Parents Interferrence

[Alpacalia]

29 minutes ago, stillafool said:

This is because they want you guys to get the baby train on track so they can have grandkids ASAP.  Is he an only child?

I wondered if this might also have been the cause of the issue. No, he's not an only child. I think it is just something about him that seems to influence them to favor him for some reason.

There is an assertion that parents don't have a favorite child, and I don't think it is entirely true.

As far as babies go, I prefer not to push anything out anytime soon. 

Overall, I find his parents to be very kind and generous. It is not that I dislike them at all. It's funny, but often when I go to bed, he'll pick up a phone call from his mom with some time to spare, so I come out to get a cup of tea or something, and he'll still be talking to her. They’ll be texting throughout the day. His parents seem to be the first people he talks to about everything. Considering how I am a like that with my Dad, it's sort of like "eh, okay."

Edited December 29, 2022 by Alpacalia

[stillafool]

2 hours ago, Alpacalia said:

There is an assertion that parents don't have a favorite child, and I don't think it is entirely true.

My mother told me before she died that I was her favorite child and my youngest nephew was her favorite grandchild.  My husband's mother would constantly tell me "you know he's my favorite child" when she was alive so it's definitely a thing.  My MIL would have loved being on the phone with my husband all day if he would have allowed it.  IDK it's tough being in a family like that.  It's a touchy subject to discuss with your bf as well.  I feel for you.  

[Alpacalia]

On 12/29/2022 at 6:16 PM, stillafool said:

My mother told me before she died that I was her favorite child and my youngest nephew was her favorite grandchild.  My husband's mother would constantly tell me "you know he's my favorite child" when she was alive so it's definitely a thing.  My MIL would have loved being on the phone with my husband all day if he would have allowed it.  IDK it's tough being in a family like that.  It's a touchy subject to discuss with your bf as well.  I feel for you.  

Thanks. So you know where I'm coming from.

I understand the dynamic.

My father favors me and we're very close. The caveat is that he doesn't interfere. Unless I am in harm's way he respects my space and supports my decisions and he doesn't interject in the same manner as my guy's parents. 

I've had close relationships with each of my exes parents and family so a bit new for me.

It was nice though recently. His mother had us over for dinner and it was super pleasant.

Maybe these are just kinks that need to be ironed through. I definitely don't want it to be an every day occurrence though.

 

 

 

 

[stillafool]

23 hours ago, Alpacalia said:

Maybe these are just kinks that need to be ironed through. I definitely don't want it to be an every day occurrence though.

 

I think these are kinks that you guys need to work out.  Most people have a little issue with inlaws that have to be ironed out, especially with boundaries, and realizing their child, sibling is no longer at their beckon call and now their spouse comes first.  It's certainly no reason to throw away an otherwise good relationship that is turning serious.