Its Back!!

[a4a]

First off I am sitting her recovering from a mild but very annoying back injury.........thus my over use of the computer and stuck indoors. (Oh this office chair is the most comfy in the whole place!!!)

 

Well so here I am minding my own business, and poking into the business of every person posting here.

 

NOW "IT" IS BACK! ( start to hum the Jaws theme now)

 

What is IT?

Well IT is an ex girlfriend of DH that has some sort of problem LOL!

(mainly me I guess!) DH does not communicate with IT, however IT attempts to communicate to him through mutual friends and through his undesirable sister that only calls when she wants money. (broke drama girl).

 

[B]A little about IT[/b] (see if you think I am crazy or not, or is IT crazy?)

 

IT dated DH in late teens to 20ish Went too prom.....(now you know why I am bent out of shape over her:lmao: LOL) NOT!

 

IT lives in different state, DH moved here about 3 yrs ago....far far away from IT. They were not friends during adult life...did not hang out together ect.

 

IT and he did speak via email once in last two years before I came on scene as g/f. No biggie sent pics to her of new house he bought ect also sent to others as well.....No cards or letters exchanged maybe a phone call out of the blue before I came on scene.They did not hang out while he was still there in home state.

 

IT came to our state to visit other mutual friends that moved here as well from their home state.....IT got angry that my BF (now DH) he did not bother to visit or call her when she visited our state at mutual friends home (we were having fun by ourselves that weekend). I was aware she (did not call her IT at this early point) was in town......no biggy to me at that time.

 

IT sent messages through mutual friends that IT was pissed. DH does not care LOL! However mutual friend w/ his wife like drama(?) so sure to relay messages from IT to DH and me. IT got wind of me being on scene before coming to visit from mutual friends in our state.

 

IT found out we planned to get married (IT IS NOT MARRIED/IT is sad it is single via relayed message). IT started more crap and posted messages to our private wedding site for family and friends. (IT got info about our site to post from money sucking drama sister of DH). IT posted inappropriate material on site about past ect.... this was a red flag.... and was promptly deleted. DH read and agreed the post was very inappropriate. tasteless and tacky.....

 

IT calls Best Man/ Mutual friends and assumed IT was invited to wedding.? Learned IT was not invited and had hissy fit. Mind we don't care if IT swallows ITs tongue and turns blue over this, but IT is heard by relayed messages by mutual friend and Best Man at this point (they all grew up together). Best man and mutual friends do not care for IT either. .... so they state, but guessing they like drama or relaying useless messages about her feelings to us. DH does not hide this from me either.

 

We are now happily married and do not think of IT. .....husband has no feelings for IT as friend even. Says she is screwed up in the head and he was young and dumb and would not have her as even a friend in his adult life.

 

Now IT is showing up again asking questions ect. through mutual friends. We cannot control ITs mouth, nor care to.....but this is like a gnat. If you saw the post you would have been concerned as well........ very tacky to say the least.

 

I do not understand ITs problem of showing interest once IT heard he was with someone, more so when he was getting married. Out of the blue like a hurricane she popped on the scene.

 

SO?

Do we tell the mutual friends again that we don't care what IT said to them? Don't bother to relay the info to us?

 

Should DH tell her to go away directly? (will this feed the fire more?)

 

Should I tell DH to find new friend that shuts up, is faithful to his wife, and less of a male drama queen? LOL!

 

Do we tell money sucking drama queen to quit giving out our info again? (my fault, trying to be nice with his family and did not believe she was that much of a beast, sorry DH shoulda listened to ya!)

 

I expect IT to show up for a visit......I am losing my ability to be polite over this matter. Mind you DH agrees that she needs to just go away and friends should shut up.......but he is one of those guys that would rather let sleeping dogs lie instead of stirring up more trouble and creating drama for all. ( I agree until she ends up visiting unannounced or some crap like that via mutual friends)

 

a4a - oh what fun it is when crazy people pop into your life!

 

* dont laugh but I had a dream that IT asked DH to donate sperm, I knew her name and everything. We both thought it was really odd that I spelled her name and described her to a T......We got a good laugh about it when she showed up out of the blue......that she wanted SPERM! LOL! No I did not ask for previous info.......just came to me outta the blue.......a psychotic moment ooops pyschic

 

I did not know his background on g/f's this is when we first started dating. "Hon' who is so and so and why does she want your sperm?" he was floored......so was I. I was making a joke out of a dream I just happen to have.

[Art_Critic]

Something tells me that you enjoy the drama as well as she does..

 

You are already preparing to handle her and she hasn't done anything but ask a few questions thru mutual friends..

