work, so assuming you've already thanked them, there's nothing more to do. 

I just don't want to make enemies so I hope it's okay to keep it.

[ShyViolet]

2 hours ago, ironpony said:

That makes sense.  What do you think I should do about this current one since I made a huge error in judgment?

But they already told you that you can take it off, right?

I don't think flip-flopping would help now.  It makes you look like you can't make up your mind.  They already said you could have it off.  Leave it the way it is.

[ironpony]

2 hours ago, ShyViolet said:

But they already told you that you can take it off, right?

I don't think flip-flopping would help now.  It makes you look like you can't make up your mind.  They already said you could have it off.  Leave it the way it is.

Okay thanks.  I guess I just can't help but feel worried that I burned a bridge there.

[basil67]

If still have your job, you haven't burned any bridges.  Just make sure to do this in the right order next time.