ExpatInItaly Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 15 hours ago, flogp189 said: I've interpreted this as a polite rejection, but after talking to some friends he might have said that as a single phrase "It's okay, no worries." What does it matter if he typed it as two different phrases, or a single phrase? It's still not a "Yes, great, let's hang out on XYZ day" or anything even close to it. This man is not interested, and you need to stop contacting him. You tried, and he hasn't reciprocated. His non-response to your invitation to get together is your clue that he doesn't want to get together. You need to let this one go, Flog. And reflect on why you're so intent on pusuing a guy who is barely even lukewarm. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 16 hours ago, flogp189 said: Update, I ended up texting him the day after and this was our exchange. Me: Hey, I realize I might have come across a little too strong last night. I didn't want to make you feel uncomfortable. Me: I like getting to know you, and if you're up for it, I'd love to hang out on the weekend next time. Him: It's okay haha Him: (replied to my first msg) No worries I've interpreted this as a polite rejection, but after talking to some friends he might have said that as a single phrase "It's okay, no worries." Some suggested to at least cool it off and don't text him for awhile. Someone else mentioned just following up with him explicitly about if he wants to continue hanging out or not. Thoughts? I'm obviously going to start talking to other guys, but I would like to keep these lines open and pursue if it feels right. Seriously? You were advised to not pursue him any longer because he is clearly not interested. He didn't say yes to hanging out again so there is your answer. You are acting desperate which is not attractive at all. Time to let it go. Take the hint. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 You will just embarrass yourself if you reach out to this guy again. He's just not interested in you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 (edited) 23 hours ago, flogp189 said: I interpreted this as a polite rejection, but after talking to some friends he might have said that as a single phrase "It's okay, no worries." Some suggested to at least cool it off and don't text him for awhile. Someone else mentioned just following up with him explicitly about if he wants to continue hanging out or not. Thoughts? My thoughts are I think you should have more self-respect and let this go. Trust me, chasing him will not work in your favor and is not a good look. You will come off as desperate and sorry to say a bit pathetic. He wasn't even hinting, he was very clearly telling you he's not interested, and frankly his "no worries, haha" was insulting and demeaning. Why YOU would want anything more to do with him after this is beyond me. Focus on men who are interested in you and leave the rest at the door. I'm sorry and all the best moving forward. Edited January 13, 2023 by poppyfields 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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