Why not cross the bridge when it happens and let your husband deal with her..

 

Your use of the word IT is very telling of your own maturity and I don't think that you have the emotional distance that it requires to nip the issue if she presents herself..

Let your hubby deal with it.

 

They were friends at one time and the only dealings you have with her were her showing her imaturity.

[a4a]

Art

 

oh no you missed out she has done more than just ask questions......she posted a pretty tacky statement to our guestbook.... I have never met her, she keeps taking stabs from a distance..... I don't know why. I would not dream of doing so to an ex, even worse on a guestbook that his family and friends would view about a wedding.....a private, by invite only guestbook mind you. She was not sent the site info or a announcement. Then post deletion of her comments a rather nasty unsigned entry appeared within 24 hours...no proof but good chance it was her. I do not know who else would do so.

 

As for calling her "IT"..... well that is something we started after we read the guest book updates...... DH would ask.... "what does it say?" the term turned into a joke between us after her post appeared..... then brought about again by the King novel "IT". Both DH and I refer to her as IT now.

 

DH has closed his email acct. since the start of this, so she could not email him, and has told friends to

not relay info.(they dont listen) Latest as of today is (which its been awhile) from the mutual friend. Plans to visit??? Well here we go again.....sheesh.

 

This woman is not a friend of DH, they dated almost 20 years ago, were very young and she tried to keep in contact with him. He did not call her....he did not invite her...... no reason for her to post to private guestbook, ask questions and relay that she was upset because he was getting married..upset because she wasn't.... Apparently she has asked for new phone numbers ect. That is a tad more then just asking about how "so and so" is doing these days..........that is trying to take an active role in that persons life......knowing that you are not wanted. Correct?

 

I actually do think this is comical in its own way...... so I cannot help but to get a giggle out of it..and yes a tad entertaining I admit.... I cannot take this person serious......just so annoying as hell. Husband is annoyed as well..... we both chose to ignore her ......but she pops up just when you think she is gone..... Go Away Gnat!

 

a4a

[Walk]

That girl has ISSUES!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!

 

You're H never told her to get lost? I think you said he was kind of like 'let sleeping dogs lie'. My bf had to really put his foot down before his ex would leave him alone. Although... It really didn't work all that well, so I guess it doesn't matter. She just wants attention, even if it is negative. If the friends and sister would stop giving her attention, she'd stop all the melodrama. Until then though, you guys suffer.

 

I wanted to share an experience with my bf's ex that I had when we first started dating. I was taking care of his cats, cause he was gone for the week, and someone knocked at the door so I answered it. (Thought it was a salesman so I answered it) Saw this really pretty young woman standing there, looking incredibly nervous and unsure, and she asked if my bf was home. (I don't think she knew we were dating at the time.) I felt sorry for her, cause she looked so hurt to a women there. She didn't say or do anything crazy or weird, just asked me to say "his friend" stopped by and then she left. They dated on and off for like 2 years, so I could understand how hard it be to let go. It would hurt me. So I felt really bad for her.

 

I told my bf when he got back that she stopped over and her message. And (naive me) was all like. "I think she's really pretty, and she seemed so sad..." and "I feel bad that she seems to be in so much pain" etc. etc.

 

He calls her later and tells her NEVER to stop by the house again, ever. He calls her crazy, and vindictive. Said she must've been in shock to have let me escape from her presence without attacking me either physically or verbally. When he called her, she told him that I had kicked the cats and tried to kill them. And that I was rude and threatening to her, etc. How she was the good person, and tried to be polite, etc. but I was agressive, and evil.

 

I was a little nervous while he was recounting his conversation with her, because we'd only been dating about a month. He didn't know me very well, and they'd dated for nearly 2 years. So I wasn't sure if he was going to believe her or me. All I'd said before he talked to her, was that she stopped by. After he relayed how she'd said I went bezerk on the cats, I laughed. It just burst out cause it seemed so ludicrous to me. When she'd been standing at the door I had been wondering if I should ask her in and maybe try to talk to her cause she seemed so distraught, or just pretend I believed her story about being "an old friend" and let her leave with some dignity.

 

Anyway, long story short... She's crazy... It's been 2 years, and she still calls him, or stops and talks to him if she see's him. Begs him to take her back. He's mean to her now, and she's just happy he said anything to her at all. I don't understand how some women can act this way? Especially after years of being apart. I could see a few months after a break up, maybe. But for the most part, If a guy doesn't want me, breaks up with me, or whatever, I'm over it in a few day's/couple weeks. It hurts, but I think I'm a pretty special person so it's their loss, and it was probably for the best anyway.

