impuls3 Posted October 26, 2005 Share Posted October 26, 2005 hey, it all started back in july when i got a girl friend who was of a different religion then i am. anyways we became very close and slowly but surely my parents started to disrespect and hate me. anyways as the summer went on i started coming home less and less and started screwing up more and more (dropping outa university etc.)...nothing to serious, i wasn't doing drugs or stealing or anything of the sort. anyways after all the s*** had passed and i broke up with the girl and my parents seemed happy to want me home... so anyways i came home. so then they started hastling me to find a job. which i didnt disagree with. then everything started to fall apart. i became extremely depressed, many time suicidal. and all of a sudden my parents started to put me down... i was doing wat they said...i was looking for a job, but they keep telling me im useless and my life has no purpose and i'm a moron. so some of the times im okay, but much of the time, like right now im extremely depressed and continuously contemplating suicide. all i want to do is to get out of this place. i dont even know what to do. they just keep putting me down. i berly have the drive to live anymore. can someone help me deal with this... i tried talking to them, i tried to ignore then, i tried everything. i just can't handle this BS anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted October 26, 2005 Share Posted October 26, 2005 If you're contemplating self-harm or worse, turn off the computer and call this number: (416) 498-0043 Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted October 26, 2005 Share Posted October 26, 2005 When you call the number Slubber gave you, it might be an idea to have a chat with the person you speak to out about how you can best approach this matter with your parents in order to get the support you need from them. Loving you and caring about you doesn't necessarily equip them to help you in the way that you need to be helped right now. If you're feeling very depressed, then you need to seek medical help and get some advice on what to do in order to start feeling better. Your parents won't necessarily be understanding of that. Even in this day and age, not everyone has a great understanding of depression - and many people still adopt the "snap out of it" mentality. It's well meant, but ultimately unhelpful. If you think there's a strong likelihood that your parents will react in that way, then have an in depth discussion with an objective and skilled professional before you broach the matter with them - otherwise it could turn into a very difficult discussion whereby you're having to cope with your parents' anxiety as well as your own. Good luck. Please call that number and make a medical appointment as soon as you can. Link to post Share on other sites
Author impuls3 Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 what association is that number for... before i call it Link to post Share on other sites
suegail Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Sometimes what people say and what you hear are two different things...when you've already had some down time and feel lousy and people are saying, 'hey, get work...get busy and do something with your life,' you may interpret that as 'you are a total loser,' when it's not what they mean at all. They are on your case obviously, but they probably see it as for a good reason, and what they expect are results. Do what you know you have to do in order to be productive. That in itself will bring your self esteem up several notches.....effort, accomplishment, give it your all and always do your very best regardless of what work you are doing. If you wind up hanging curtains for a living, be the best darn curtain hanger there is. Most important, never ever give up...people do love you and I'm sure your parents love you despite the way things are at this time and despite how you feel. They want the best for you... Link to post Share on other sites
iceprincess Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Hi, there, you're not alone in your thoughts and feelings and I want to let you know that things'll get better. I'm also in a relationship that my parents don't approve because my fiance is of different origin than we are. Trust me, I've been on the same page as you and I know all the hurt, anger, sadness and loneliness that you are feeling. I know there's a lot of pressure with your parents wanting you to be someone big and you don't want to disappoint them. Yet at the same time, you also want for your happiness and your own freedom to do and choose as you please because it's every human's right to do so. DO NOT LET THEIR WORDS BRING YOU DOWN. They think that by telling you you're a nobody will hopefully make you angry enough so that you can prove them wrong. It's reverse psychology but unfortunately in a lot of the cases it doesn't work. I did something tht I thought I would never have the courage to do...I moved out of my parents house and since then I've felt a great sense of relief and I'm able to focus on the things that are important to me in my life. I realized that I was living in an environment where there were constant pressure, degrading words from my parents, the overwhelming responsibilities that I had to do as a girl in my culture were all making me very depressed. There comes a point and time in life where you just have to take charge of your life instead of letting other people try to run it for you. You don't have to please anyone but yourself. What I mean by this is you can still go to school to get your degree, have a job on the side, date outside of your race/religion and not have to conform to this SUPERMAN/DR/LAWYER image your parents want you to be. You say you are suicidal but you really don't want to die. You just want to get away from all the hurt and pain. Let me tell you that once you have made the conscious decision to make things better then you will feel that a great weight has been taken off of your shoulders. Stay strong and don't give up. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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