What do you think of this situation?

[Wimenknow79]

I began talking to this guy who I thought was really great at the beginning of October. He seemed like a great guy. He talked about his ex a lot, the breakup, and divorce. She left his for his best friend a year ago. The divorce was just up in June. He had one girlfriend since that lasted only a couple of months. It was a couple of months after his wife left him. He said he left her because she was talking to her ex behind his back. Granted these are all things he said. His side of events. He is always the victim in all these stories. He talked about all this on our date. We ended up talking talking for a while but he couldn't ever find time to spend with me. He was working in the oil field some crazy hours. I brought up the issue. He swore it was because of his work scheduale and wanted us to keep talking.
He got distant a week in October. Came back and apologized and said it was the one year his wife left him and he was hadnling it rough. I talked to him. He swore he was over her and ready to date.
In November I found myself initiating a lot of communication so I backed off. He dissappeared for a week and a half. I reached out to find out why he hadn't reached out. Not even to wish me Happy Thanksgiving. I wasn't happy about it. I told him he was being to inconsistent. He told me he was having major depression issues and wasn't talking to anyone. That when he gets that way, he just shuts the world out and wants to be alone. It was also like he didn't really care if I stuck around or not. He said he didn't want to jump into anything. That it wouldn't be fair to me. I tried everything to be there for him. I probably tried to hard to be honest and did all the wrong things. He ended up ghosting in a week. 
After two weeks and several messages he started talking to me again. Told me why he ghosted and what I did that made him ghost. He seemed really confused about his feelings. I kept telling him if he wanted me gone all he had to do is tell me. I asked him if he wanted me gone. He wouldn't say. I told him I liked him but if he just wanted be friends right now okay. Just something to think about or thingk about later. He never would tell me how he felt about me. I did try to be there this week and do everything right this time. I tried to be whatever he needed. I didn't press for answers that week or anything. I didn't do anything wrong I can think of and then Sunday he stoped responding. He ghosted again. I have no clue why. I told him yesterday after several texts that I liked him. I didn't want to go. I didn't want him to go. I wanted to be here for him however he needed. But if he ghosted this time I was done. I would not be going back trying to talk to him. That he would be making the choice to end it for good this time. That I couldn't keep doing that. That it wasn't fair to me. This was just disrespectful now. I deserve better. I gave him till that night to respond. He didn't. I don't understand why this happened. What do ya'll think?
 

I’m leaving him alone now. I’m not reaching out. It just sucks.

[NuevoYorko]

Way too much, too soon, for a newly divorced guy.  Especially since he had another girlfriend between his divorce and you.  The guy won't be ready for a long time.

[S2B]

Ditch this time waster.

he’s not over his ex and he could sure use some professional counseling.

he’s not at all ready to date anyone.

[stillafool]

He isn't over his wife and won't be for a long time to come.  She betrayed him in a horrible way and he's using you as his therapist and someone to vent to.  That is why he doesn't want to lose you.  Cut the chord and suggest he hire a therapist to help him get over his divorce.

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, Wimenknow79 said:

Im leaving him alone now. I’m not reaching out. It just sucks.

Sorry this happened. Unfortunately he's been cycling through women since his divorce, which isn't that uncommon. 

You dodged a bullet. Be grateful you're free of this and only spent 12 weeks or so on it. Delete and block him and celebrate a New Year's and new beginnings.

[mortensorchid]

Sorry this happened to you.  He keeps flip flopping because he's still hurting from the divorce.  I've seen what people go through with divorce and it's like a nightmare that you're never going to wake up from for both parties and the ripple effect it has around others close to both parties. 

Just move on.  He's got too many bad things he's working through.  And he may never get through them, but you can't fix them.