Electric Girl Posted January 10, 2023 Share Posted January 10, 2023 What does it mean if your boyfriend's ex is stalking your social media pages, Instagram for example. I know that she has been stalking because I caught her name in the viewer's list of my IG stories. What's weird is, she blocks me once she's done viewing my stories and after 24 hours or more she unblocks me. I think she isn't aware that the viewer's list on Instagram isn't going to expire until 48 hours. So every time she unblocks me, I always see her name in my viewer's list. I'm so confused as my boyfriend and his ex already broken up 6 years ago, and she has a boyfriend of 6 years as well. About a year ago or more, we follow each other on our social media pages. I decided to remove her from my friends list as she is annoying me. It will either be her copying me, what I do or what I post or her posting anything related to what I posted. So that's when I decided to remove her. All I want to know is what do you think she is feeling? Is she happy? Why does she keeps on stalking? Can you advice? It would behighly appreciated if someone replies. Thank you 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 10, 2023 Share Posted January 10, 2023 (edited) Is there still a friendly relationship between them? Years ago, my boyfriend at the time ex ran into me and him at a local pub and punched me in the face. Their relationship had been over for several months, but she was angry when she found out we were dating. If her actions bother you, you can block her on Facebook, Instagram, and other social media accounts. If you think she is stalking you on someone else's account, block them too. It is one of the simplest and most effective solutions to this problem. Edited January 10, 2023 by Alpacalia 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 10, 2023 Share Posted January 10, 2023 We don’t know what she’s feeling but seeing as she’s copying you, maybe she feels you have good ideas. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Block her if she continues to invade your privacy. Also recognize that social media is not necessarily where people intend to hide themselves. She sees your content and mimics you like an animal would in the wild for survival if it sees another one thriving or there’s good reason. You have a presence online to share with your peers or loved ones. If she is neither then block her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 10, 2023 Share Posted January 10, 2023 1 hour ago, Electric Girl said: we follow each other on our social media pages. I decided to remove her from my friends list as she is annoying me. Is your BF connected to her on social media? All you can do is block her and all her people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 19 hours ago, Alpacalia said: Is there still a friendly relationship between them? Years ago, my boyfriend at the time ex ran into me and him at a local pub and punched me in the face. Their relationship had been over for several months, but she was angry when she found out we were dating. If her actions bother you, you can block her on Facebook, Instagram, and other social media accounts. If you think she is stalking you on someone else's account, block them too. It is one of the simplest and most effective solutions to this problem. They're not friends or connected to any social media. That's why it is confusing me as to why she's stalking me on my social media accounts. Has she moved on with her ex (my boyfriend)? Is she unhappy with her 6-year bf? It just confuses me. She's posting things saying that she's happy but her actions don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 18 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Is your BF connected to her on social media? All you can do is block her and all her people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. No, they are not friends or connected to any social media. That's why her actions confuses me. It has been 6 years since they broke up. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 We can't tell you why she does what she does. But I think the bigger question is why you haven't blocked her from viewing your social media. What's going on? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 18 hours ago, glows said: We don’t know what she’s feeling but seeing as she’s copying you, maybe she feels you have good ideas. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Block her if she continues to invade your privacy. Also recognize that social media is not necessarily where people intend to hide themselves. She sees your content and mimics you like an animal would in the wild for survival if it sees another one thriving or there’s good reason. You have a presence online to share with your peers or loved ones. If she is neither then block her. Is there a possibility that she is insecure with me? That's the only reason I know why she's doing it. Has she not moved on? Is she not happy with her current bf? (6 years already) given that she is stalking the girlfriend(me) of her ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 1 minute ago, basil67 said: We can't tell you why she does what she does. But I think the bigger question is why you haven't blocked her from viewing your social media. What's going on? I have not blocked her because in our country, people will think that you are bitter because you have blocked someone. but now, I am very annoyed with her, I have to do something. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 12 minutes ago, Electric Girl said: Is there a possibility that she is insecure with me? That's the only reason I know why she's doing it. Has she not moved on? Is she not happy with her current bf? (6 years already) given that she is stalking the girlfriend(me) of her ex. Maybe or she’s just curious as a passing phase. There are all kinds of people out there. I wouldn’t immediately assume someone is insecure just because they look at your social media. Puzzling that you’d read into anything to do with her love life at all to be frank. I’m looking at this of course with the lens that her ex (your boyfriend) is yesterday’s news. Been there done that, got the tshirt and no, thanks. I’m of the mind that if any woman wants a man that bad she can have him. No way am I going to work up a sweat believing he’s worth the hassle. He can leave and shut the door behind him, please and thank you. 15 minutes ago, Electric Girl said: I have not blocked her because in our country, people will think that you are bitter because you have blocked someone. /cdn-cgi/mirage/67105bda90530c7740deecf307c0692da9f296b145a65db84e2fe87142f6d2ad/1280/https://www.loveshack.org/content/emoticons/frown.gif.6f59bb5cbffb2e0197298865ef01fbd0.gif but now, I am very annoyed with her, I have to do something. She’s not doing anything wrong. The issue is you feeling insecure about this and choosing not to block someone if you don’t wish them to see your profile. