smint Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 Hello guys, i have downloaded dating app 🙃 one year ago. There was one guy I was texting and we exchanged numbers. Then he recommended to have video call, so we started very often talking on video call. It was always nice talking to him, we had so many subjects and we were laughing a lot. But he never really asked to meet,although we live 15 km away from each other. When I suggested to meet, he never really wanted at the end,actually he would say he can not because this and that. Then i said what is the point to have endless video calls and I didn't want those video calls anymore. He would be always saying he wants to meet me, to make my life beautiful, just wanted to get me know better, we are so similar blah blah let's do video call and I would say no thanks with video calls anymore. In November he again asked for video call and when i say no, he said ok let's meet, he will let me know when he has time, and till yesterday nothing from him, yesterday he sent me happy new year. I am a bit confused, because i liked talking to him and could not wait to meet him, but it seems that he is playing with me for some reason. 🙄 It also upsets me, because I really liked him and wanted to meet him, but he always play me. I am not waiting only for him, but this is really strange and it somehow upsets me. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 7 minutes ago, smint said: I am a bit confused, because i liked talking to him and could not wait to meet him, Sorry this happened. All you can do is cut your losses and eliminate timewasters like this early on. After a few messages meet in person. If someone won't agree to that, you'll need to delete and block them. It's important not to invest in people you've never met. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted January 2, 2023 Author Share Posted January 2, 2023 Wiseman2 thanks, yes, the most of the people only want to write endless texts and are asking for photos and stuff like that, totally crazy. This guy was not like that asking for photos and texting,he asked for video call first to see each other and talk, which i found ok, but all the time just video calls, I don't know how to meet anymore normal man. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 Have you blocked him? Use your technology and make it work for you. That you’re upset at least shows that you’re aware this is a lot of timewasting and you know what you don’t want. Now please deal with it appropriately and block him. He’s not respecting your wishes to meet in person. Move on to someone who does. You’re letting this source of irritation and frustration in your life by not blocking his contact and freeing yourself to find someone more like you. What’s going on is he’s wasting your time and leaving you feeling upset. That’s all. Don’t get too wrapped up in what’s going on with him because it doesn’t matter. What matters is you and your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 Maybe he is married or has a girlfriend and is looking for side action when her heas is turned. Or you are low on the list of women he is already talking to and meeting in person, and you fill the time when he's bored or wants attention. Whatever the case, it's time to block him. He's a waste of your time and it's not going to go anywhere. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 Ya this guy is already in a relationship...he's using dating apps to monkey branch. Either that or he's under house arrest and has an ankle monitor. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Stret Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 6 hours ago, smint said: but he always play me. There's your answer. Why would you even want to meet a guy that's always playing you? You'll get over it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted January 2, 2023 Author Share Posted January 2, 2023 Thank you so much good people, it seems i have to block him, it is disrespectful behavior. Yes, probably he has someone, or I am low on his list or whatever the reason is, I should stop thinking about it. Thank you so much. 🥰 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 He wasn't interested in going on a date with you. Clearly on the video call, this guy had enough charm and so did you--so the conversation was apparently fun for you. But a good conversation does not mean you want to take someone on a date. This can happen a lot if the person is an extrovert and just good at conversing with people. These folks can carry on an interesting conversation and the other person assumes that means they're interested in going further. Wrong assumption. There is NO confusion here. He is not interested. This is what guys do (and women do) when they're not interested. They don't follow up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted January 3, 2023 Author Share Posted January 3, 2023 Lotsgoingon, thank you. I get your point, but he insisted on video calls and since I refused video calls several times, he stopped communicating, only sometimes writes whats up, now happy new year. He is one freak. I am stupid for analyzing him this much. Manipulator. Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 Here's an angle: there is no such thing as mixed signals. Mixed signals = ambivalent, which = hot and cold, which means you will not have a steady relationship. So mixed signals are really signals to stay away. If people are interested in us, they make that very clear not just through language, but by consistency and by sending clear, steady signals of interest. Definitely stay away unless you want to pursue drama. