Am I being selfish?

[Indigolight]

I need advice. I have a friend who I consider one of my closest friends, and we have known each other for about a little more than a year. He used to call me for hours at a time almost every day, but this past month it’s nothing. every time I ask he’ll say no but still call other people. He never asks me to hang out and just doesn’t make an effort in general. He called me today and barely talked to me while we were on the phone and just played his game and said he’s gonna go when his other friend can play, and he’s waiting for him. I constantly tell him it’s making me feel bad and he keeps saying he will change but never does. I’m not sure if it’s right for me to feel hurt and be mad, or if I’m just being selfish. I’m thinking of not being friends anymore cuz it really hurts me, but like I said maybe I’m overreacting. 

[glows]

It’s usually not sustainable talking with someone for hours at a time everyday or close to everyday. This was bound to end because it’s way too much and unrealistic to keep doing. 

It sounds like he has other friends he likes to talk with and spend time with.

I don’t think you’re overreacting because it’s usually rude to call someone and then be distracted with someone or something else. I know people watch movies together online remotely or play games while on the phone like that so context matters. If you’re not having fun, the bottomline is - do something else that is. 

[Foxhall]

43 minutes ago, Indigolight said:

I need advice. I have a friend who I consider one of my closest friends, and we have known each other for about a little more than a year. He used to call me for hours at a time almost every day, but this past month it’s nothing.

Overkill eventually ends in frustration for one and hurt for the other,

unfortunately at this point you have to take the hint and accept hes not that into you,

going forward keep it casual with people and be friendly but also not too available, 

also most importantly  the guy is now disrespecting you and you have to blank him back, cut your losses.

[ShyViolet]

If you notice that his behavior is drastically different than before, he never wants to hang out and rarely wants to talk, then yes obviously he's no longer interested in being friends.  There is no point in being angry about it, you need to just accept it and move on.  You can't make someone want to be friends with you.  Stop telling him that it makes you feel bad.... he doesn't care.  Stop wasting your time with this.  Make new friends.

[Wiseman2]

12 hours ago, Indigolight said:

. I constantly tell him it’s making me feel bad 

Is there a romantic interest? He seems to have too much time on his hands and seems bored. Step away and focus on other friends.