jason4233 Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 In feb. my wife went to texas for 2 weeks and while she was there she sleep with a guy she had just meet. I thought something was worng when she came home but she didnt say anything. well a few days later i decided to check her e-mail (i know this is worng) but i was curious well in her e-mail i found out that she did in fact sleep with this guy and they were still keeping in touch. after a few days of talking and tring to think things through i decided to stay with her. weve been married for 5 years and we have two kids. well its been 8 months and im still jealous and now she is gone for 3 weeks in califonia. (her job requires her to travel form time to time) so being the jealous person i am i have been calling her about two times a day but she doesnt want to talk very long on the phone she is either to tired or has to get back to work. when were togeather she acts like me and the kids are everything but when she leaves she acts like shes single and the real question im tring to ask is what should i do and how do i stop being jealous? thanks Mr. Jealous Link to post Share on other sites
Painwraith Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 confront her about it and do it now. Dont say you have read the emails see what she says first, if she lies to you then haul her up on it. You cannot trust this woman, she will continue doing this and you will slowly go insane if you let this continue. Make sure the kids are at a friends or grandparents when you do this. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted October 28, 2005 Share Posted October 28, 2005 Too jealous?!?! No, too jealous is when your wife goes out with the girls and you're jealous. Too jealous is when other guys look at her and you're jealous. Or when she works with an attractive man without flirting or anything and you're jealous. You don't trust your wife due to her actions in the recent past. She is a cheater, how can you not be jealous? Does she regret what she did? Did she explain why? Did you cause it indirectly by being abusive or negligent or cheating or lying to her? Did she promise she'd never do it again? I think you need mariage counselling and some more proofs on her part that she won't do it again. She has to have a reason to NOT repeat it. If you simply caught her and decided to stay with her then no progress has been done. You can't continue your mariage with the same feelings and actions. You have to go back to the point that made her cheat on you and realize why and how that happened. Then you need to work on your marriage and make sure it NEVER happens again. You must know that she feels terrible about it and wouldn't do anything to jeopardize your marriage again. Checking up on her is the worst way to provide faithfulness and the least guarancy to assure you that she won't do it. She can always sneak out and lie. You have to be sure that she doesn't want to do it again. There is nothing wrong with reading the cheater's emails. She didn't deserve any better treatment. But you probably did. Not only that you have the right to do it, but she must know that you WILL do it in the future as she gave you no reason to trust her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jason4233 Posted October 29, 2005 Author Share Posted October 29, 2005 thanks for all that i will try it and see. i asked her about counselling but she doesnt want to go. So i talked to her mom and she said the reason she didnt want to go to counselling is that she was affraid of what truths would come out but i have no idea what that means. And when i try to talk to her she turns it into a fight and it ends up being my fault. But thanks again for the time you took to resond. Link to post Share on other sites
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