IntBrowser Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 I matched with someone on Hinge and we decided to meet at the end of the month. So we been talking for about a week and a half and this past weekend I didnt call or text on Saturday or Sunday but called her Monday. So I didnt get a answer and decided to see if she calls back. I waited until today and called again and no answer. Now all of a sudden she answer the phone or text. Her last text was on Friday saying enjoy your football weekend. But Two Days is all it takes? Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 Things move very quickly on OLD. She easily could have met someone she likes while you've been waiting to meet. You could have as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IntBrowser Posted January 19, 2023 Author Share Posted January 19, 2023 1 hour ago, NuevoYorko said: Things move very quickly on OLD. She easily could have met someone she likes while you've been waiting to meet. You could have as well. She admitted that to me in a text tonight that she met someone else. 15 years ago I would have left a vulgar message but Im more mature now lol Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 18 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: 15 years ago I would have left a vulgar message but Im more mature now lol Very good! Link to post Share on other sites
shellzbellz83 Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 Why weren't you going to meet until the end of the month? Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 1 hour ago, IntBrowser said: She admitted that to me in a text tonight that she met someone else. 15 years ago I would have left a vulgar message but Im more mature now lol Always thank the person for letting you know. Respect their privacy regardless of any questions you may have. I’m sorry it didn’t work out. I’m also curious why the first meet up was decided weeks after you had matched. Were you both traveling? Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 Then important thing to remember about OLD is for some its like shopping, walk around see what is on the shelf and select the item which appeals most, try it on and if it does not really look good then put it back on the shelf. Chances are she simply found someone "better". I'd simply skip her and move along but be aware that OLD is the most superficial form of dating. Its no surprise that in my opinion it lends itself more to hook for those who are confident enough and want that than to actual dating but I guess some people do find success. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 8 hours ago, IntBrowser said: Her last text was on Friday saying enjoy your football weekend. It's best to meet asap. It sounds like she lost interest because the meeting was too far off. Make sure you make time for dating, not reasons why you can't get together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: It's best to meet asap. It sounds like she lost interest because the meeting was too far off. Make sure you make time for dating, not reasons why you can't get together. I would counter with why should the OP dance to her schedule? If a date was agreed upon and she chose to find someone else in the time between the agreement being made and the dating happening that says a lot about her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 Not necessarily. I spoke with someone once for several weeks before embarking on a first date. He and I dated for a few months and I became quite smitten with him. Maybe our experience is different though because we didn't meet on a dating website. I think it's more so that if she is left wondering how you feel about her as a result of your absence, she will lose interest fast. The two of you never met though so I think it's more like you said. That she met someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 If you were talking for a week and a half prior to this past weekend, that would suggest you matched at the beginning of the month. What led to postponing a meeting until the end of the month? That's a long time to maintain interest in someone you haven't met and definitely opens the door for either of you to meet others in the meantime. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 Your assumption is wrong: she never really had an interest. Texting--even for hours and hours over days and days-- does not mean interest. Texting requires no real emotional investment. Meeting someone for five minutes in person requires more investment than texting. Check yourself: quick believing in the "high" you feel when texting. It means nothing. You have to go meet the person. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 19, 2023 Share Posted January 19, 2023 12 hours ago, IntBrowser said: Her last text was on Friday saying enjoy your football weekend. They can lose interest for any number of reasons such as still talking to and meeting others, but if she thinks you're too busy all weekend with football,, it could come across as low interest. After a few messages set up a meeting. That's the only way to see if it's worth pursuing. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted January 20, 2023 Share Posted January 20, 2023 Having more immediate obligations can sometimes be understandable, but in my opinion, I think she probably thought she was worth much more than merely a footy ball. Link to post Share on other sites
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