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My Ex has blocked my number completely across the board after I told her to politely stop contacting my friends as they are my friends not hers and we are no longer in that place where it's acceptable.

However, she still holds onto my friends numbers. 

I want to clarify these are my friends not mutual or joint friends that we made together. They have been friends I have had for years that she had the fortune of meeting while we were together.

Why has she held onto all my friends numbers?

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8 minutes ago, basil67 said:

I can't tell you why she does it.   Do you think your friends will want to stay in contact with her? 

Doubtful they aren't amused with how she treat me and how she behaved in the break up. 

I assumed it was a rouse to either use them to cause me pain by letting them see something and they tell me, or to use it as an entry path into my life should her needs not be correctly fulfilled. 

Or ultimately that she just forgot which I highly doubt. 

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How do you know she holds onto their numbers or if they have any relevance to her? While this can be deeply upsetting when someone doesn’t respect your boundaries after a break up, you need to realize your participation here also caring what she does. 

If your friends want to to chat with her or relay any info about you not respecting your privacy either you know the ones who aren’t your friends. Distance yourself in that case. Not worth it fighting over people who show they’re not worth your time.

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1 hour ago, Bl8ckMamba24 said:

Doubtful they aren't amused with how she treat me and how she behaved in the break up. 

I assumed it was a rouse to either use them to cause me pain by letting them see something and they tell me, or to use it as an entry path into my life should her needs not be correctly fulfilled. 

Or ultimately that she just forgot which I highly doubt. 

I also wondered how you know she still has their numbers.....

But assuming she does, if your friends aren't going to engage, there's nothing to worry about

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15 hours ago, Bl8ckMamba24 said:

Why has she held onto all my friends numbers?

Of course delete and block her and all her people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. As far as your people you'll have to ask them to discontinue engaging her. However she and they can do whatever they wish. Do your people know about the breakup? Why are they in touch with her?

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If any friend of yours is getting texted or contacted by her, and they find it weird, then they are free to block her.  That is their choice.  Beyond that, you have no control over this and you should let it go.  You can't control what numbers your ex keeps and what numbers she deletes.

If you find that any of your friends are in contact with her and talking to her, and that makes you uncomfortable, then that's a conversation you should have with that friend, asking them why they are talking to her.  

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