Wiseman2 Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 1 hour ago, used1211 said: Yes but he’s been sleeping with me while she’s pregnant, surely she would want to know that? He told you they were broken up at the time? Perhaps she knows. Either way try to invest your time and energy into someone who treats you better than this man has. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 5 hours ago, used1211 said: He’s not “low quality”, he’s actually a bit famous. He’s good looking, great house, family money. He’s blocked me everywhere anyway so why would I block him? Plus I am still hoping he changes his mind his only been a few weeks. Also- I’d say I’m far better suited to him than his ex. I come from a similar background, similarly wealthy etc. his ex is really pretty and a bit of an influencer but she has a normal job and not much money. She will be relying on him a lot which I never would! Men don't care about money when it comes to women. Only women care about that. Don't set yourself up to look like the fool running after a man who doesn't want you. He never asked to be in a relationship with you, that was all in your mind, hopes and dreams. Even if you tell her he went out 3 times with you he will just say yeah that was while we were on break and then I decided I can't be without you and our baby and it's over. She's not going to break up with the man she loves, the father of her baby because you're bitter. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 Do not contact her, OP. Leave them both alone forever. Their relationship is none of your business. Link to post Share on other sites
Author used1211 Posted November 15, 2022 Author Share Posted November 15, 2022 Thing is I don’t think he doesn’t want me? I think he’s gone back there out of obligation to the baby if anything? If they were that happy he wouldn’t be sleeping with me? Or trying to meet other people? They wouldn’t have broken up in the first place? Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 His relationship with his girlfriend is none of your business. He obviously wants nothing to do with you; he's blocked you everywhere. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
LynneVicious Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 47 minutes ago, used1211 said: Thing is I don’t think he doesn’t want me? I think he’s gone back there out of obligation to the baby if anything? If they were that happy he wouldn’t be sleeping with me? Or trying to meet other people? They wouldn’t have broken up in the first place? How old are you, op? I ask because that is very naive thinking. You don’t know anything about his last relationship other than what he told you. And he could have told you anything. In all likelihood, he probably got scared of his gf becoming pregnant and bailed and then rebounded off you OR they never broke up in the first place OR no one’s pregnant OR he could’ve decided he wasn’t that into you and would rather be with his gf. Ir doesn’t really matter. He blocked you on everything so that speaks volumes. You’d be better off moving on and dating available men then wasting your time trying to figure this one out. And no, getting his girlfriend knocked up 2.5 months ago and thinking he’s over that and is ready to move in is naive. He will forever be tied to her now. They’re going to have a baby. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author used1211 Posted November 15, 2022 Author Share Posted November 15, 2022 He might come to his sense and unblock me though? Or go back to her and realise what we had was better? She is definitely pregnant- I’ve seen her pictures. They were also 100% broken up. Nothing of hers in his house and also, even when I was seeing him I was watching her stories daily and she never ever mentioned him, they didn’t even follow each other, she just appeared to be posting pregnancy stuff and spending time with her friends. He told me he never wanted the baby and she trapped him. How can he say that and go back? I’m 26 and he is 31. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 (edited) 3 hours ago, used1211 said: He might come to his sense and unblock me though? Or go back to her and realise what we had was better? Why would he unblock you, isn't he already with her? She is definitely pregnant- I’ve seen her pictures. They were also 100% broken up. Nothing of hers in his house and also, even when I was seeing him I was watching her stories daily and she never ever mentioned him, they didn’t even follow each other, she just appeared to be posting pregnancy stuff and spending time with her friends. You need to stop stalking this girl because it's turning into an obsession. It will be harder to move on and put all of this behind you if you keep watching her. It's like pouring salt into a wound. He told me he never wanted the baby and she trapped him. How can he say that and go back? Obviously because he was lying to you. I’m 26 and he is 31. [ ] Edited November 15, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator rude/OP answered question asked by someone else Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 2 hours ago, used1211 said: He might come to his sense and unblock me though? Or go back to her and realise what we had was better? He already came to his senses and went back to his pregnant ex, OP. That was the more reasonable choice given that they are expecting a child together. You don't have anywhere near enough history with him to compare to his ex. I'm sorry. You need to accept that it's over. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 12 hours ago, used1211 said: I think someone telling you they want to see how things go after a couple of weeks of dating is a good sign? It's a good sign, but it's a long way from commitment or a promise. 12 hours ago, used1211 said: I just don’t see why she would take him back knowing he’s been entertaining me and leading me on. Surely she doesn’t want that for her baby?! Again, he didn't lead you on...all he did was say "let's see how things go'. As for her taking him back, it's for the same reason you'd take him back after he left you to return to her. Either she loves him or is star struck by his mild fame, money and good looks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author used1211 Posted November 15, 2022 Author Share Posted November 15, 2022 They weren’t even together that long, it was 18 months! Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 15, 2022 Share Posted November 15, 2022 1 minute ago, used1211 said: They weren’t even together that long, it was 18 months! So what? He was only with you for a few weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
MElkington Posted November 16, 2022 Share Posted November 16, 2022 (edited) You can do better. I think she was entrapping him. He made his decision. Edited November 16, 2022 by MElkington Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 16, 2022 Share Posted November 16, 2022 7 hours ago, used1211 said: They weren’t even together that long, it was 18 months! Which is a lot longer than 3 weeks. Girl, it's over. Accept it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author used1211 Posted November 16, 2022 Author Share Posted November 16, 2022 I feel like I’m being jumped on here? I’ve asked for advice as to what to do as I really really liked him? I don’t believe for a second he’s with her because he wants to be, I think he feels obliged. I think it’s me that he wants. I even told him if he did eventually want to see the baby in years to come we could be a family and I would help him look after the child. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 16, 2022 Share Posted November 16, 2022 20 minutes ago, used1211 said: I don’t believe for a second he’s with her because he wants to be, I think he feels obliged. I think it’s me that he wants. It doesn't matter why he's with her or if he's even with her. What matters is he's not with you and blocked you. Try not to accept bad behavior like this from men. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 16, 2022 Share Posted November 16, 2022 30 minutes ago, used1211 said: I feel like I’m being jumped on here? I’ve asked for advice as to what to do as I really really liked him? There is nothing for you to do. He has made his decision, and it's not you. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted November 16, 2022 Share Posted November 16, 2022 10 hours ago, used1211 said: I feel like I’m being jumped on here? I’ve asked for advice as to what to do as I really really liked him? He made his decision. There is nothing for you to do to change his decision, he's entitled to make his own life choices just like the rest of us - including you - are. Don't make it your life choice to remain hung up on a guy who has been excruciatingly clear with you that he is not interested in going on with any type of relationship with you. Whether he ends up staying with the mother of his future child or not, he will not be coming back to you. It's over. Link to post Share on other sites
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