Can't stand that idea that she's spreading a false narrative

[Wiseman2]

6 minutes ago, Rob_Earnshaw said:

@Wiseman2just think it was completely thoughtless on her part to not even consider that I would be there, and cold to basically say she didn't give a s*** that I was there. 

Eventually you'll have to come to terms with the fact that both of you can do whatever you want and go wherever you want. The sooner you practice indifference the freer you'll feel. Right now thinking she should restrict her activities for your sake means you're allowing the situation to control you. Try to let go. You'll feel better.

[Acacia98]

On 12/29/2022 at 2:45 PM, Rob_Earnshaw said:

I just think it was completelyI didn't enlist them to tell her she shouldn't go. I was just freaking out, so that was their solution I guess. And I don't think it was worded as Rob doesn't want you to go, or don't go because Rob is there. I think it was more, Rob is going to be there, are you sure its a good idea for you to be there? thoughtless on her part to not even consider that I would be there, and cold to basically say she didn't give a s*** that I was there. We have two local pubs in our area, and that's the one we've been going to mostly over the last 2 years. And she ruined the Christmas Eve of two couples. My friend didn't see his wife until the next morning, and she stayed in the house of the other couple. The partner of the other girl was freaking out about that, having to wake up Christmas morning with my ex in their house.

 

 

I read your original post some time back. So I can't remember all the details. But what I do remember gives me the impression that your ex is both self-centered and immature. Her current actions are pretty consistent with that assessment. It's likely that she'll continue engaging in attention-seeking behavior and trying to insert herself into your life and your friends' lives. So those of you who are not thrilled about it will have to embrace the fact that this is who she is and start setting boundaries accordingly.