she said we're not compatible and she wanted us to stay friends

[Mehdisaada]

well we started dating  5  months  ago  ,  everything was sooo okey at the beginning  , we were hanging out  having  fun  , playing music together  ... like everything was so fine  emotionally and s thing  , she had to go  through a surgery and  i was there for  her  , she spent  sometime alone  at home  like 2 weaks  , then everything  started  to collapse  , she  started getting  depressed  , talking about an ex  she had that suicided  ,  she started talking to another boy that likes her seeking  relationship advices  and u can guess the kind of advices he was  giving  her ( just to mention something  , everytime she meet him she just start a fight with me out of nowhere like litterally she would start  a fight  over the  color of a spoon or  over me saying thank you to her ) , she got better from the surgery  we got back to see each others  and meet  ,  but everything changed we're not the same as before  ,  litterally  24/24  every second we are together she talks about grieving  and  her ex who suicided  or  the other boy  who likes her , she started pulling her  self  away  rejecting meeting  me to go see this  boy  or go out with her friends  ,  she started  telling me i don't understand  her  out of nothing ,  pulling fights  out of nothing  and taking every word i say in a negative  way  , i tell her i love her she just answer me thanks  ,  we  talked about it  and she said  we're  not compatible  out of nothing like i was trying so hard that i even changed  every behaviour that i felt  that she don't  like i was investing  my everything  and that change out of a sudden  was rude  ,  after  she broke up with me she tried to force me to be  her friend  that she started even  talking me about her dates and her making out with other people  since i told her i don't stay friends with my exs  . am just trying  to figure out what was happening bcz  i hate the fact that my mind is giving  her excuses  for the way she was treating me and the way it was obvious  she just used me  

[Wiseman2]

Sorry this happened. She doesn't seem ready to date. Even though you had a nice 5 mos together, she seems to have too much to sort out. Just step back. Don't try to be friends.

[JTSW]

Yes, she used you and was definitely seeing that other guy while she was with you.

She seemed to be dropping many hints and hoped you would be the one to break if it off with her.

She knows how you feel about her so it's very inappropriate of her to tell you about her intimacy with other guys.

Cut her off completely.

Don't be friends and block her everywhere so she can't contact you.

[Mehdisaada]

 

1 hour ago, JTSW said:

Yes, she used you and was definitely seeing that other guy while she was with you.

She seemed to be dropping many hints and hoped you would be the one to break if it off with her.

She knows how you feel about her so it's very inappropriate of her to tell you about her intimacy with other guys.

Cut her off completely.

Don't be friends and block her everywhere so she can't contact you.

that was exactly what i did i blocked her  everywhere actually  but  she sent me from another account  like insulting me and saying  am childish  ,  like  duh if  i don't wanna be friends  with an ex am childish and bad  :3  sucks  

[JTSW]

7 minutes ago, Mehdisaada said:

 

that was exactly what i did i blocked her  everywhere actually  but  she sent me from another account  like insulting me and saying  am childish  ,  like  duh if  i don't wanna be friends  with an ex am childish and bad  :3  sucks  

Just keep blocking every account she tries to contact you on.

Don't even ready the messages first.

Just delete and block each time.

She's got a warped mind. 

She doesn't want to be with you yet wants to around to hurt you.

[glows]

She broke up with you so don’t stay in contact with her. It’s best you respect what she’s saying instead of believing it’s “out of nothing”. 

Don’t read into anything else about her. She is not interested. It hurts now but develop better boundaries and don’t lie to yourself trying to be friends. You have feelings for her and she’s not a friend.

Edited January 19, 2023 by glows

[BaileyB]

On 1/19/2023 at 5:48 AM, Mehdisaada said:

she said  we're  not compatible

I wouldn’t say this. It sounds to me like she is depressed and has some mental health issues. 

On 1/19/2023 at 5:48 AM, Mehdisaada said:

after  she broke up with me she tried to force me to be  her friend  that she started even  talking me about her dates and her making out with other people

She can’t force you to do anything. If this is the case, you need to stop talking to her. 

[Mehdisaada]

On 1/21/2023 at 7:49 PM, BaileyB said:

I wouldn’t say this. It sounds to me like she is depressed and has some mental health issues. 

She can’t force you to do anything. If this is the case, you need to stop talking to her. 

well  tbh i don't know but the change was so sudden , also there is this  dude , once  i had something in mind  and i wanted to check  , searched  the name of the dude that liked her  in our discussions  ,  and found out that everytime she call him/ meet him ,  she just come to me and  bring  up a fight  and seek  excuses tto prove   me not  compatible with her so it's more truthful to me that  she  just likes the other boy and just left so she can go out with him ,  i have that feeling that it's  the main reason  , for me  well am moving after all i know my worth and i know that if someone  doesn't  know ur worth and treat u the way u deserve , they just don't deserve u or  ur love