Bl8ckMamba24 Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 So myself and my ex broke up just over a month ago. She explained she wanted to be distant friends with me.. she then asked me about what I had been up to and I said I've just been busy with alot going on. She saw me post on WhatsApp that I was on a plane and I was away with a male friend that actually happens to be homosexual. And I posted we would be having a great time 😘🤟. She's now deleted my number... I didn't think to question it just because I don't really have a right, or atleast I don't think I do. I also don't know if it's a way to gain a reaction from me. Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 Staying friends post-breakup is not for the fainthearted. I think she realized that staying friends with you would include the prospect of watching you date other people and move on. It doesn't matter whether you and this guy are just friends. Sooner or later, you will meet someone else and want to go away with them. So It's a good idea for your ex to distance herself from you if that's what it takes for you both to move on in a healthy fashion. You don't have to respond or anything. Just let her be. Focus on living your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 Going by your last thread she did admit she wasn’t 100% into you since the beginning of your 11 month relationship. Aren’t her actions exactly the same from start to now? Her interest in you romantically is as fickle as her extension of “distant” friendship. She may always be like that because that’s who she is. The question is why do you care about women like this? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bl8ckMamba24 Posted December 17, 2022 Author Share Posted December 17, 2022 (edited) 41 minutes ago, glows said: Going by your last thread she did admit she wasn’t 100% into you since the beginning of your 11 month relationship. Aren’t her actions exactly the same from start to now? Her interest in you romantically is as fickle as her extension of “distant” friendship. She may always be like that because that’s who she is. The question is why do you care about women like this? I mean she did love me and she did go above and beyond to help me. I think the awareness came from me doing therapy that something was still wrong. But she either didn't portray the signs or I was too blind to see. She specifically said she didn't think the relationship would work basically not that she wasn't in to me. She said she got into the relationship with me because she couldn't resist me and knew I wanted a relationship. Edited December 17, 2022 by Bl8ckMamba24 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 It's a blessing in disguise that she has deleted your number. You two should not be in contact anymore. It will help you truly move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bl8ckMamba24 Posted December 17, 2022 Author Share Posted December 17, 2022 Just now, ExpatInItaly said: It's a blessing in disguise that she has deleted your number. You two should not be in contact anymore. It will help you truly move on. I believe you are right. I just like to know why which is obv futile and I struggle with acceptance. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted December 17, 2022 Share Posted December 17, 2022 When I was going through a break up, I would consciously do other things. The mind will always wander back to a thousand things about the relationship and there are plenty of emotions. Know when to just stop paying attention to them and do something else. You may not want to eat or you can’t sleep. Journal, paint, take up a hobby. Work out. Don’t be stuck on your phone looking at WhatsApp posts and status updates. Your phone isn’t on your side with this. Do things differently. If you keep looking at your phone what do you think you’re going to feel? It’s almost predictable because nearly everyone feels the same. Do something else. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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