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 She has a fixation with you. I don't think it's anything sinister seeing as she wants to be allot like you. But it is strange. Maybe ask her straight why she is doing it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 The occasional "stalking" is to be expected. But what she's doing (consistently stalking you, blocking and unblocking you, appearing to copy your posts or to react to them) is too much to be simple curiosity. When people engage in somewhat weird behavior that's directed at you, you need to shield yourself. This woman is not your friend or relative and you have no idea what her state of mind is or what her limits are, so stop allowing her free access to all sorts of info about you. Block her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 (edited) 2 hours ago, Electric Girl said: She's posting things saying that she's happy but her actions don't. If you are scanning and watching her social media, she can see that. You need to delete and block her. And discontinue viewing her social media. Her life and happiness shouldn't really concern you. Edited January 11, 2023 by Wiseman2 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 (edited) 2 hours ago, Electric Girl said: Has she moved on with her ex (my boyfriend)? Is she unhappy with her 6-year bf? It just confuses me. She's posting things saying that she's happy but her actions don't. Your tone and some of your comments seem to indicate that you are more concerned about her as a friend than as a stranger. Are you sure you're the girlfriend of the boyfriend? Edited January 11, 2023 by Alpacalia 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 38 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: Your tone and some of your comments seem to indicate that you are more concerned about her as a friend than as a stranger. Are you sure you're the girlfriend of the boyfriend? Yes, I am concerned about her. I am not bitter so maybe you thought about it? and also, yes, I am the girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Ray_xx Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 23 hours ago, Electric Girl said: What does it mean if your boyfriend's ex is stalking your social media pages, Instagram for example. I know that she has been stalking because I caught her name in the viewer's list of my IG stories. What's weird is, she blocks me once she's done viewing my stories and after 24 hours or more she unblocks me. I think she isn't aware that the viewer's list on Instagram isn't going to expire until 48 hours. So every time she unblocks me, I always see her name in my viewer's list. I'm so confused as my boyfriend and his ex already broken up 6 years ago, and she has a boyfriend of 6 years as well. About a year ago or more, we follow each other on our social media pages. I decided to remove her from my friends list as she is annoying me. It will either be her copying me, what I do or what I post or her posting anything related to what I posted. So that's when I decided to remove her. All I want to know is what do you think she is feeling? Is she happy? Why does she keeps on stalking? Can you advice? It would behighly appreciated if someone replies. Thank you Absolutely nothing. I ended my ex boyfriend of 4 years as I did not love him. He is now with someone else and every few weeks I look at his instagram and I liked to look at her images. I feel no jealously or love towards him, I just like to nosy. Don't worry about it 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: If you are scanning and watching her social media, she can see that. You need to delete and block her. And discontinue viewing her social media. Her life and happiness shouldn't really concern you. I am not viewing her social media now. It was when we were still following each other. I see her posts that she's so happy and all. But it's true, her life and happiness shouldn't concern me, so best advice from everyone here is to block, for her to stop viewing my profile. I really appreciate you replying, thank you! 😊 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 8 minutes ago, Ray_xx said: Absolutely nothing. I ended my ex boyfriend of 4 years as I did not love him. He is now with someone else and every few weeks I look at his instagram and I liked to look at her images. I feel no jealously or love towards him, I just like to nosy. Don't worry about it I agree with that. I just find it weird as she is stalking me every few days. (I see her name on my viewer's list and we are not following each other as I already removed her from my socmed accounts over a year ago). I really appreciate you replying to my topic and I thank you. I guess it's true that I don't need to worry about it and maybe just block her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 1 hour ago, Acacia98 said: The occasional "stalking" is to be expected. But what she's doing (consistently stalking you, blocking and unblocking you, appearing to copy your posts or to react to them) is too much to be simple curiosity. When people engage in somewhat weird behavior that's directed at you, you need to shield yourself. This woman is not your friend or relative and you have no idea what her state of mind is or what her limits are, so stop allowing her free access to all sorts of info about you. Block her. Thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it! I will block her. 😊 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 2 hours ago, JTSW said: She has a fixation with you. I don't think it's anything sinister seeing as she wants to be allot like you. But it is strange. Maybe ask her straight why she is doing it. Thank you for replying to my topic. I really appreciate it! yes, I might as well ask her and then block her afterwards. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Electric Girl Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 2 hours ago, glows said: Maybe or she’s just curious as a passing phase. There are all kinds of people out there. I wouldn’t immediately assume someone is insecure just because they look at your social media. Puzzling that you’d read into anything to do with her love life at all to be frank. I’m looking at this of course with the lens that her ex (your boyfriend) is yesterday’s news. Been there done that, got the tshirt and no, thanks. I’m of the mind that if any woman wants a man that bad she can have him. No way am I going to work up a sweat believing he’s worth the hassle. He can leave and shut the door behind him, please and thank you. She’s not doing anything wrong. The issue is you feeling insecure about this and choosing not to block someone if you don’t wish them to see your profile. Thank you for the frank reply. I really appreciate it I have decided to block her so she can't bother my peace of mind 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 (edited) post deleted. I'm glad you're going to block her Edited January 11, 2023 by basil67 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 22 minutes ago, basil67 said: post deleted. I'm glad you're going to block her Seconded! Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 12, 2023 Share Posted January 12, 2023 Ya I had a stalker and I adjusted my settings to private or closed down accounts. Big pain some people are. Link to post Share on other sites
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