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Can a long distance relationship work?


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13 hours ago, Dion James said:

Who has been successful in a long distanced relationship before? If yes, how did you do it? 

Have you met in person? How far apart are you? How often do you see each other? In the event it works out, who will move to whom? 

These are important factors in your decision to pursue this or not.

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I can think of a number that have but it means absolutely nothing not knowing more about your situation.

Most of the LDRs that have worked out are ones where the couple have spent significant of time PRIOR living in the same locale and then one or both moving away with the plan on returning in the near future (usually less than 5 years). 

Without a clear end point for ldr, it’s more or less a complete fantasy or escape with no way of sharing enough in person time for a fulfilling relationship in real time.

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My stepson met his girlfriend while in America a few years ago and their LDR worked.

They both visited each other and were both happy to do it. 

She made the decision to move to our country with him and they are currently in Thailand for a year long teaching job.

It can work for some.

But it's not for everyone.

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My husband and I spent 2 years long distance in different countries (and additionally 1.5 years living about 2hr drive apart, which I don't consider to be long distance). We've been together for, gosh,  almost 15 years now.

It is undeniably difficult. And honestly I wouldn't recommend it to anyone unless you are both very invested in your relationship and each other. Video calls and visits will be your main method of being present in each other's lives, and having an end goal to look forward to (i.e. one or both of you will be relocating in the next few years)  is crucial.

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