 

This was long... sorry.

Guess I'm just saying, I hear where you're coming from. Some women are playing from way out in outter space! Problem is, it gives all the rest of us a bad name.

[glittergurl]

Hahah I enjoyed reading this so much! Please don't try to stop her, it's too much fun to read about Anyway, she DOES have a serious problem. How many years between the time they dated and now?

[a4a]

Glitter if you are refering to IT they stopped "dating" when he was 20, he is now 36...... never married until met me. Maybe she had hope.....?? LMAO! He was just waiting to propose at the right moment?

 

As for you big CAT KICKER......OMG lucky you got out of that one with the nutball ex! What the hell? Why do they come back? Now stop kickin those damn cats! LOL! Next you will be settin' 'em on fire. SHEESH!

 

Go Away already.....all of ya!

We don't want you...... go away!

 

My guess is they come back for Sperm LMAO! (cuz I saw it in a dream!)

 

a4a

[glittergurl]

Hahah I hate my husband's ex with a passion. It's pretty sick. Somehow, it's extremely entertaining though.

[Walk]

I remember after bf told her specifically to NEVER come over again, we came home to a grocery bag full of stuff she'd left on the front step. She'd returned stuff he'd given her over the course of their relationship.

 

Have either of you ever done this? It seemed really weird to me. When I've broken up with others, I usually toss all but the most memoriable stuff. Or all depending on the situation. I don't go to their house and give it back. (unless it was important to them, like their jewlery, or DVD's or something.)

 

Anyway, he went through it while I was there (I was curious as hell what was in the bag) and after he tosses it all in the garbage, he made a comment about how she didn't return any of the "bigger ticket" items he'd bought her. Only the really inexpensive stuff. (cards, a fake rose, and a book on sex)

 

Then she would convienently be at the gas station near his house every time he went over to get something. She lived about 45 minutes away, but he'd run into her about twice a week there. She didn't work near there either.

 

BF told me that while he'd been dating his ex she'd decided she was pregnant. All of the home kits came up negative, so he took her to the doctors and they all came up negative. She insisted she was, so he took her for ultrasounds, and more tests. All negative. He said she pulled this for nearly 4 months...

 

So you're telling me I need to keep my guard up so I can be ready when she comes knocking on the door for more sperm???? Great....

 

We were in a restuarant one day, and I kept seeing this girl walking past, dressed in a pink velvet work out ensemble. Velvet pink sweats, and matching hoodie. I didn't recognize her until bf said who it was. She walks by... two seconds later she walks by again.... a couple seconds later she walks by again... Staring at my bf. Never says anything. Just keeps walking by, over and over and over again, staring at him as she walks one way, and then glarring at me on the return pass, staring at him, glarring at me. Neither of us could take it any longer and just paid the bill and left. I doubt she'd come there alone, so I wondered what she told the guy she was with for why she had to walk around so much.

 

I thought it was sad (and kind of funny in a sick twisted way) but bf was pretty ticked off by the whole thing.

[a4a]

They do come back for Spermies! LMAO!!

 

I returned an item post break up... however it was a CD that was in a wrong case I took by mistake...... I simply left it in the entry without a note. I knew the CD was a favorite. We would frequent the same places, I would simply leave if I saw him there and go to another hang out. I have no need to get into the life of an ex, I think it is a respect issue for their possible new partners...and lack of interest in ex.

 

Does BF get holiday cards ect from ex? Love those! Hey I am your psycho ex and just wanted to tell you merry christmas and happy birthday! Hallmark is missing out on a whole new line of greeting cards for the EX intrusions! LMAO!

 

It must be sad to have to fret over an ex that has moved on and wants nothing to do with you.

 

a4a

[snickerdoodle]

My H had an exGF (from 6 or 7 years ago) who started contacting him via email after hearing he got married. They had some mutual friends but barely spoke after breaking up. She started telling him all about her life, how she wanted kids but her hubby didn't, how she and her hubby weren't getting along....WTF? Why would you tell a married exBF these things, especially one you don't talke to who lives several states away? I would never do that. He told me about her emails and I politely asked him to stop replying, that it sounded disrespectful on her part and that I didnt like it. He stopped replying and then the nutcase started calling our house. H just decided to handle it by not picking up the phone and not returning her calls. Thankfully it worked because we haven't heard from her in over a year. We don't keep in contact with many of those mutual friends these days, so if she is still asking about him, we don't know about it.

 

I hope she doesn't actually show up. If it were me, I wouldn't worry about it unless she tries to call or email him directly. And yes, I would tell the friends to shut up - who wants to hear that crap?