blueman Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 ok so tonight my gf and i got into a bit of an argument and at a certain point she just hung up. Now i tried to be mature and call her back but she declined the call and gave me the silent treatment. How do i go about this now? I mean what should i gather from her when she just hangs up like that and wont answer the phone? I HATE when a girl does that and on top of that i cant fix things if she wont communicate. Should i just not call her and wait it out till she decides to swallow her pride or what? just a little background my gf has never had a relationship over 3 months and she is currently 20 years old and i am 21 and yes i have had 2 long term relationships. We have been together for 5 months now and she says that she loves me and i do to. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 What were you saying when she hung up? Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 She's either playing you, or she cares not a whit for your feelings. Either way, your best course of action, IMHO, is to let her stew in her own juices for a while. Go NC. Don't call, don't email, don't correspond at all. Contact is now 100% up to her. Link to post Share on other sites
glittergurl Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 lol Now that's the kind of thing that can be totally different for each couple; depending on how you two get along and interact. I can tell you it's happened with my husband before. I have hung up on him and he has hung up on me, and then we're both so mad we just don't answer the phone But well, we're kinda crazy and extreme sometimes We don't mind it too much because we know that's how we react in certain situations, and that we just need to cool down. We know things always get back to normal the next day. And while it's okay for us to do that to each other, we'd never tolerate it if someone else did the same to us. So, well, I don't know about your girlfriend. It's still a recent relationship; try not to get too upset about it and take things day by day. See how she interacts with you, and if it really upsets you, tell her and try to talk it out. Link to post Share on other sites
Skeered Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 She's either playing you, or she cares not a whit for your feelings. Either way, your best course of action, IMHO, is to let her stew in her own juices for a while. Go NC. Don't call, don't email, don't correspond at all. Contact is now 100% up to her. I totally agree...there is no excuse to hang up on a person. If you are argueing and you are done with it then you say I'm done we'll talk this out later...good bye and hang up at least. But to just hang up is VERY rude. Let her come back to you and apologize.. Link to post Share on other sites
nightsailing Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 glittergurl has a point. for some couples, it's just part of the "norm" in their relationship. generally speaking, i consider hanging up to be rude and disrespectful...unless the person is cursing or yelling and being unreasonable. no one should have to tolerate verbal abuse. i personally don't appreciate being hung up on. it would bother me and i wouldn't be the one trying to call back. don't play her game...just go about your life. there are more tactful ways to tell one another that a "mental break" is needed. Link to post Share on other sites
Lil Honey Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 Like Reluctant Romeo, I think what was being said is important - and even the tone of what was said. Blueman himself said that he hates when a woman does that, which indicates to me that it has happened to him more than this one time. Everyone makes mistakes. She made a mistake of overreacting to something that was said. IF what was said was misunderstood in some way, she should apologize. Link to post Share on other sites
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