Woggle Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 We have only been datinf for 3 months but it feels like she is the woman I have wanted my whole entire life. She brought up the M word first and now I am sure that I want to take this step. Is it too soon or is it right. We can set the date for next June so we can plan the wedding and get to know each other better. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Lets see.. she is in her 40's .. never been married.... wants kids...clocks a ticking.. She will say yes and won't want to wait long.. You can married by the weekend... Give it some time woggle.. atleast another 3 months... Link to post Share on other sites
Shana Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Try.. give it another years and .5! Don't do it, too soon, you really know nothing about eachother. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 We have only been datinf for 3 months but it feels like she is the woman I have wanted my whole entire life. She brought up the M word first and now I am sure that I want to take this step. Is it too soon or is it right. We can set the date for next June so we can plan the wedding and get to know each other better. Your "whole entire life" and you're what...26? Too young in my opinion. Did that other post sway you? You know the girl who's getting married? I didn't want to say anything on there but in my opinion, marrying before you're 30 is a BAD idea. That's just been my personal experience and also from observation. Most people don't really know who they are yet let alone what they really want in a mate. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 We have only been datinf for 3 months but it feels like she is the woman I have wanted my whole entire life. . WOGGLE...did you lose your testicles somewhere? check under the sofa, man. You know what my answer to your dumb question is... Give it some time woggle.. atleast another 3 months... Ahhh, yeah, A_C....try NEVER Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Your "whole entire life" and you're what...26? Too young in my opinion. Did that other post sway you? You know the girl who's getting married? I didn't want to say anything on there but in my opinion, marrying before you're 30 is a BAD idea. That's just been my personal experience and also from observation. Most people don't really know who they are yet let alone what they really want in a mate. I was married once before and that was a disaster. I am very mature for my age. I own my own home that is almost paid off and I am a manager at the company where I work. I have also traveled all over the world. Plus I pretty much raised myself and left home at 17. I grew up fast so I am ready for this. Plus she is 41 so I doubt she would be willing to wait 5 more years. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 I own my own home that is almost paid off and I am a manager at the company where I work. I have also traveled all over the world. These things woggle don't make you better marrying material.... come on.. There are a lot of people that have paid off homes that are divorced.. and being on your own since you were 17 didn't help your stay married in your first marriage did it ? 3 months is too quick.. 6-months to a year before peoples guards come down and the real person shows themselves.. How long did it take your 1st wife to show her true self ??? See you don't even know who your GF is yet.. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 I'm not doubting your mature for your age and you've had a lot of experiences BUT you're STILL not the same person you will be even 5 years from now. We change so much in our 20's. Ask anyone who is over 30 and see what they say. At 33 I would have never been interested in the same men I was at 26 and I was mature, had traveled, etc. etc. Your first failed marriage should tell you something. Didn't you think you were mature THEN...that you knew it was right THEN? And that couldn't have been that long ago. Have you thought about when you're 35 and she's what over 50? That's a HUGE difference! She'll be going through menopause when you're in your prime. And the fact that she wants to have a baby and is already bringing up marriage...well, what can I say? Who said anything about waiting 5 more years? I'd wait ONE more year...because at your age, by next year you may want something totally different! That's normal when you're in your 20's...no reflection on you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 That is why I will schedule the wedding for next june. People change in their 30s and 40 as well. I will be 27 this december so that is only 3 years away from 30. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 I will schedule the wedding " I " ... Hummmmm do you realize that there is another person going to be in the marriage and also the decision as to when ? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 That is why I will schedule the wedding for next june. People change in their 30s and 40 as well. I will be 27 this december so that is only 3 years away from 30. dude...not only did you misplace your testicles but now you've lost your mind! Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 I would wait your still in that love sick phase and franly you have been through a lot. You were so so bitter when you first came here and that has change so fast, that I think you need to wait and let things settle and let the love high wear off before you make any major decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 dude...not only did you misplace your testicles but now you've lost your mind! The reason I want to marry her is that I don't have to sacrifice my balls to marry her. