Rg91 Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 Hey I need some advice on how to win my soulmate back my fiancée. We broke up a week ago due to me lieing about little things I have admitted I was in the wrong and asked for forgiveness I moved out of our place a week ago. Last couple days I’ve tried to do no contact rule but out of no where she always messages how my day is going? What do I do Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 Sorry this happened. How long were you together? What was the breakup really about? How long did you live together? Unfortunately those get-your-ex-back sites prey on broken hearts by telling people to use no contact as a tool. Sadly it doesn't work. No contact is for you to reflect and regroup. Moving out is the end of the relationship, not a variation of it. All you can do is step back. Not as a tool, but to reorganize your thoughts and feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 Well the lies were obviously more than just little ones if you had to move out. What exactly did you lie about? Ask her why she keeps messaging you when you are broken up. It's likely that she just doesn't want any bad blood between you and nothing more. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 13 hours ago, Rg91 said: Hey I need some advice on how to win my soulmate back my fiancée. We broke up a week ago due to me lieing about little things I have admitted I was in the wrong and asked for forgiveness I moved out of our place a week ago. Last couple days I’ve tried to do no contact rule but out of no where she always messages how my day is going? What do I do Is she messaging you to get you back? What does she want? If she isn't trying to get back with you tell her to stop messaging you. You'll never be able to get over her and move on if she's dangling bones in your face. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 The relationship is fractured by lies. Unless you both address the giant elephant in the room like mature adults these messages don’t mean anything. She may be checking in because she’s bored, lonely, wants break up sex or any of the above. You can reply to her but it’s highly likely the damage is done. She may miss you but have zero respect for you. Stay away from the abracadabra nonsense get your ex back schemes. No contact is to move on permanently not to manipulate someone into falling for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rg91 Posted November 22, 2022 Author Share Posted November 22, 2022 She messages me to see how my day is going and Ofcourse one or twice she’s messaged at night when she’s in that mood lol. Trust me they were little lies nothing too big but before she even knew about them she did say the love wasn’t the same. We were engaged trying for ivf we were a perfect couple we never fighted ever so it was a shock Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rg91 Posted November 22, 2022 Author Share Posted November 22, 2022 We still tell eachother we love you daily when we do text Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rg91 Posted November 22, 2022 Author Share Posted November 22, 2022 When we see eachother which is every few days she tries to hold my hand etc so it’s all mixed signals it’s just when we were not together physically it’s like she don’t want me Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, Rg91 said: we were a perfect couple we never fighted ever so it was a shock You were lying to her. If you are going to pretend it was all perfect, you have no chance at a future What things were you lying about? Edited November 22, 2022 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rg91 Posted November 22, 2022 Author Share Posted November 22, 2022 17 minutes ago, basil67 said: You were lying to her. If you are going to pretend it was all perfect, you have no chance at a future What things were you lying about? Just little things in the past before we were together I caught her out on lies herself at the start of the year but I decided to forgive and forget other then the lies we were perfect we were inseparable Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 20 minutes ago, Rg91 said: Just little things in the past before we were together. I caught her out on lies herself at the start of the year but I decided to forgive and forget other then the lies we were perfect we were inseparable You said that before she knew about the lies, she had told you that the love wasn't the same - therefore, you weren't perfect. My guess is that she was already half way out and that the lies gave her the final push. And for what it's worth, while you may have chosen to forgive and forget her lies, it doesn't mean she has to do the same for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rg91 Posted November 22, 2022 Author Share Posted November 22, 2022 22 minutes ago, basil67 said: You said that before she knew about the lies, she had told you that the love wasn't the same - therefore, you weren't perfect. My guess is that she was already half way out and that the lies gave her the final push. And for what it's worth, while you may have chosen to forgive and forget her lies, it doesn't mean she has to do the same for you. Yeh I understand she doesn’t need to do the same with me. All she is doing now is throwing mixed signals I’ve asked her to show me the wedding dress we bought for our wedding if it’s completely over but she doesn’t want to show me it so that’s hope Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted November 22, 2022 Share Posted November 22, 2022 (edited) First step is to quit calling your lies "little things." Clearly these were not little things to her. It is significant that you won't even lay out the "little lies" to us! I would not take back anyone who minimizes their lying to me. Not a chance. She is smart and right not to trust you--and not take you back- if you keep making that statement and thinking that way. She is really smart. Edited November 22, 2022 by Lotsgoingon Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted November 23, 2022 Share Posted November 23, 2022 12 hours ago, Rg91 said: When we see eachother which is every few days she tries to hold my hand etc so it’s all mixed signals it’s just when we were not together physically it’s like she don’t want me Put a stop to this. This shouldn't be happening if you are not together. You need to stop meeting her and talking to her because if getting back together is not what she wants then doing this means you will never move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 23, 2022 Share Posted November 23, 2022 12 hours ago, Rg91 said: We were engaged trying for ivf we were a perfect couple. How old is she? How long were you together? How long have you lived together? Why were you trying to start a family via ivf before getting married? Certainly there was a discussion before she asked you to move out. What were her reasons for ending the relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted November 23, 2022 Share Posted November 23, 2022 27 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: What were her reasons for ending the relationship? He is evading questions about the lies. He claims 'little things' but I know he's not being honest. It must have been something BIG that he had to move out because of it. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted November 23, 2022 Share Posted November 23, 2022 11 hours ago, Rg91 said: Just little things in the past before we were together I caught her out on lies herself at the start of the year but I decided to forgive and forget @Rg91Stop projecting this back on her. You clearly effed up in some big way and you are not being honest with us at all. You're evading every question when asked what lies you told. Be honest about what you lied about. Link to post Share on other sites
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