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 (edited) Time is of the essence. If someone you’ve met online won’t meet within a week, next. There should be some discussion about figuring out a date and time to meet up fairly soon (within a week at least) and it shouldn’t be dragging on for days and weeks or even months. Just treat this as a learning experience and stay positive. Edited January 3, 2023 by glows 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 17 hours ago, smint said: Hello guys, i have downloaded dating app 🙃 one year ago. There was one guy I was texting and we exchanged numbers. Then he recommended to have video call, so we started very often talking on video call. It was always nice talking to him, we had so many subjects and we were laughing a lot. But he never really asked to meet,although we live 15 km away from each other. When I suggested to meet, he never really wanted at the end,actually he would say he can not because this and that. Then i said what is the point to have endless video calls and I didn't want those video calls anymore. He would be always saying he wants to meet me, to make my life beautiful, just wanted to get me know better, we are so similar blah blah let's do video call and I would say no thanks with video calls anymore. In November he again asked for video call and when i say no, he said ok let's meet, he will let me know when he has time, and till yesterday nothing from him, yesterday he sent me happy new year. I am a bit confused, because i liked talking to him and could not wait to meet him, but it seems that he is playing with me for some reason. 🙄 It also upsets me, because I really liked him and wanted to meet him, but he always play me. I am not waiting only for him, but this is really strange and it somehow upsets me. I’d bet money this guy is married. the video calls happened when his wife wasn’t home. next time any guy won’t meet (ask you OUT on a date) don’t let him waste your time and energy. There are plenty of time wasters out there that just want an ego feed without spending one dime on effort to SEE you in real life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 2 hours ago, smint said: Lotsgoingon, thank you. I get your point, but he insisted on video calls and since I refused video calls several times, he stopped communicating, only sometimes writes whats up, now happy new year. He is one freak. I am stupid for analyzing him this much. Manipulator. Block him from contacting you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 I can assure you that he is not a Rubik's Cube. Trust me. When he likes you, you won't have to wonder if he does, because he will tell you he does. If he likes you, he’s not just going to want to meet you. He’s going to be the one asking you first. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted January 3, 2023 Author Share Posted January 3, 2023 You are right guys, it was his ego boost, while his wife or girlfriend was not around. And yes, there are so many time wasters there, who just want to endlessly text. This is so annoying. I will not lose positivity, thank you for each answer and good willing advises. 🥰 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 Did you ask him if he’s married? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted January 3, 2023 Author Share Posted January 3, 2023 1 hour ago, S2B said: Did you ask him if he’s married? Yes i did, of course he said he is not married 🤣 sometimes he would call me from his office when he was alone, telling me about work, colleagues, sometimes from home, showing me his home and souvenirs he bought when he traveled somewhere and so, so for me it all looked normal. Once when I suggested to meet, he first called me on video call to confirm place we are meeting and I of course answered, but then he started to talk what happened on his work for some time and after almost one hour,he said let's meet another day, now it is too late. Then when I asked why does he always have explanation why not to meet, he would say bcs these are real things, he is busy, works a lot, i had to study and he did not want to take my time,blah blah blah over and over. Then I was in relationship in between and told him, so he stopped contacted me, but after few months he wrote asking how is in my new relationship... Guys, your comments opened my eyes, he never really wanted to meet me, I was ego booster, his hobby, person to complain about colleagues and work and things like that. He would tell me it is wonderful knowing you,every time we talk I feel much better, you understand me and support me, you have such a positive energy blah blah blah, he really wants to make me even more happy,a shits like that, and me stupid, i believed. 😅 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 He’s just a time waster. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smint Posted January 3, 2023 Author Share Posted January 3, 2023 14 minutes ago, S2B said: He’s just a time waster. Yes he is, stupid me. He was really charming and I enjoyed talking to him, he fooled me. I will get over it. It is not snt terrible that happened, but still some sort of disappointment. Link to post Share on other sites
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