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 That is why I will schedule the wedding for next june. People change in their 30s and 40 as well. I will be 27 this december so that is only 3 years away from 30. Do what you want but believe me even those 3 years make a difference. Yes, people change in their 30's and 40's BUT most of us REALLY know who we are by then and what to look for not look for in a mate. This is just my opinion. I just don't happen to believe that at your age you really know yet. Look, don't be mad but I'd give this 5 years at the MOST. And that's whether you're married or not married to her. Good luck...hope you save all these posts. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 The reason I want to marry her is that I don't have to sacrifice my balls to marry her. Now, there's a nice healthy foundation for a marriage! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Now, there's a nice healthy foundation for a marriage! If you saw some of my posts when I first joined you would understand what he meant. If you saw the 2 of us together I think your view would be different. My father who is very anti-marriage thinks I should do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Oh, I'm sure you're perfectly adorable together...get along great, etc. Just curious, why is your father for it? Well, if you were my son (and you're practically young enough to be) I'd beg you to not do it. I don't think it has much chance for success. If you were my son, I'd tell you to not propose. Be with her a year and look at it again later. Hate to see you on here posting that you've made a mistake and should have listened! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Oh, I'm sure you're perfectly adorable together...get along great, etc. Just curious, why is your father for it? Well, if you were my son (and you're practically young enough to be) I'd beg you to not do it. I don't think it has much chance for success. If you were my son, I'd tell you to not propose. Be with her a year and look at it again later. Hate to see you on here posting that you've made a mistake and should have listened! My father says that we are perfect for each other and he is still bitter from the divorce from my mother 15 years ago and vows never to remarry. Everybody I know likes her. This just seems like a once in a chance lifetime to find real love. If somebody could have an affect on a man as bitter as I was she must be great. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 My father says that we are perfect for each other and he is still bitter from the divorce from my mother 15 years ago and vows never to remarry. Everybody I know likes her. This just seems like a once in a chance lifetime to find real love. If somebody could have an affect on a man as bitter as I was she must be great. Misery loves company... your dad sees you being happy all the time and knows that if you marry her that it will fail and you will be back at miserable again where he wants you..So he isn't alone in his misery about love Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted October 27, 2005 Author Share Posted October 27, 2005 Misery loves company... your dad sees you being happy all the time and knows that if you marry her that it will fail and you will be back at miserable again where he wants you..So he isn't alone in his misery about love I highly doubt that. If you knew my mother you would understand why my father is bitter but he wants me to be happy. He never liked my ex wife and now I know why so I trust his instincts. Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 If she is that great and pefect for you waiting a year to make sure won't ruin anything. Take you time. Do you really want a second divorce? Won't it be better to take a little extra time. How about living together and take a vacation together first to see how you two do 24/7 then talk about living together. then see. If your bond if so strong time won't kill it. Are you ready to have children? Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Art, that's a S-T-R-E-T-C-H!!!!! I doubt his father wants him to be unhappy. I have nothing more to say about this. I'm sure she's very likable. That's not the issue. You can like someone even LOVE them and it still doesn't mean you should marry them...but whatever. You'll find out for yourself. One day you'll be telling someone else on here the same damn things I'm telling you now but no one could have told me anything either...had to find out for myself. Had to make my own mistakes...and this IS a mistake. This should remain in the category of a love affair NOT a marriage. And why did you post your thread in the form of a question if you've already made up your mind anyway? Why didn't you just make it as an announcement since you've already made up your mind from the sound of it. Just the fact that you ASKED and didn't announce tells me a lot. When you KNOW you don't need to ask others. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Art, that's a S-T-R-E-T-C-H!!!!! I don't think so..and if I thought it was a stretch I wouldn't have posted it.. Woogle.. You just need to wait and see where it all is going to pan out Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Coco Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 You obviously didn't think it was a stretch since you posted it...duh! I'M saying it's a stretch! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 27, 2005 Share Posted October 27, 2005 Woogle.. You just need to wait and see where it all is going to pan out I agree A_C....and WOGGLE also needs to understand that almost everyone is going to look at him and his 15-year-older bride as a extreme mismatched couple. most people do not accept couples where the woman is much older than the man. they will view him as having something wrong with himself, as in why could not he attract someone his own age or younger... Its acceptable for a 50 yr old man to be with a 35 yr old woman but its not acceptable the other way around. people will always be talking behind their backs and making fun of them... Link to post Share on other sites
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