jake2495 Posted January 17, 2023 Share Posted January 17, 2023 Hi all, first off I want to make it clear I’m perfectly accepting of her decision and I might be venting more than anything else. anyway, I had been seeing this woman from work. We had been chatting every day for about 3 months, but due to working together in a school was apprehensive about starting incase others found out and kids chatting or if it went wrong because we have to work close together, happy to say we are still professional and no one would be any the wiser. In late November we finally started dating and things seemed to be going really well. We spent lots of time together I met her family, my family were aware of her but live away from me so meeting wasn’t possible. She had told mutual friends we were seeing each other. she went through a bereavement of a close friend and shortly after she stated that she felt we were better as friends. I am not at all saying this is the reason and I feel really bad for thinking it but I cannot think if any other reason we were so close and seemed to be going well. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 Some bad things happened in her life and she wants to be alone. Respect that. She made the right decision because getting involved with a colleague is not a good idea. Just be her friend like she asked. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 Be professional at work and maintain some cordiality. It’s good that you respect her decision. She may feel you’re not a good match overall. If she was very much into you the death of a loved one likely wouldn’t have affected that. Sorry to be harsh- she’s just not that into you. Take a breather if needed and meet other people when you’re ready. This is not the only woman on earth and plenty more it do and lots to see. Link to post Share on other sites
Devongreen Posted January 18, 2023 Share Posted January 18, 2023 If things were serious, or getting that way, then yeah the death of a close friend could mean that she just needs space and time, saying I want to just be friends is a way for her to keep you around, just don’t go waiting assuming that she’s going to pick you up again! If it happens great if not as you’ve said you respect her decision and I hope you manage to stay professional while working! Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 It is more likely that the death of her friend reminded her that life is short, and she shouldn't continue with something that doesn't feel quite right. It's disappointing but also evident that she was hesitant from the start. She has given it a try and realized that it's not a match for her. Continue to be professional at work, of course, but cease all other personal communication and contact. Link to post Share on other sites
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