My committed boyfriend is planning to meet a woman for a first date this afternoon.

[stillafool]

On 1/7/2023 at 4:16 PM, howwouldiknownow22 said:

My "picker isn't off"...it is the fact that I continuously IGNORE these things.. 

Yes your picker is off.  You pick these type of men to get involved with.  Choose better so you don't have to go through this again.

[Calmandfocused]

Op, you’re confusing the “love” he had for you with “love” how you feel it.  Incorrect.  He does not love you as a person, he loves you as a thing! 
 

Let me give you an analogy to explain: 

I “love” my toaster. Every time I put bread into my toaster I get lovely delicious toast!  It’s the best toast I’ve ever tasted. Im delighted with my toaster. 
 

Then my toaster breaks. It’s stops producing the delicious toast and therefore has no use to me at all. I  toss the toaster in the bin and I buy a new one. A brand new toaster that will give me new delicious toast. I’ve no need to think about the old toaster. It has no use for me anymore. 
 

This is how people with narcissistic traits feel about other people. 
 

You are the toaster, the toast is your money, and the new toaster is his new love interest. 
 

Now is this making more sense? 

Edited January 10, 2023 by Calmandfocused

[Allupinnit]

This douchebag sounds disgusting.  Not only did he steal your money, cheat on you, but he's also a fraud who posts "lifestyle" pics on social media with crap that's not even his.

Are you sure he's even who he says he is??  

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Edited January 12, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Mrin]

On 1/10/2023 at 11:44 AM, Calmandfocused said:

Op, you’re confusing the “love” he had for you with “love” how you feel it.  Incorrect.  He does not love you as a person, he loves you as a thing! 
 

Let me give you an analogy to explain: 

I “love” my toaster. Every time I put bread into my toaster I get lovely delicious toast!  It’s the best toast I’ve ever tasted. Im delighted with my toaster. 
 

Then my toaster breaks. It’s stops producing the delicious toast and therefore has no use to me at all. I  toss the toaster in the bin and I buy a new one. A brand new toaster that will give me new delicious toast. I’ve no need to think about the old toaster. It has no use for me anymore. 
 

This is how people with narcissistic traits feel about other people. 
 

You are the toaster, the toast is your money, and the new toaster is his new love interest. 
 

Now is this making more sense? 

This is a brilliant way of describing it